Post # 1
Trying to have a classy wedding on a budget! FI insists on cocktail hour and then his dad has to go and say, ‘well, I went to a wedding and they had appetizers and I think that was nice’ even though the people throwing the wedding spent over $10K and now he feels we have to have hours d’ouerves on top of our cocktail hour! I don’t even think ‘cocktail hour’ will be for an hour. It’s just to take up time for a few pictures. I would imagine it would be 30min – 45min at the most. The reception and ceremony are at the same place.
The director of catering at the venue is being great and sending us all kinds of pricing. She sent a huge list of appetizers which is fabulous but they are all $3.50 a person an hour! We are hoping to only plan on 100 guests but that is still $350 for each type of hors d’ouerve we want! That’s personally $350 more than I was planning on spending but hey.. if my Father-In-Law wants it I will ask Fiance to ask him to put out for it!
So my question: How many different TYPES of appetizers should we have available? At this point we are only planning on a light bar [beer, wine and soda] so there won’t be a lot of heavy alcohol consumption. Is one enough or should we plan on different kinds?
Post # 3
I think one is enough, you have to do what you can afford. I’m only having them eat fruit until it’s time for the reception. I’m on a budget, and you are right if that’s what your Father-In-Law wants, then he should foot the bill.
Post # 4
I had two passed appetizers and it was plenty. You don’t need to have tons of options, but I think at least one option would be nice so people have something to snack on before dinner starts. It always takes longer to serve than you might anticipate. I had a fried risotto ball and a wonton with ahi tuna poke.
Post # 5
2-3 passed apps is plenty. You should certainly ask Father-In-Law to pay for it since it was something he wants and it’s not in your budget. If he can’t or won’t, then skip the apps and have a cheese spread or something like that.
Post # 6
I would say two. That way your guests have an option. I personally would do a veg and a non-veg option.
I’ve also been to cocktail hours with stationary stations. You may want to ask your caterer if that is an option, and what the cost would be.
Lastly I don’t know what type of venue you are using, but if it’s an option you may want to consider doing your own bites. I recommend 2.3 per person if you are having two selections or 1.7 per person if you have three selections.
Post # 7
Do they have cheaper options rather than tray passed hors d’ouerves? Like a cheese platter and bread? and maybe a fruit platter?
Post # 8
I’d have 2 and 1 veggie option.
Post # 10
we are having 4 – our price comes with 3 passed apps, but we cut some food out of the late night and added an extra app. Are you able to shift something around?
Post # 11
We’re doing it a la carte to try to save money but at this point we might as well do a package! Fiance thinks he has to please his parents and I do NOT want that carrying over into our wedding, especially when we don’t have the money for it! Unless they plan on paying for it, since they DO have the money! The least inexpensive is the passed appetizers, the cheese plates and everything stationary is actually more expensive! Weird, right?