Post # 1
FI and I are meeting with our officiant this coming weekend, and we wanted to have a rough layout in mind for the ceremony before we meet with him.
Since neither of us have ever done this before, I was hoping to get some advice from all of you about how this typically works – do FI and I develop the layout of the ceremony and tell the minster what we want him to say? Or do we let him do some of that himself? We’re not getting married in a church, but we are having the minister from FI’s family church out of state come down to marry us…and we have some notes about what we want to tell him for our meeting – i.e., not a super religious ceremony.
We’ve also started looking for readings that we can either have the officiant, or some of our family/friends read at the ceremony…for a ~30 minute ceremony, about how many readings should we try to use? I don’t want the ceremony to feel like a classroom lecture or something, where people keep getting up and speaking to everyone…but I would like to personalize it by having some readings that reflect us as a couple.
Thanks for the help!
Post # 3
We gave our officiant our order of ceremony services. We also had two readings. 1 is religious (from the Bible) and the other is a poem. Hope this helps!! Here is what we did for our ceremony…
First Reading: 1 Corinthians, Chapter 13
Marriage Vows by Bride and Groom
Second Reading: Marriage Means Being In Love For The Rest of Your Life by Chris Ardis
Blessing and Exchange of Rings
Jumping of the Broom by Bride and Groom
Post # 4
Idk what happened! Sorry it came out that way! LOL
Post # 5
I am picking 2 readings. One from the Bible and another. I have a couple I like and will go over them with FI.
Post # 6
I don’t know how your minister will do things. Everyone has their own way of setting it up for couples. But when I meet with a couple I do not expect them to have anything ready. However, I always welcome any and all insight that the couple can give me for their ceremony. Most of the time I show them examples of all the ceremony parts and the outline structure of the ceremony.
I have also had couples that arrived with full ceremonies pre-written. It was wonderful, because it was what they wanted. It is all about the couple being happy on their wedding day.
Most couples I work with have two or three readings in their ceremony.
Best wishes for finding your special words.
Post # 7
We are having 3 readings total.
Post # 8
This may be too late for you, but in case others are interested…we also chose 2. I wanted one from the bible and one that was more abut relationships in general. We also added a ring warming ceremony and the unity sand ceremony. I’m pretty sure we came in under 30 minutes for our ceremony, and it was beautiful. For music, we had the processional. a piece sang during the ring warming ceremony, a little improvised music during the sand ceremony, and then the recessional.
Post # 9
We had two readings from the bible. We had three chosen and the minister determined the final two. This was the layout of our ceremony:
Declaration of Intent
Singing of Documents
Signs of Affirmation
It was about 20 minutes. Our minister had given us some example ceremonies and a book at our initial meeting and then I put it together from there to personalize it and gave her what we wanted.
Just saw you posted this a while ago, hope the meeting went well.
Post # 10
We are having 2 readings 1 poem and 1 from the bible (you would never really guess it tho).