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I think non-alcoholic drinks and that is it. Music is probably best performed completely sober. Though, I am not sure how easy it will be for the bartenders to police this if you are having a large or medium size wedding.
Some background - 60 guests, island wedding (not beach though) , reggae band
None. Non-alcoholic drinks are appropriate and necessary since they need to stay hydrated, but hosting alcohol for people working at your wedding is kind of weird for them to expect.
But don't be shocked if this turns out to be normal... my musician friends (who work the bar scene more than the wedding scene) all get free food and drinks from their venues. Of course, they also get paid about $50 per person for three hours of performing before tips, so it's probably part of the compensation. ;) I'm sure you're paying your band better than that!
The more booze for the band the better!! I mean, if you want them busting out R. Kelly, you better liquor them up first. Let the band have some fun - lighten up bridezilla!!!
I agree that the band is being paid to play, not to drink. And saranightly, I really don't think its polite or appropriate to be calling someone a 'bridezilla' over whether or not they serve the band alcohol. Let's keep it friendly here. :)
It's usually neccasary to feed vendors so they can take the shortest possible break - if they don't bring food, they'd need to run out and get something, which is just not acceptable at a wedding. That being said, I've met DJs and bands who don't get fed, and instead bring a protein bar and a bottle of water and power through it. But it's a nice thing to do, I guess, and everyone deserves a small break during the day.
As for alcohol... some bands play best when they've had a bit to drink. You may want to talk to the band and see what they usually do... but are you having an open bar? And just not counting the band members as people to pay for the open bar? Couldn't they still go to the bar and ask for a drink - are they bartenders going to be told not to serve the band?
Starcharades - I was just kidding with melissabegins! She is my friend and I am a bridesmaid in her wedding :)
I would offer 2 drinks per person!
That is what we are doing for our DJ!
I don't think they should be able to go up to the bar but I think they should be offered a drink or two!
Oh okay. Sorry saranightly. I didn't realize you two were friends. I'm just a bit touchy when it comes to that word since it gets thrown around so much. Best of luck with the wedding!
:-) w/out Saranightly I may really let out the 'zilla inside me.
We figured that the band would set up while we were eating dinner, and the DJ would be working then. Then the band would eat, and the dj would continue to do the dinner service. then when the party started, the DJ would eat, and the band would play. So everyone is fed and happy. But the booze - that was my big question. I'd never considered it til now!
I think we'll tell our WC that they can be offered some drinks, but shouldn't be going up to the bar etc. If being drunk is a condition that they need to play, I say they should be prepared, haha.
Thank you for your insights folks!
I don't really think a drink or two for the band is unreasonable. Should they be allowed to get plastered on your dime while they are working? Ummm, no. But I wouldn't have a problem telling the bartender or whoever that the band members are allowed an alcoholic drink, but I'd tell them it's a two drink MAX.
haha yeah i wasn't necessarily opposed, but just had never thought about it b4!
I need to find a job where i can have a few drinks on the house while working 
I think it is nice if they have the option of having a drink if they like. I would maybe just let the bartender know that while you don't mind them having a few drinks, if they notice that the band members are overdoing it that maybe they need to cut them off. I learned the hard way from my wedding, my band had WAY too much to drink and were slurring like crazy. Our videographer even told us at one point that maybe we should get one of the guys off the stage, lol...it really was that bad! :)
I think that offering your band beer/wine during their dinner is perfectly appropriate. We got asked this by our coordinator as well and gave the green light. I can't tell you how appreciative the band was that we allowed them to drink. Who doesn't want to have one or two cocktails at a party? My view was that, yes, we are paying them to play. But we are also hiring them to host a kick -ass party....we wanted them to be happy, loose, and have a good time. If they have a good time, your guests have a good time. They are professionals and I think they can judge how much to drink is appropriate.
Is it in their contract that they have to have alcoholic beverages? I would say not to pay for their drinks and even request that they dont drink (unless its a beer or glass of wine during dinner). I know bands can be pretty picky on what they eat and what time their break is but I havent heard about them being required to be served alcoholic drinks.
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Has anyone ever been asked this before from your wedding coordinator or venue? We were going thru and making sure everyone we've hired got a plated dinner last night, and we saw in the email from our coodinator the question about how much booze for the band. Is this normal? We are hiring them to play, feeding the band and their manager, and buying them a hotel room for the whole day / night to use to change / rest / whatever. I didn't think we supplied alcohol (and didn't think they would be drinking while hired to perform?). I get paid to come to work, but they don't buy me lunch and coffee every day. What are your thoughts? Has anyone ever had this come up? Would I be rude to tell them no booze? FH and I have NO idea what the rules are for this one.