Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
I’ve been working on my baby registry for a while now, but I have a feeling that no one will actually use it. We are team green, so we can’t be given all sorts of gender specific things, but I really hope people don’t buy random large things for us since we don’t actually have much space in our apartment and won’t necessarily be able to hang on to everything. Those of you whose guests didn’t stick to the registry much, what sort of things did they give you?
Post # 3
I think being team green you’ll get more registry stuff since people can’t just buy you a bunch of cute pink dresses or blue outfits. I tend to look at a registry to at least get an idea of your taste, and to see if you’re doing cloth/disposable and breast/bottle feeding. If there’s something like what I wanted to get I’ll use the registry. But I’m a big DIYer and I usually crochet a baby blanket and make a diaper cake (if I know they’ll need them).
For people I don’t know as well, I’m all over the registry. For my cousin who I just threw a shower for – it was clear she has no clue what she’s in for – I got her some practical stuff that she didn’t think of for the price is right game and just gave it to her as a gift (baby shampoo and lotion, washcloths, diaper rash cream, newborn diapers, wipes).
Post # 4
Most of my guests actually used my registries. I was very thankful b/c as first time parents we needed a lot of the not so fun but practical things. The ones that went off registry mostly got clothing…
Post # 5
Very few used our registry, unfortunately. We got a TON of clothing, but you probably won’t since you’re team green.
Post # 6
Out of approx 30-35 people… maybe 5-6 used the registry!! We’re having a little girl so we got tonsssssss of clothes, which we didn’t need. Luckily 70% gave gift reciepts so we returned everything we could so we could buy things off the registry we need!
And I have to say, I’ve never in my life returned gifts, so I felt weird returning them, but the clothes wouldn’t have been used! We had tons of newborn clothes.. She never would be able to wear them all! And we got duplicates of outfits… Lol and I so appreciate the thoughtfulness of the gifts!
Post # 7
I didn’t have a baby shower and DH and I bought pretty much everything ourselves, minus a few large items that we specified to our immediate family members.
However, based on my experience, this really varies. Some people that aren’t on team green still end up with nearly everything on their registry as well as a mountain of clothes, diapers and wipes. On the other hand, some (both team green and not) end up with a bunch of random stuff. Team green people tend to get more big items and generic items. However, there are still people who disregard the fact that it is team green and get that gut feeling and will follow through on it. For example, I know of someone who is publicly on team green but is secretly on team pink and she got team blue stuff at her shower because people said “they knew”.
At the showers I’ve attended, I think the larger ones (think 40-50 people, coed) tend to get the items from the registry. The smaller ones (think 10 people or so) usually end up with a lot of non-registry items, even when the registry items are of very low price point. At one super small shower I went to, I was the only one with registry gifts. Everyone else gifted personalized items (e.g. Etsy type things) or things their own babies liked that they thought the new mom should have to (but wasn’t on her registry).
Generally speaking, I would be less concerned about getting a ton of large items and more concerned about getting literally mountains of clothing and duplicates of popular items (e.g. Boppy, Sleep Sheep). A lot of retailers now have a good selection of gender neutral clothing so I don’t think being team green is that significant of a deterrence.
Post # 8
ITs pretty tough to predict based on other Bees experiences. I would ask friends or family members who have recently had a shower (either bridal or baby) that share some of the same guests to determine if their registry was used or not.
I always assumed a registry was what everyone used, but I recently learned that this is not always the case, Team Green or not.
Good news is you need to do the research anyway to determine what you need/want and what brands. So your registry can act as a ‘need to buy’ list.
Post # 9
I don’t have a baby, but my sister had one (three weeks ago! My precious perfect nephew! Yay!) and her experiecne was that only a few people used the registry, but those who didnt’ all bought smaller stuff – mostly clothes, blankets (she was lucky to recieve several handmade quilts), a small toys/books (mostly decorative to be honest). She didnt’ recieve any large/bulky items that weren’t from the registry.
Anyway, if you do I’m sure you can return them.
Post # 10
Ugh!! My biggest pet peeve is going off registry. If I dont like a gift on a persons registry or cant afford something, I get a gift card to the store. This applies to christmas, birthdays, etc. I like to get people what they want, not what I think they want. That being said, I can only assume that 2/3rds of my people will go off registry haha
Post # 11
We don’t have registries for babies in the UK (commonly) and I always buy a gift of my choosing after the baby is born and gender is known. Normally buy clothes for first babies and personalised items, like toy trains with their name on for subsequent babies of same gender!
Post # 12
I haven’t had a baby shower yet as I’m only 11 weeks but I personally ALWAYS use the registry when buying a baby gift for someone else. It’s kind of brainless like I KNOW this person wants/needs these things and in a month they won’t remember who got them what anyway. It’s silly not to get the mom to be things she put on the registry, that’s why it’s there!
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@ScottishMrs: I buy off registry but it’s pretty much the same gift every time and it’s stuff the mommy-to-be doesn’t think about when registering. I buy a formula container that can double as a snack container, plain white socks (so you always have a matching pair), Gerber cloth diapers (best burp cloths, I swear!), and baby gowns (great nighttime cloths for boys and girls because it makes it easier to change the diaper at night.) All super practical stuff, the mommy doesn’t think about but I have gotten complimented on weeks later when the new mommy is using what I bought over and over.
Post # 14
@ScottishMrs: I always use registries when I buy people gifts. How else will I know what they want? I think it’s strange that people would have access to a registry and choose to ignore it and get whatever they want…it’s about what the couple wants.
Post # 15
We are team green – I haven’t looked at the “items” purchased per se, but we have had 21 purchases off the registry so far, with showers coming up the next 3 weekends. I’m glad people have been using it, but am totally okay with whatever people choose to buy – off the registry or not. 🙂 It was a lot of work, so i’m glad to see that a lot of people have used it!!
Post # 16
Most of my shower guests used the registry. Those who didn’t were experienced moms who bought me practical things I hadn’t thought to register for (all the baby medicines, the gerber cloth diapers mentioned upthread – they are the best burp cloths – etc.). I got a lot of clothes, but most of the people who bought clothes also bought a registry item.