Post # 1
I currently have 5 bridesmaids – 2 sisters, FSIL and 2 cousins. After being in a friend’s wedding this recently, I realized that I couldn’t image getting married without my best friends standing next to me also. The problem is, I’ve had this group of 4 best friends for as long as I can remember and I can’t just ask 1 or 2 or them, I need to ask all 4 or none of them. Do you think 9 bridesmaids is too many? Do you think it will be too difficult to coordinate everything with 9 girls? My FI has 6 groomsmen.
Post # 3
I think 9 is way too many personally. I’ve heard the rule is about 1 BM for every 50 guests to make it look balanced.
Post # 4
I think 9 is too many. I heard the wedding a day after mine has 13 though so I guess 9 is not insane. For me personally, 4-5 is a good number. There is some ratio rule about 1 for every 50 guests that someone quoted in the boards before.
Post # 5
I think 9 is a lot… I have 7, and that’s pushing it for me. Could you ask your best friends to hand out programs/soemthign else so that they are involved in the day but without the expenses that come along with being in the bridal party?
Post # 6
I think 9 will be extemely difficult to coordinate schedules, meeting, and to even get 9 people to agree on a dress will be difficult!
I had a hard enough time coordinating 6 schedules… lol.. it took 2 months of planning to schedule one day of bridesmaid dress shopping lol
Post # 7
Nine is way too many and in my opinion it’s not about guest count or any of that. It’s that it is pretty much impossible to get 10 girls all on the same schedule. It’s impossible to find a dress/outfit/look that 10 girls are happy with (including the bride). It’s also very expensive to have to purchase gifts for 18 attendants (if you have 9 groomsmen) and a wedding party of 20 people that will not fit in one limo (if you have transportation). Did you already ask all of those other girls?
Post # 8
@AmyFarrahFowler: My boyfriend’s sister-in-law had TEN, which I thought was way too many.
I’ll most likely have 3 or 4.
But if it’s important for you to have your best friends in the party, then so be it. You’re fortunate to have family and friends you’re close to!
Post # 9
@plzhalp: I have only asked the original 5, I am still undecided about the other 4. I do think 9 is a lot, which is why I didn’t ask them in the first place. We are having 6 groomsmen, so the wedding party will be 15 people. We will need 2 limos anyway since the girls will be traveling to the venue seperate from the men.
The wedding I was just in had 9 bridesmaids, when she first asked me, I felt like it was a lot of girls, but somehow coordinating everything wasn’t a nightmare. We just made sure to begin planning early before everyone’s schedules filled up.
Post # 10
There are so many variables and only you can decide who you absolutely need to have up there with you and who should be invited to enjoy the day as a guest. I will say that even if you do an amazing job co-ordinating schedules and have the great good luck for everyone to get along and also to agree on the dress, your guests might find that large a bridal party to be a bit overwhelming. It takes a long time for the processional and recessional when the party is that large; the photos take exponentially longer (meaning longer cocktail hour which in and of itself is not a bad thing but even if you’re feeding people and giving them drinks during your photo session, after an hour or so, folks do get restless and ready for dinner), and if you have the bridal party all seated at one table with their SO’s, that’s potentially 40 or more people (assuming everone has an SO and there’s an equal nuber of BM and GM, plus your parents, the groom’s parents, etc). When 1/3 of the guests are all seated at the “head” table it makes everyone else feel a bit isolated even if you’re in the same room.
Post # 11
@AmyFarrahFowler: If you think that everyone is going to be flexible, then I guess go for it! 🙂
Post # 12
I think that’s too many personally, but I’ve definitely seen it before. I have 5 and wouldn’t want to go any larger than that. Too much drama is possible the more girls you have I think.