Post # 1
Last night I was out for my friend’s hen party and it was really interesting to see her with her different friendship groups – there was a group whom she’d been at school with and there was us who were her work friends. We all met her at different stages of life and know her in different ways….
So I would like to know how many friendships have you made, kept and maintained in the different stages of your life – by maintained I mean that you will make a conscious effort to spend time with them outside your usual place of knowing them – doesn’t matter if you rarely see them because of distance.
You can either answer 0-10, 10-20 etc. or you can answer in life stages – elementary/primary school, high school/secondary school etc.
here goes for me:
Primary School – 0
Secondary School – 0
College – 2
Universty – 1
Adult life/Working – 5 (6 if I count DH)
ok this sounds like I am a complete Billy no mates. I’m not….it’s just this is the number of people that I will make plans to see outside of where I usually see them.
Post # 3
@FromA2B2013: Interesting. I always say friendships will either evolve or end. I’ve ended many, some very recently. I take quality over quantity. Let’s see:
Elementary school: 1
High school: same friend as above
Work: 8 (seems I get along best with work folks)
Post # 4
We’re in the middle of finalising our guest list at the moment, so I’ve been thinking about this topic quite a bit lately.
I’m like you, OP – very few friendships remaining from before university. FI, on the other hand, has maintained more friendships from childhood/adolescence but has fewer friends from adulthood. I think the difference is that all of his school friends are still living in the same European city, and he’ll catch up with them every time he goes home. But for me, I’ve lived in half a dozen cities in different countries since I finished high school, so friendships do tend to diminish or evolve.
My count would be (based on our guest list):
Elementary/high school: 2-3
University – 9
After university (work, general social circle) – 30-35
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Graduate School: 3
Post-graduate: 0 (I have no friends from work, though I do have people I get along with while at work, but I just moved and started this job, so hopefully soon)
Post # 6
My school life was a bit differently split I reckon, so:
Boarding school: 4
High school: 2
I don’t work so I’ve swapped it with church which I went to since I was 12 so I basically grew up with a lot of them.
Post # 7
I’ve moved 34 times in my 26 years so maintaining friendships has been difficult. I have one friend who I am still close to from 12 years ago but that’s it
Post # 8
High school- 3
Work- it’s difficult to comment on this as I’ve only been at my job for a year so the friendships I have now haven’t really been tested by time/distance
Post # 9
Graduate School: 3
I’ve had many friends along the way, I’m apparently very bad at maintaining things….
Post # 10
Post-college: Do DH’s friends’ wives count? We all get along REALLY well!
Post # 11
This is a interesting post. I’ve moved around a lot. I lived in and have friends in 8 towns/cities. I lived In four to five states. Heres how it goes. (I’m 22 years old now) so here it goes
elementry/middle school(Oxford Michigan, lake Orion)- 24 people
high school-ashburn va is around 24 people
high school- stafford va i say around 2 friends.
High school- Cedar Rapids Iowa around 59 friends
Junior college-omaha/council bluffs I’ll say around 10 friends.
I have friends in all different stages of life. I also have friends from my old neighborhood too.
Post # 12
@FromA2B2013: We’re talking about REAL friendships, not like “We keep in contact on Facebook but otherwise not”, right? I didn’t go to college or grad school, but I’ll go by those ages..
Elementary School – 0
Middle School – 1
High School – 1
Collegeish – 9
Adult Single life – 11 (this includes a couple SOs of friends whom I have become close enough to that we hang out on our own)
Since meeting SO- 6 (this includes wives of SO’s friends)
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Birth – I met her when she came home from the hospital. Our moms have been bff’s since they were 12, and we were born a month apart!
Elementary – 1
Middle School – 1
High School – 4
College – 9
Work – 1 (I graduated 2011, got my first big girl job at the end of that summer, was there 8 months, left, went back to my college job in Aug of 2012, and thats where I have my work friend from. I started my current job April of this year, and so I am still getting to know people).
these are my closest loves!! Doesn’t include their SO’s. And I guess I would also have to say since meeting SO, I have two girls that I have become close to as well that I met through him. One is one of his best friends and she was a bridesmaid, the other the wife of one of his best friends and she and I get along great!
ETA: there are a few others from high school and college I will hang out with and occasionally see, but we arent SUPER super close.
Post # 14
Elementary – 3
Junior high- high – 4 . Keep communication with all four but three are close friends to this point. One of them is my best friend. We’ve grown up together and I consider her family. My family considers her family too. That’s how much time we spent together as kids/teenagers.
Adult – so far I can say around 10 so far. Good group of nice people but at a certaiN time I grew inseparable from three of them. Those are the ones who I feel I can trust with ANYTHING. Who’ve been there in the good and the ugly times too.
Post # 15
Grade School- 1
Graduate-3-5 (I have a few that I keep up to date with farily reguarlaly and a couple who moved away and now we probably only talk a few times a year or so).
Friends made outside of school/work: 1
I’m glad I’ve been able to maintain a few quality frienndships over the years… especially since making new friends after university can be tough!
Post # 16
@MexiPino: yes, we are talking genuine friendships. If your only form of contact with them is via a computer it doesn’t count (unless you live really far apart and can’t afford to meet up!)