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Inspired by various other posts, I'm curious to see what is the general trend nowadays (at least in the hive)? Please vote!
"Children" encompass biological children regardless of means of conception, surrogate children, and foster or adopted children. "Plan" refers to what you would like to happen regardless of current constraints (e.g. apt too small now).
Two would be perfect for us! And we both come from 2 children families!
Three or four. I loved growing up with four siblings around me. It was loud and complicated and busy, but never lonely. MinMan is one of two, and now he's keen on the idea of a big family after spending time with mine! :)
I've always planned for two but with this first pregnancy's all-day everyday morning sickness I've said several times that this one child may be it for us.
Just one, unless we have twins. I'm already 35 and we have yet to get started. I really only have the energy for one.
3 preferably - but only if I can squeeze them in in the next 5 years (I want to be done birthing babies in my early 30's)! We are both from 3 kid families and were happy with having 2 sibs a piece!
As many as we can afford. Ideally I'd love to be a stay at home mom (at least part time) and have 4 or 5 kids, but at least in the next few years hubs and I wil bothl need to work. Probably we'll end up with 2 or 3 kids.
We'd like to have three; maybe four if we had three girls. :) Even though pregnancy was no picnic, I've enjoyed our daughter so much I would gladly go through that a million times again!
I would never want just one because I think there are valuable life lessons to be learned by having a sibling. I think I would adopt a second child before just having one.
Ideally we would have two kids. This is a good easy number.
However, we both come from larger families and I would LOVE to have three (or even more) kids but the costs really start adding up. We would have to look for a 4 bedroom house if each needed their own room, harder to fit in a standard vehicle (minivan needed), more expensive to travel (5 people don't fit well in a hotel room), etc etc. I think in the end it will depend on where our lives are after having two.
I think if money wasn't a factor, and I could pick the gender we'd have 4. Two of each. I have a sister, and so does DH. I really appreciate the relationship of a same sex sibling, and he thinks it's great to have the opposite.
Realistically, we'll probably have two.
I think, I'm the odd man out. I voted 4. My husband and I want a big family. I think 4 is a good number but for now we're working on one.
I'd say 2. Only children always seem a bit more sad without a sibling, but I don't want us to get outnumbered either :) Plus, I don't really want to even start thinking about kids until I'm 30 and I'm not sure how many I'd have time for if I wanted to space them a little.
Neither of us had siblings and we both wished we had. I have one son now and plan on having a total of 2 or 3.
I want to find that balance of a full home without having any kids feeling lost or over looked.
He wants 6. I am thinking something in the middle and 3 seems more reasonable. We are on our way now!
Definitely at least 2. We are going to TTC next summer! After we have 2 (I come from a family of 5 kids), we'll reevaluate (i.e., if there are 2 same sex kids, we may try for a 3rd hoping to get the other), but I'd be OK with 2 boys or even 2 girls. We're buying a bigger house in the burbs to accomodate for at least 2, poss. 3.
Definitely two, and sometimes I think three. I think J really likes two though so we'll see. I have two sisters and he was an only child until he was 10 or so at which point he gained a step sister. I think that definitely influences things.
Realistically, three, but I think I'd love four if we could afford it and I thought I could give each child enough attention. I grew up with two siblings, and I've always wanted a loud house full of people, so two kids just isn't enough for me!
We always said 2 but lately I've been thinking maybe 3. DH is an only child (and I would never purposely do that to my child after knowing him) and I'm the eldest of 3 girls. Since we're at least a year away from TTCing, I think I'll keep my "maybe 3 would be nice" thoughts to myself and see how I go with having a baby in the first place :)
I want two and he wants three. We will see what happens. He agreed that since I have to do the whole 9 months carrying and the whole pushing the child out of me thing, I can have the final say. Hahaha. His mother had three and she told me that God gave her two hands and maybe she should have seen that as a sign. Three little ones were crazy!
We have talked about it before and I think we'd both like 3-4 but that's easy to say before we've even had one! 
I grew up as the youngest of three and he is the oldest of four so both seem ideal to us - two would be too few I think...but who knows what's in store!
hopefully ZERO. but if by some fluke of nature i get preggers despite me trying NOT to i have to have at least 2. but i am shooting for none!
We've decided that we'll consider after each child if we can responsibly parent another. My guess is 2-4.
I say two..unoless we have twins the first time...then one more.
probably just 1, but maybe 2. Def not more than 2 though! I think more than 2 gets difficult to plan around, and honestly, I can't imagine facing more than 2 college tuition bills.
We probably won't have any...if we do decide to, we'll adopt because I think it's a better idea than having a "fresh" one (no offense to the ladies who like having bio. children!).
We're another zero. I'm the oldest of two, he's the oldest of three but neither of us are patient or nurturing. We'll be a great aunt and uncle and I'm looking forward to that, but I've never wanted kids of my own and he's made it pretty clear that while he might want kids in theory, he doesn't want to actually have to do any work to raise them.
My FI and I have agreed upon two. Like previous posters, we both come from two-child families and feel it works well for our lifestyle and our personal desires. We're also planning on waiting for a few years (possibly even five years) after we're married to TTC.
I voted for three, but FI and I have slightly differing opinions on this. He has one sibling, and I have two, so he is for having two kids and I would love to have three, both opinions based on our own families. However, I am also very for fostering or adopting. I think that maybe we will have one or two of our own, and then foster or adopt later on.
This also depends on our finances and, well, babies aren't always planned. I don't think my parents "planned" on having any of us kids, lol. I was born when my parents were in their mid-thirties and thought they were done having kids, so I like to call myself a "pleasant surprise", but I know I was the product of forgetting the birth control one time and my mom definitely had an "Oh sh**" moment lol. I also know that neither of my parents would take it back for the world. For me, it is enough that we both want children, as for how many, that is more of a "wait and see" for us and we are okay with that :)
I voted for four or more :-). We don't have a set number picked out, but we know we want some of our own, some adopted, some foster kids, and our home open in general to kids who need a safe place. It'll probably be a little bit, but that's the plan :-)
P.S. A funny story about this: Before we even started dating, we were playing a game called "would you rather..." (you take turns reading these ridiculous questions and the other players have to come to a consensus about which option they'd prefer). At one point we got the question "Would you rather have one kid or twelve". My husband said one and I said twelve.....but then I talked him into twelve ;-). We still joke about it (but he always adds, "Just don't REALLY talk me into twelve!")
Planning on two and hoping a girl and a boy. Maybe have 3 if I have two girls or two boys at first.
For awhile I wasn't sure if I even wanted children ... then I met my Fi. Even though we were just friends, I knew he would be my future babies' Daddy I voted for 2, but I'm now open for 3. We'll see ... we're not even TTC yet.
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