(Closed) How many gifts are enough?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would say the lingerie you are providing at the bachelorette party counts as a bridal shower gift, as I have never in my life been to, or ever heard of, a bachelorette party where gifts were requested/required. The Bridal shower’s that I have been to have beem the place where lingerie and the like is given.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Here’s what I would do in that situation – and did do! I had a very similar situation in the past.

I would send a $25 – $40 gift from the registry for the shower, because I’d love to be there but couldn’t make it. And after going through my shower, I can tell you, it really does mean something when someone gets you something even when they can’t be there. It’s not about the money, it’s about the thought. You aren’t required to if you don’t attend, but it will make her feel loved.

I would give a SMALL gift for the bachelorette party – you can usually find lots of clearance lingere at places like JC Penney, Sears, Macy’s. Under $25 for sure. Separate gifts for shower and bachelorette are the norm in my circle, although bachelorette gifts are small and token in nature, the real gift is the girls going out with you for the night.

I will tell you, I know she requested lingere, but one of the best gifts I got at my bachelorette party was one of those hangers with my new Mrs. Avery name on it in wire. If you find a really cheap piece of lingere (one of my friends found something nice for $4 on clearance!!!), you could get that too and it would be a BOMB gift for under $20.

And then I would give either cash or send a large gift ($100 – $150) off of her registry for the wedding.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I didn’t really understand this either when my sister got married. But I did end up buying her a bridal shower gift, a bachelorette party gift (and I also planned and spent money on the party for her), and a wedding gift.  I spent the most on her wedding gift (about $50), but her shower was about $20, and (not counting how much I spent on the party itself) I spent about $20 on her bachelorette gift.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@misswhimsy:  This does seem like a lot of gifts. Bachelorette gifts are not standard, I don’t think, but I did receive them when my coworkers (who were not invited to our intimate wedding) threw me a bachelorette party. Not everyone bought me something, though… I think it was just a few girls who came to the decision on their own.

If I were you, I’d buy a cheap thong or negligee for under $20. I’d buy a shower gift at a pricepoint that’s comfortable for you- $25-$40, perhaps? And then a gift for the wedding. Again, only do what’s comfortable for your budget.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@misswhimsy:  buy for the events you are attending

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