Post # 1
Bees- I am terrible with math… how many people can we invite if we hope to have 150-175MAX at our wedding? We definitely need to cut back a little (read: a ton!) on our guest list, but how many can/should we realistically send invitations to in order to stay in that range?
Post # 3
@MSbride2Bee: You should only ever invite as many guests as you can accomodate. If your max is 175, invite 175. You will probably end up closer to the 150 range BUT much depends on that–are they travelling from out of town, is your ceremony and reception in the middle of nowhere, etc, etc.
Post # 4
Assume they will all accept.
Post # 5
I read way too many stories on here about about people inviting more than they could afford our the venue could hold and then they were surprised when they didn’t get enough declines. Please do not over invite guests.
Post # 6
Yea, invite 175. That way you’ll probably end up around 140-150 but you never know, they might all come. Too many horror stories from bees who have invited extras and then ended up over capacity :-/
Post # 7
all venues we are considering can hold 250, so capacity isn’t the issue.. we would prefer no more than 175 though. Is there a general “rule” abuot on average how many people do/dont accept??
Post # 8
@MSbride2Bee: How many does your budget allow for?
There is no “rule”. Every circumstance is different–people take vacations, people are out of town and don’t want to travel, wedding location, etc. If 175 is the maximum you want and can afford, then that’s how many you should invite.
Really, the number of people you invite should be based on those who are nearest and dearest to you, not the number you need to fill up the room.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
My stats might help you:
90% of my guests were VERY local (within 20 mins from venue)
onl 30% of FI’s guests were local
Invited 134 total
116 came so 12% No’s which I’ve heard was very typical!
Post # 10
@MSbride2Bee: We invited 50, 45 RSVP’d yes, and 42 showed up.
So you could invite 200, get 180 “yes” RSVPs, and expect 168 to actually show.
But if you don’t want more than 175… Don’t invite more than 175!
Post # 11
We invited 110, and we have 107 yeses…dont count on no’s
Post # 12
@MSbride2Bee: Ah, ok. Well, what’s the max you can pay for, food/beverage-wise?
Typically, it seems like around 80% accept, which would mean you could invite 218.75 people (lol, you might want to round that ;-p) in order to have 175 people there, and it sounds like that would fit in your venue. So maybe 215, since you want 150-175? BUT you need to be able to pay for all 215 if they do RSVP yes.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think the “rule” is somewhere between 60% and 80%. We invited 210 and had 160 attend, so about 70% acceptance. That was for a fairly destination wedding (that required a flight and/or 4-18 hour drive for 80% of the guests).
Post # 14
Invite the max you can afford/venue can hold and no more. There are many weddings where all invitees accept…
Post # 15
@MSbride2Bee: Be careful! My husband has some OOT cousins who he said no way would they come. Well, guess what? They say they are coming so now we are in danger of being over max capapcity for our venue. I am a nervous wreck waiting for responses to start coming back.
Post # 16
Thanks for the help! I think we are going to have to bite the bullet and just cross some names off the list! FI and I have many different groups of friends from different places and it’s tough to say yes to some and not others! Not to mention the family- which is obviously non-negotiable when it comes to invites. I was warned that there will always be someone who will be offended by not being invited, but being a people pleaser, this is tough! Id rather focus on quality over quantity, and if we have EVERYONE we are thinking of, the yummy food and open bar is going to have to take some cuts.. we love good food and hosting parties so we can’t let that go too much! I will probably start a separate board when it happens, but if people have any advice on what to say when those not invited speak up, I’d appreciate your help!