how many did u invite to ur bridal shower ?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

My mom and FMIL are throwing the shower and they’re inviting 65-70. FI has a big Italian family, so FMIL is inviting all the women on their side. My mom is mostly doing the same but no kids. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It really depends on who is throwing it and where it’s being held! If you live in a different place from close friends and/or family, it’s not uncommon to have two showers.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had/am having 3 showers (stepmom threw one for my dad’s family, mom is throwing one for her family, and FMIL is having one for her family) so basically all the women coming to the wedding were invited.  My friends were only invited to the one my mom is having just because that family is a little smaller.  The numbers worked out to 20, 20 and 15 at each shower.

One thing I wondered about was if girlfriends of male friends/family should be invited to the shower.  My stepmom invited my cousin’s girlfriend because I know her pretty well, but I don’t think my mom invited my other cousin’s GF because I literally met her for the first time a month ago, although she will be coming to the wedding.  Not sure if that applies to you, but it’s something to consider.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I invited about 30 people. It was basically all the local (and semi-local) females that were invited to the wedding.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I invited 50 people. Our moms could easily have invited more if I hadn’t set the cap at 50. I spoke with my MOH (who hosted the shower) and asked what she was comfortable with before inviting anyone.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I invited about 20 and 11 came. I wanted smaller, but it was just fine. I had aunts, SIL, moms, grandmas, and a few cousins and friends that were very close.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@isabelle_86:  i had about 35-40 people. I only invited family and very close friends.

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We invited family friends, spouses of DH close friends, family from both sides, and my best friends. I think the invite list was around 65-70 people and we had about 30 people actually attend.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We had a wedding shower so both genders could come, we had a big group like 17 people.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I invited 27

Post # 16
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Helper bee

@isabelle_86:  

 

Normally you invite those people who are your friends, and friends of both mothers/families.

 

When my daughter got married, the bridal tea was over 200.  

Expect about 1/2 of those invited to come.

The biggest rule is that you never invite anyone to a bridal tea or bridal shower if they are not also invited to the wedding.  

The number also determines the type: tea or shower

Large guest list?—-it’s better to do a 2-4 bridal tea where guests may come and go and do it in a venue conducive for that number of people.

If you are truly expecting 20-30 people, a shower is better and more intimate; guests come and stay for the duration and play games, etc.

 

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