How many friendships have you kept and maintained in your different life stages?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@FromA2B2013:  Interesting. I always say friendships will either evolve or end. I’ve ended many, some very recently. I take quality over quantity. Let’s see:

Elementary school: 1

High school: same friend as above 

Undergrad: 3

Post-grad: 6 

Work: 8 (seems I get along best with work folks)


Post # 4
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We’re in the middle of finalising our guest list at the moment, so I’ve been thinking about this topic quite a bit lately. 

I’m like you, OP – very few friendships remaining from before university. FI, on the other hand, has maintained more friendships from childhood/adolescence but has fewer friends from adulthood. I think the difference is that all of his school friends are still living in the same European city, and he’ll catch up with them every time he goes home. But for me, I’ve lived in half a dozen cities in different countries since I finished high school, so friendships do tend to diminish or evolve. 

My count would be (based on our guest list):

Elementary/high school: 2-3

University – 9

After university (work, general social circle) – 30-35

Post # 5
7929 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Elementary/Primary: 1

Middle: 1

High: 1

College: 3

Graduate School: 3

Post-graduate: 0 (I have no friends from work, though I do have people I get along with while at work, but I just moved and started this job, so hopefully soon)

Post # 6
111 posts
Blushing bee

My school life was a bit differently split I reckon, so:

Primary: 0

Boarding school: 4

High school: 2

College: 4

University: 7

I don’t work so I’ve swapped it with church which I went to since I was 12 so I basically grew up with a lot of them.

Church: 13

Post # 7
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’ve moved 34 times in my 26 years so maintaining friendships has been difficult. I have one friend who I am still close to from 12 years ago but that’s it

Post # 8
6457 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

 Elementary- 2

High school- 3

University- 3

Work- it’s difficult to comment on this as I’ve only been at my job for a year so the friendships I have now haven’t really been tested by time/distance

Post # 9
3250 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Elementary/Primary: 0

Middle: 0

High: 0

College: 0

Graduate School: 3

Post-graduate: 2

I’ve had many friends along the way, I’m apparently very bad at maintaining things….


Post # 10
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Elementary: 1

Middle(NY): 0

Middle(VT): 2

High: 5

College: 1

Post-college: Do DH’s friends’ wives count? We all get along REALLY well!


Post # 11
906 posts
Busy bee

This is a interesting post. I’ve moved around a lot. I lived in and have friends in 8 towns/cities. I lived In four to five states. Heres how it goes. (I’m 22 years old now) so here it goes

elementry/middle school(Oxford Michigan, lake Orion)- 24 people

high school-ashburn va is around 24 people

high school- stafford va i say around 2 friends. 

High school- Cedar Rapids Iowa around 59 friends

Junior college-omaha/council bluffs I’ll say around 10 friends. 

I have friends in all different stages of life. I also have friends from my old neighborhood too. 


Post # 12
6958 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@FromA2B2013:  We’re talking about REAL friendships, not like “We keep in contact on Facebook but otherwise not”, right? I didn’t go to college or grad school, but I’ll go by those ages..

Elementary School – 0

Middle School – 1

High School – 1

Collegeish – 9

Adult Single life – 11 (this includes a couple SOs of friends whom I have become close enough to that we hang out on our own)

Since meeting SO- 6 (this includes wives of SO’s friends)

Post # 13
2372 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Birth – I met her when she came home from the hospital. Our moms have been bff’s since they were 12, and we were born a month apart!


Elementary – 1


Middle School – 1


High School – 4


College – 9


Work – 1 (I graduated 2011, got my first big girl job at the end of that summer, was there 8 months, left, went back to my college job in Aug of 2012, and thats where I have my work friend from. I started my current job April of this year, and so I am still getting to know people).


these are my closest loves!! Doesn’t include their SO’s. And I guess I would also have to say since meeting SO, I have two girls that I have become close to as well that I met through him. One is one of his best friends and she was a bridesmaid, the other the wife of one of his best friends and she and I get along great!

ETA: there are a few others from high school and college I will hang out with and occasionally see, but we arent SUPER super close.


Post # 14
1843 posts
Buzzing bee

Elementary – 3

Junior high- high – 4 . Keep communication with all four but three are close friends to this point. One of them is my best friend. We’ve grown up together and I consider her family. My family considers her family too. That’s how much time we spent together as kids/teenagers.

Adult – so far I can say around 10 so far. Good group of nice people but at a certaiN time I grew inseparable from three of them. Those are the ones who I feel I can trust with ANYTHING. Who’ve been there in the good and the ugly times too.

Post # 15
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Grade School- 1


Graduate-3-5 (I have a few that I keep up to date with farily reguarlaly and a couple who moved away and now we probably only talk a few times a year or so).

Work- 5

Friends made outside of school/work: 1

I’m glad I’ve been able to maintain a few quality frienndships over the years… especially since making new friends after university can be tough!


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