Post # 1
HELP?!! i have 10 bridesmaids, well 9 now because i just kicked one out!!! How many is too many? i have a huge family so there was really no way around it, and my FI has 4 sisters so they all had to be included in the wedding. Im fustrated because it is impossible to get things together or decide on anything…esp a dress. Would i be wrong to kick some people out? they are ruining my wedding planning experince!!
Post # 3
it all depends on you, your family, the type of wedding your having, and how many people will be at the wedding
But i say, if you think it’s too many or it’s too overwhelming, than cut it down now before it gets too late.
Have you already asked all 9 to be in your bridal party? You can’t really uninvite someone from your bridal party without hurting their feelings and I’m sure that’s not what you want to do. Maybe, consider asking the additional people to take on other roles/responsibilites for the wedding (greeter, reader, etc)
You don’t need anyone around you that day that is going to stress you out unnecessarily or not be completely supportive of you.
Post # 4
If you have already asked them you are probably stuck. Otherwise people’s feelings will be hurt. I would choose a designer a color and a fabric and let the gals pick out their own dresses. I also wouldn’t take the whole crew dress shopping with you for your dress. That could be a nightmare! 😉 I wish you luck with your many bridesmaids. Look on the brightside some bees on her have lamented that they had no bridesmaids because everyone turned them down. You are very loved.
Post # 5
If I had a huge family like that I would just stick with family.
I am only having 2 friends and I am having 7 BMs, I almost had to have 8, but I had to draw the line, I didn’t ask te 8th girl, I just knew that 7 was my limit. e is having 6 GM.
My BMS are
I wouldn’t uninvite someone i asked
remember more BMs is more $$ for you
Post # 6
I think any more than 5 is too many- if your family is big just do sisters.. its too hard/expensive to have that many people!
Post # 7
Big bridal parties can be a hassle, but they look good in pictures! If you have already asked them, just live with it. If not, stick to sisters. As far as dresses or whatever, just pick them with one or two of the girls. You should be mindful of everyone’s budget, but as a BM you just go with what the bride wants. Do not let anyone ruin for you–ignore the pettiness and cattiness.
Post # 8
i only wanted 3 but i ended up with 7 because of Family politics and stuff!
Post # 9
Thanks ladies! at this point i understand im kinda stuck….but my advice to any newly engaged ladies….KEEP IT SIMPLE AND SMALL! i swear these girls are about to drive me nuts!!