Post # 1
I know everyone has a different opinion on this and I should ask how ever many I feel i should but I do not want to have a circus with too many people. We already know it will be uneven as I have more girls than guys. My FIs ideal number is 5 and 5 but I’ve forced him to have 6. Now I’m looking to have 7.
Am I going overboard?
Post # 3
@PatientBride: They say proper eitiquette is one for every 50guests. I’m really into etiquette but not on this one. I say have as many as you want or as few as you want, so long as you are true to your choosing. What I mean is, pick the people in your bridal party with thought and love; you can’t go wrong.
Post # 5
I would say 5 would be my top number.
Post # 6
@PatientBride: Not necessarily… but keep in mind that you have to pay for each of their hair and make-up and anything else that you would pay for for them. And you are going to have to please all of them to some extent with your dress selection (color, style, price point). So that is my advice to keep in mind.
Besides, don’t you want to have some friends invited who are not in the bridal party? Like to sit on your side at the ceremony?
And I don’t think you have to keep it even. You shouldn’t make FI pick people who arent his best friends for life just so the two of you have matching amounts. My FI may actually have more GMs than I have BMs!
Post # 7
@PatientBride: as you mention it is a personal choice. For me, I need to have an equal number of girls to guys, and an even number of girls (so my pictures look balanced). Not everyone understands this, or get this, but for me, this is important.
Do all of them have to have the role of bridesmaids? Obviously you don’t want to “demote” a maid you’ve already ask, but can the new one you’re considering have an important role on the wedding day, but not as a bridesmaids? Possibly say a reading during the ceremony or a poem during the reception.
Also remember, the more women you ask, the more schedules you have to coordinate when it comes time to dress fittings, and for meetings (e.g. bridal shower). If you can’t cooridinate schedules, then you have to take time out of your day to ensure that you go to several different appointments, or speak to several women who couldn’t make the meetings.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
I think the main thing to remember when picking bridesmaids is that you don’t have to have every cousin and friend in the mix. They’re going to be at your big day anyway and share in the joy regardless. Only choose people like sisters (if you get along of course) and real best friends. If you’re comfortable with 7 then go with 7, but remember that for every bridesmaid you have your groom has to have a groomsman and you don’t want to stick him in being in an awkward situation inviting someone to be a groomsman that he really doesn’t want just to ‘match’ you.
EDIT: By ‘have to have a groomsman to match’ I mean my own opinion; I realize some people mismatch numbers of bridesmaids to groomsmen and that’s fine, too, but it sounds from OP’s post that this isn’t the case. Just clarifying. 🙂
Post # 9
I say 9-10+ is getting a bit ridiculous unless you have hundreds of guests. I cant imagine getting them all together to agree on things. But if you have a lot of true, close friends then do what you want. It is your day!! I have 6 and they have been great so far.
Post # 10
Have as many as you want – but would you be okay with your FI having a different amount?
Post # 11
I think three is the ideal number, 5 is getting up there and more than 5 is a lot. To me it’s just a lot of people to manage.
But if you just have that many people who your close to count yourself as blessed and go for it!
Post # 12
@nawella: I have to pay for their hair and makeup? While the thought crossed my mind as something I wanted to do for for best ladies because I wanted to have someone come to my house with all the girls and have a fun-filled morning, I didn’t think it was something I had to do!
I have been in 5 weddings and I always paid for my own hair and makeup. I feel cheated! Haha!
I have a large family and many friends. I have drawn the line but there is a close friend that I am debating on. We have become great friends over the last few years. I tell her more than any one else. She is a few years older, married with children, and I felt like asking her would be more of a burden on her but I can’t imagine not including her! My only other option would be to cut some of my close family but I wouldn’t feel right! Ugh!
Post # 14
@mrs-to-be-2014: I totally get your whole thing about being balanced and even— I am little OCD like that with things but I think an extra girl Is OK since all the men will wear the same suit , I’ll be the only one in white so pics will look somewhat balanced (Weird, I know)
Since FI and I have a large family, we have plenty of people to chose from for readings. We actually have more than we need! :/
Post # 15
I think more than 5 looks like a circus. I can’t subscribe to the 1 every 50 people rule. Who makes that stuff up? Someone in the wedding profession who stands to make money off of it? Probably. Who is the census taker that says… ohhh… 300 people, we need 6 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen.
People also have to remember that ridiculously large wedding parties means the guests are watching people walk down an aisle for 5 or 6 minutes. I mean seriously, how much can you watch people walk and not get sick of watching people walk?
I had 4 (my MOH and 3 bridesmaids) and I also didn’t have any of them walk down the aisle. The only ones down the aisle were my flower girls and me.
Post # 16
Whatever pleases you. As for myself I have 10 girls standing with me and I wouldn’t have it any other way!!!