Post # 1
My SO was deployed from Nov 12 – May 13. When he returned he was so eager to get my ring custom designed. He let me pick out every detail. I drove him the day (May 22, 2013) for pickup to make sure the size and details were correct. I drove him home with my ring, we have been living together (bought a house together April 12). Once we got home he hid the ring. I never searched for it but figured it wouldn’t be that long. His sisters wedding was in June, 4th of July, I moved in August for law school, he visited over labor day, I wsent home for thanksgiving and was in my friends wedding as a bridesmaid, and he came up for Christmas. He never proposed. It has been over 7 months of having the ring, just waiting. The ring was in his bag he brought with him Christmas vacation. I found it accidently while grabbing other presents and board games from the bag. I didnt let on to seeing the ring. However, the night before he flew back I was heartbroken. He could hear sadness in my voice but I played it off. I want it to be a surprise and completely up to him but why is he still waiting. He will be moving closer in Feb (will be visiting the weekend of Valentines Day 2014) and I will be spending my spring break up with him in March. That will be a joint celebration, his bday, our anniversary, and my bday. I am trying to wait patiently for one of those events but if not then it will be this summer. That will be 12+ months of having the ring and just waiting. Is that normal?
Post # 3
@always_the_bridesmaid: Maybe he’s nervous about the proposal.
My FI told me to go look at rings and I did on September 7th and told him my findings and I am not sure when he bought the ring but he proposed on November 29th. I think maybe he was nervous because after he asked my FI said he was nervous about the proposal (not my saying yes) because he wasn’t sure when the right time would be so he ended up doing it the last thing in the evening! Maybe your SO took the ring planning to ask but got nervous or maybe the right time never came up.
Post # 4
@always_the_bridesmaid: there is no real way to measure what is normal. when it comes to relationships, your normal is just that – YOUR normal.
as for us, i guess everything happened fast. we met in june 2012, went ring shopping on november 4, 2012. he proposed on christmas in 2012. we were married in august 2013 and now we are expecting a baby in august of 2014. some people date for 10 years before any of this happens… but this was normal for us.
just keep being awesome in your relationship and things will happen in the time that they should.
Post # 5
We went into our first jewlery store in September. I found what I wanted online and sent him the link in Oct. The ring arrived in November. He proposed (FINALLY) in December.
Post # 6
I would be inpatient at this point, but when he finally does ask itll be on when hes ready and itll be that much more special. I think if you mention it, he mite feel pressured and eventually rushed.
my fiance asked me the day after he picked it up, BUT he asked me if id like to start looking at rings in February and didnt actually have the ring until August after searching and searching, and going custom
Post # 7
@always_the_bridesmaid: Well, I can’t tell you what’s ‘normal’ (only because I don’t believe there is any one way to go about this sort of thing) but I can tell you that my FI began looking at rings and had one custom made in June, and proposed in August. He literally proposed to me the day that he picked it up from the jewelers.
Having said that, your FI may just be waiting for a moment that feels right for him. He could also possibly be waiting to move closer to you before you two get engaged. Whatever his reason, I’m sure it will be wonderful when it happens 🙂 I know that waiting is hard, but it is exciting that he has the ring! The majority of my waiting period was waiting on FI to begin looking for a ring even. Enjoy this ‘pre-engagement’ stage as much as you can. This will be your last time be a girlfriend – ever! Good luck, and I hope that it happens for you soon!
Post # 8
He proposed the same day he picked up the ring.
Post # 9
thank you all for the kind words and encouragement. I had been doing good not worrying when I was busy with school but after finals I had time to think plus with both holidays there were tons of family and friends getting engaged or married. That makes it hard not to think about. Hopefully with school starting back up next week, I will be busy and distracted.
We went at a fast past for a while then plateaued. We started dating Mar 10, 2011. We said “I love you’s” 2 weeks later. Moved in together April 2011, bought a home April 2012. We have been stuck since. The military assignments/deployments/and my moving for school have made our relationship long distance starting Nov 2012 – May 2016/Aug 2017.
I think I am eager for the proposal to officially wedding plan and make the long distance easier with the offical committment.
Post # 10
DH and I had been together for 5 years before we got engaged but he wanted us to both have stable jobs so we could afford the ring he wanted for me and we could be in a financial position to start our married life. After graduation, it took him about 4 months to find a full time job and then his grandmother got sick so we ended up taking care of her (long story). He bought my ring in April and proposed in June.
Post # 11
@always_the_bridesmaid: I’m sure he is waiting for what he feels is the right, “perfect” moment. Otherwise he wouldn’t have brought the ring with him! I know it is SO hard, but hang in there! When it finally happens I am sure it will be so wonderful and magical. It’s going to be great, don’t worry!
Post # 12
@always_the_bridesmaid: He looked in July while he picked out a bday present for me and had it narrowed down to 2. Plans fell through on being able to pick up the final ring before he saw me on a visit home in October (his ride from the airport bailed so I had to leave work to pick him up). Since he knew in advance, he picked out a diamond band in MO and ended up proposing with that and I now wear it as a RHR. We went to the jeweler the next day and he let me decide between the 2 he picked out in July.
Post # 13
We started looking in November of 2011 and he proposed in Aug. 2012. Yes, it was a long wait, but it was worth it. A lot of that time was spent looking at ring options though.
Post # 14
I really don’t know what’s normal. DH proposed about 30 mintues after buying the ring.
Post # 15
@always_the_bridesmaid: Not sure exact days but was only a few
Post # 16
My cutom made e-ring was ready I believe in mid-October and he proposed on New Year’s day so about two months.