Post # 1
Just wondering, how many kids are you and your partner planning on having? Are you on the same page? Why do you choose that number? If you already have kids how many do you want total? Did any of you think you were done and then regretted not having had more later down the line? Did some of you think you wanted more but once they came said that’s enough? I’m also interested in responses from people who plan on 0.
We have no kids yet but my ideal number is 3. He wanted 2 for a few years, then 0, and is now super excited about 1 – open to more but this is his preferred. We’ll see what happens and if I’ll change my mind about what is “ideal” after the first.
Post # 3
@beeks: I want 4 (my husband knows this) and he wants 1 max 2! We are TTC so a lot will come down to how long it takes us and how we manage with the (hopefully) first one!
My Darling Husband was an only child and so for his having one is fine and normal. I come from a big family and really really want more than one. (Hope i dont soun greedy!).
At the moment its all just wishes and we both know that all these desires could fully change once we get further down the TTC/babie phase in our life!
Post # 4
we both want two, a boy and a girl 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve always said I wanted either 3 or 5 (I have a thing for uneven numbers). Darling Husband wants 2. I’m pregnant with our first and while I will go through this again, if it’s anything like this pregnancy I’ll probably be happy with 2. Probably.
Post # 6
@Jacqui90: Ah, should have asked about that too. I’d be very happy with three little boys and he would love to have one baby girl. Both of us are a bit nervous about parenting same sex children.
Post # 7
We would like 2 or 3 children.
If we get one of each we will stop at 2 but if we get 2 girls or 2 boys we will try for a 3rd.
It honestly would not matter if we got 3 the same, but we would give it a go 🙂 I am one of 3 girls and absolutely love it, I am very close to both sisters 🙂
Post # 9
I want three or more, my partner wants no more than three. So three it is! I come from a big family, so I can’t fathom having two kids or less, and my partner comes from a family where his parents (and all his uncles) only had two kids, so he gets freaked out at the idea of heaps of children.
Post # 10
We decided on four. We didn’t want a middle child, and we want them to always have playmates at hand.
Post # 11
We both want 2-3 kids. We have a daughter already and plan on TTC after the wedding.
Post # 12
If we lived in America, I think I would try for 4. But here in NL, and especially the area we live (and want to stay) doesn’t really have many affordable housing options for families of that size (unless you do room-sharing, which I guess is always an option, but not something I would want for our kids). We already have one, and will probably have 2 more. We both come from 3-children families, so it feels really right for us. If we get twins on the 3rd try, I guess we won’t have much of a choice anyway… haha.
Post # 13
We have decided to not have children. If we do, we’ll adopt once our lives are more house bound. We travel alot for work and having kids in our youth doesn’t fit our lifestyles. Plus, we are both the youngest and have neieces and nephews age 12- 10 months, so there is never a shortage of child rearing we can lend a hand with. We have taken all the kids on vacation every summer and winter break since being a couple. And though we would love kids, it sure is nice giving my and his siblings a break once in a while.
Post # 14
We’re both from 2-child families, but I have a big extended family so I like the feeling of a bigger family. My partner is keen on 2 but could be persuaded to 3. I’d definitely like 2 and would consider another depending on finances and how we feel at that point. I answered the poll with 2.
Post # 15
Up until recently I wanted 0 but I’ve come around to the idea of having 1. That’s it, though. I’m an only child and I always enjoyed it. Darling Husband, on the other hand, wants 2. He has a brother and liked growing up with a sibling. When he grows a uterus and vagina we can discuss numero dos but until then, we’re one and done.
Post # 16
Two or three – probably just two though