(Closed) How many guests changed their RSVP answer?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We had 2 no’s that changed to yes’s. 1 let us know before the RSVP deadline that they were able to attend. 1 let us know 4 days before the wedding and we had to scramble to get them a meal and place cards printed since we were already done with those. and about 4 yes’s that changed to no’s last minute- as in the day of. These were all DH’s relatives or family friends. That last part makes me feel better. LOL.

Post # 5
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

We had a bunch of people (I’d say about 10) call to switch their guests. So like “oh, me and so and so broke up, so she won’t be coming any longer” to the week of the wedding, “yeah, so we got back together…can she come?” There were so many of those and a few who changed yeses to nos last minute. So frustrating!

Post # 6
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I haven’t had any of these yet (RSVP deadline 1 month away) but oooh I will kill my friends if they try to switch the RSVPs after the deadline. 

Post # 7
1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

thats so interesting to me. i would never think of calling up a bride i rsvp’d no to after the deadline and saying “actually i guess i will come”! i always kind of though a no was a no and that was that. we are on such a tight budget, i honestly wouldnt know how to handle that!

a yes to a no, though, that i would be absolutely ok with hearing up until 4 days before the wedding 😉

Post # 9
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

We had one person reply as just him, then he told me about a week after the RSVP that his Girlfriend got the day off after all, then I have an aunt who has a lot going on right now (her mom just passed, and her Mother-In-Law might have to move in with them due to alzheimers) so they are still a maybe, and could possibly stay a maybe right up until the wedding. 

Post # 10
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh yes, we had someone RSVP ‘no’ (actually it was a family of three) and they even wrote a note on the back that they would have loved to come but that they were going to be away on vacation. So I then used the opportunity to invite a couple more coworkers.

Well of course after I sent out the B list invites, we got a FB message that they got the dates of their vacation wrong and to please switch them to a yes. They also all want filet which is of courses the most expensive meal. So now I’m having to pay for them plus the coworkers, all wanting filet!


Post # 12
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The week of the wedding I had 3 nos become yes and 6 yes become nos.  So frustrating when you have the seating charts done and what not!  But thankfully I was able to give final numbers 2 days before the wedding so it was fine.  I then had 3 people not show at all.

One of them was my husband’s grandfather who wasn’t feeling well that day and couldn’t make it, one was my mother’s co worker who I don’t even know but begged my mom to be invited, and the other was my manager at work who said he had food poisoning but I think it was probably a hang over he had ha ha. Oh well my wedding was fantastic!!

Post # 13
4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just one couple definitely RSVP’d yes and then called two days before the wedding to say they couldn’t make it. We also had one no-show and one guest brought a subsitute +1, both due to illness.

It all worked out just fine because a close friend of mine showed up to the ceremony with his three bandmates, and expected them to just wait outside while he had dinner. We already had the food, so the bandmates got to eat as well.

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