(Closed) How many did you invite?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I think you need to cut back your guest list.  It’s true that some people won’t come.. but I wouldn’t risk having more people than can physically fit in your chapel.  And I would avoid inviting people to just the reception.. that will result in hurt feelings.

Just to give you an idea of response rates we invited 168 and we had 145 show up.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Im in the same boat!! We have 300 invited but can really only fit less than 250 comfortably. My cousin said they invited 250 people and had only 200 show. 

I don’t think you will need a separate RSVP though.. if people say they are attending they will be at both. I know this sounds obvious but make sure you are taking the bridal party out of your numbers because they will be standing during the ceremony

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We invited 160 people, had 134 accepts, 26 declines… not sure how many no-shows though.  I’m sure of only 2 people not showing up (due to illness). 

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, our wedding is out of town for about 70% of our invitees.  So we automatically assumed we’d get a lot of declines, which wasn’t a problem.  We wanted a smaller wedding, around 130 people (that’s small to us, considering how many people we know) so we invited about 160-165 and we’re at the exactly number we wanted.  However, my biggest stressor is considering who might not show up.  My FI’s brother got married 3 years ago, in their hometown, and several relatives who lived there and rsvp’d yes, didn’t show up.  I know this might sound bratty, but if they do that to us, I’ll have such a hard time forgiving them.  Certain people I’ll simly avoid for as long as possible because I sometimes have a hard time not saying something!  We have a couple people who say they’re coming, they are typically unreliable people and their plan is to drive the 3 hours there and drive 3 hours back right after the reception.  I just don’t see them showing up, and if they don’t I’ll be so PISSED. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

We invited 200, and 150 are coming. In our case, we knew some people wouldn’t be able to come (but invited them anyway), and most of the other declines are people who were invited “and guest” who will not be bringing a guest.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The “and guest” situation…  I didn’t invite my friends, the ones I know who don’t have sig others, with “and guest” and I’ve only had one of them say they’d like to bring someone.  i told her she could and that was that.

We’ve invited 116 people, but 90% of them are from out of state. (We’re getting married in my hometown which I haven’t lived for years and FH is not from there).  We’re expecting between 60-80 people.  Broad range, but it’s kind of hard to guess who will and who won’t make the trip.  We already had some OOT friends call after the STDs went out to let us know they wouldn’t make it (so we can bank on them) but  a couple other friends who we didn’t expect would make the trip have RSVP’d yes.

Only time will tell!  We’ve gotten 5 of 56 RSVPs back!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We have invited 465 and are expecting about 350 to show up. 

They say about 20% of your guest list is a no-show…more if it’s a destination wedding.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We have invited 465 and are expecting about 350 to show up. 

They say about 20% of your guest list is a no-show…more if it’s a destination wedding.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had invited 20 peope in total but only 17 people will be attending the wedding on Sunday. We just want a nice, simple intimate wedding with just mostly family attending as were not into crowds or inviting a bunch of people who were not fond of just for the sake of it.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

due to funds we had to cut out list from 150 to 80 it totally blows but money is hard to come by everyone knows this so what were doing is a joint pre wedding get together and mainly inviting those who cant be on the list

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