Post # 1
I’m just curious. Where was your wedding, and how many people actually came?
Mine will be in Mexico, I don’t have a large family and not many friends. I’ll be thrilled if I get at least 5 people to come!
I have been having a hard time making decisions with the resort…reception or a private dinner? How long should I book the photographer for? IPod reception or DJ? At first I had about 20 people who wanted to come, but now that the invitations went out everyone is declining.
I’m not looking for answers to these questions, it is just hard to know what to reserve.
Post # 3
We invited around 90, we had 57-ish show up (some people we didn’t invite, at all). We did a buffet dinner. I tried the iPod thing. Since you’re not having a lot of guests, because it’ll be Out of Town, then spring for a DJ. If you don’t, you’ll end up like me, having to miss out on your wedding reception because you are handling music.
Post # 4
We only had nine guests. While it would have been great to have more people there it was a very nice, intimate number.
We didn’t do a tradition reception, it seemed kind of dumb for such a small wedding. We had a semi-private reception, which was basically just a big fancy table at one of the restaurants. It was a full three-course meal with cake but there were other dinners in the restaurant. We also did not have dancing/speeches/etc. And one of our guests is an amatuer photographer so he took our photos.
We’re very low-key people so this is exactly the kind of wedding we wanted.
We got married at The Royal Playa del Carmen.
Post # 5
i also don’t have a large family, but did have a lot of friends to invite. i expected only my closest core friends to come which would have been about 10-15 guests including their SOs. Then of course all kinds of people told me they were going to come, to the point i was stressed about it! my new estimate was close to 40 (including SOs). then as i learned DWs go, half of them didn’t follow through, and i ended up with 15 guests total. so with Darling Husband and myself, we had 17 people at our wedding and really it was perfect. At first i was disappointed with all the declines, especially since 3 “VIP” people couldn’t come (DH’s sister and 2 of my closest friends), but once i was there, i thought we had the perfect size group and we had a fabulous wedding.
i also debated on private receptiom and all those things. I went with a private one, even though we only had 3 tables, i had the chance to move around and sit with everyone. And the atmosphere and intimate feeling it provided made it totally worth it. I would say do a private reception, even if you only have 5 people – you will sit at one table together, but at least you won’t be in a crowded resort restaurant or buffet!
oh and our wedding was in Jamaica.
ETA: thought i would add on that we did have a pro photographer. she stayed at our resort, so on her own free will she was there from start to finish, even though her contract was for 6 – 8 hours. she was actually quite awesome and totally worth it. We had a DJ as well because after our dinner, we booked doing a bonfire on the beach which included open bar and DJ for 3 hours, so that’s where we danced, did the bouquet toss and just had a ton of fun. During dinner we did speeches, cake cutting and our first dance. I basically felt like i got the best of both worlds with all the traditional elements i wanted for our wedding AND the exotic and intimate feel and experience of a Destination Wedding.
Post # 6
We got married in Vegas (from Australia) and invited from memory just under 80 guests (including guests plus ones). In the end we had 32 guests attend. We had a reception in a private room at a resturant with no music (just chatter) and had a photographer booked for 7 hours (ceremony, photos along the strip afterwards and then for 1 hr of the reception).
DW’s are hard for guests but the key thing to remember is just because someone has to decline it doesn;t mean they don;t love you guys and support your marriage 🙂
Post # 7
We sent about 20 invites and had 19 people come to our wedding in Mexico. We are also in the Dallas area, as were most of our guests so nobody had to travel super far or anything.
Post # 8
i didn’t have a Destination Wedding but we attended a friend’s Destination Wedding. She invited about 45-50, but only about 25 showed up and about 85% of that were immediate family members (siblings/parents). The extended family members and almost all of the friends (minus us and another couple) didn’t go.
Post # 9
I am having my wedding in Nuevo Vallarta, Mexico. We are inviting close to 200 but think that somewhere between 70-90 will come. We have large families and friends that love to travel. It’s the only way we could think of having a smaller wedding but not hurt anybody’s feelings by not inviting them.
I don’t know where in Mexico you’re getting married but if it’s in or around Puerto Vallarta I know an AWESOME local photographer. I went to Nuevo Vallarta last Christmas with the family and she came to our resort to do a family photo session and it all turned out beautifully. If you want her contact info and our family photos to see her work just message me.
We are going to have a private dinner and then everyone is going to head down to the bar for the rest of the night. There will be other guests there but who cares?
Post # 10
We are having a Destination Wedding in Jamaica. We have 47 guests confirmed and paid. We never expected that many people to go we are so blessed! We thought we would have like 20 people. We are having a dinner at one of the a la cartes and renting the disco from 8:30 to 11 for our reception and hiring a DJ. Then after 11 the disco opens up to the public which is super cool!Our resort has been more than accomodating and surprising in all the things they offer. Just chat with your resort they should be able to tell you whats available and whats not. They can recmooend photogs, DJ’s etc. I howver got my photog on advice fom another Bee who used them in Jamiaca, people on here will be able to help you too :o)
Post # 11
Our guests where almost all from Ontario or farther and we had our wedding in Nova Scotia and we invited about 140 people and only 43 showed up. Even with 2 years notice people who planned on comming changed there minds at the last minute.
Post # 12
We are having a destiantion wedding next year in Cuba. We have 50 people confirmed to come already and are expecting between 60 to 70 people. We were overwhelemd by the number of people who want to come and have already booked the trip. We feel so special that people will actually pay the money to come on a trip for our wedding!! 🙂
We are having a private reception there and will probably use an Ipod to play music as I don think they have a DJ at the resort we are going too.
Post # 13
We invited 125, and right now (5 months out almost) we have a guest list of in between 50-60
Post # 14
We are having a destintation wedding in Negril Jan 2013. RSVP’s arent due until next month, but already we know most people who in the beginning said they will be coming have now told me they wont. We invited about 50 people, and my guess is 20 max total will show up.
I consulted with my Maid/Matron of Honor over resort and prices, and she said the resort was good and the price was fine. Now she tells me she can’t go because she just realised she can’t afford it. I am really hurt by this, but i know that i will make the most out of it, and make the best of it for everyone that is attending.
We are having a private ceremony and private reception off the resort at a place on the cliffs that caters to private weddings. It’s more $$ than what the resort offers, but i prefer the privacy. We will also have a DJ, A la carte dinner, full open bar, cake, photographer and floral arrangements as you would at a “regular” wedding.
Just because it is a small wedding, don’t make sacrifices because you think things aren’t necessary with low numbers. It’s your wedding. Do what makes you happy.
Post # 15
We invited 90 and we had 30 guests. Our wedding was in Punta Cana. We had a private reception with a DJ etc. it was worth it we all had an amazing time!
Post # 16
We have 36 (including us) attending our Destination Wedding in Koh Samui Thailand! I am hoping that number is ‘just right’ – not too many and not too few to have an awesome party!!! 🙂