Post # 1
OK, i don’t know if this really fits to etiquette-but this is the closest subject I could find.
So here is the problem: We are done with the wedding, have our pictures, which are very beautiful, and are now in the process of telling the photographer which pictures are supposed to be in our album. Husband and I agree on pretty much all except how many family photos should be in the album. We took staged pictures before the wedding with each family and he wants about 6 pictures of each family (so 12 total) in the album. This would mean each family has one spread in the album (spread is both sides when book is open).
I think this is way to much! First of all: I am not a big fan of staged pictures anyway, because they are.. well STAGED and awkward;) Also if I want a staged picture I can go to a photostudio and have it done. The thing is, that his parents are in 5 out of his 6 pictures that he picked-and they all stand in the same position. The only difference is that in one picture they add the brother, in one the grandpa, uncle and so on and on. I think this is just really awkward and unneccessary-why not put one in of the whole family? We are having about 100 pictures in the album, I don’t want to waste two spreads with the same old pictures of the same people!
Also: for each extra spread (and we do need extra spreads because the regular album only holds 60 pictures) it is an additional 100$.
Also: Both parents will get a parent album, which WILL include more family pictures of their own family. The pictures are already picked out-so it is really just about our own album.
I think one or maybe two staged pictures are enough and it would ruin the “flow” of the album if we would put two spreads of only family in.
Another thing: his parents do NOT want any pictures of themselves walking in, because they are “walking and looking in different directions” so this is also not an option.
Anyone have the same problem? This is probably an odd “problem” to have, but I am intersted in your opinion. And yes-I do like our families;)
Post # 3
At the very least, try to compress each family to only half a spread and choose combinations of photos with the greatest variety.
Post # 4
how about a 50/50 spread? Half the spread your family, half the spread his family.
Post # 5
That was my idea as well, but he really wants the whole spread with one family so that it matches:/ Ughh, it is just werird to have so many family pics IMO
Post # 6
I agree that it is too many. I like the 50/50 idea. So one spread shared, half each.
Post # 7
WHY does he want so many pictures? If it’s that he can’t decide, can you just print the extras off separately and frame them for his office? Or do a photo frame collage for a rec room/basement wall? That would run you more like $20-50 depending on photo size and how expensive of a frame you choose. Also, are there any that you want framed anyway that therefore don’t need to be in the album? (ie if they’re going to be in the same room as the album anyway..)
I would do two or maybe three of each families – one of the whole family, one of just either parents or immediate family, and then one bonus one, if necessary.
Honestly, most family members are more likely to see your parents’ albums anyway unless you guys are going to start hosting family events, so whatever pictures in there are for YOU, and the odds of you offending someone are slim to none. I don’t think any of my relatives have ever been to my apartment; we always just congregate at my parents’ place. And if you should host something someday, you can always ask your parents to bring their album along so more people can browse at the same time.
Post # 8
@starbuckslover: We have all the pictures on a CD, so we can print whichever picture we want later.I agree, his family will have an album too so what is the point…ugh.. I will just talk him into the one spread, it’s time to stand up and be a man;)
Post # 9
I am on your side.. the fewer “staged” the better. I am not a fan of our family photos either b/c they are just us standing in a row.. I hate that. I did my own album and used a bunch of them and honestly they are the pages that get passed over very quickly when people look at my album!! LOL Except of course my gram and other relatives (bc they are in them obvi)…soooo I side with you!
Post # 10
I’d share the spread between both sides.
Post # 11
I’ve got one spread, 6 pictures, 3 of only his family + 1 of both our parents. Hated the posed ones, couldn’t imagine anymore space for them! Maybe you could talk to him about having that space for more candid photos of your family, which are really more special?
Here’s how I did mine by the way (pages 36/37), I’m looking for advice as well! http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/wedding-album-layouts-advice-please#axzz2OZpR8Suf