Post # 1
I’m just curious because it seems a lot of brides go out of their way to find a unique cute way to propose to their BMs.. while i respect those who go this route.. i’m not sure if anyone can pls explain to me the need to make a big event out of asking the BMs to join bridal party
Post # 3
I just asked them straight up, because asking them in a cute card or with a gift just didn’t seem like “me”.
Post # 4
I just asked. Maid/Matron of Honor, I didn’t even have to ask, really…just mentioned in passing, like, “Oh, and of course you’ll be my MOH!” and she said she would. 🙂
Post # 5
I am actually quite wary of having unique cute proposals to BMs. There is a huge disparity in what people expect of their BMs–from “just be there on the day” to “come with me to meet with vendors, help with DIY projects, throw me a bachelorette party and a shower, and be my DOC.” If what you want is more than the minimum, talking it over with the prospective Bridesmaid or Best Man beforehand can save you a lot of grief later.
When I called my daughter and asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, she actually asked me what the duties were. And I respected that. She lives the other side of the country from me, and is still a student. Thus, she was being careful not to set me up for disappointment if what I wanted was more than what she could do. When I explained that I wanted help only on the day of, she was thrilled to say yes.
Post # 6
Errrr I didn’t propose, but I sent them cards because they live out of state and I didn’t know when I’d see them again…..
Post # 7
I called the girls…. I don’t see the use in going overboard…
Post # 8
I was so excited I didn’t even think to do anything cute. Just called them up on the phone!
Post # 9
Plain old phone call here. I never even heard of ‘proposing’ to the bridesmaids until I started wedding planning.
Post # 10
Yea, I didn’t really ask either. The three girls in my wedding kind of just knew that they would be my MOH/BMs.
Post # 11
I didn’t have to ask at all – my three ladies just knew!
Post # 12
I’m not engaged yet, but I think it would be nice to ask my potential BMs in a cute way. To me, it’s something fun, crafty and wedding related you can do before you’ve made any actual wedding plans for people who I know would appreciate it. A very pretty beginning to the wedding planning process, if you will. That being said, I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man twice and once I was asked over the phone, and once in person, and it was special to me without a card or a gift, because I knew the sentiment was genuine. That’s all that matters, anything else is just fun!
Post # 13
Huh??? I’ve never heard of this before. Interesting concept, but not for me.
Post # 14
I just asked. I have 2 bridesmaids, my Future Sister-In-Law I asked. My sister I basiclly just said “you’re my MOH!” and didn’t really ask per-say.
Post # 15
i had never heard of making a big to do before i asked mine. i’m glad because i might have felt like i needed to.
Post # 16
I just asked all of them. I was super close with all of them and they all knew they would be in it anyway. It would have been nice to do it in a fancy way but I figured asking them to be in it was special enough in itself. I mean, I did get them two sets of gifts a piece throughout the process. Shower hostess gifts and bridesmaid gifts closer to the wedding.