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Most people send out their save the dates 6-12 months before the wedding. I don't think there's any reason you couldn't send them out now, especially since so many of your guests are from overseas. Our wedding invitations are hitting the mail next week, two months before our wedding.
I sent my invitations out 8 weeks before our wedding, and the RSVP's were due 2 weeks before.
I think if you have a lot of out of town guests you may want to send them earlier, but if you have Save-the-dates, you don't necessarily have to!
my wedding is memorial day weekend and my plan is to send std's in late aug (thats when ill have the time) and the invites 8 weeks out. that 9 months out for the save the dates and two months for invites.
I'm sending my invitations out the first week of August so its a little under 3 mos out. Ours is destination for everyone though so we wanted to give people extra notice. We're asking for our RSVP cards back by the end of Sept (one month out).
I am seeing that I'll have to do Save the Dates! What do you think of magnet Save the Dates?
Our thinking was to send the STD cards months in advance and send out the invites about 6 weeks before. Invites tend to get buried, misplaced and lost when the RSVP date is distant. Seemed to work fairly well for us.
Save the Dates are your best bet for giving people a heads up especially since they have a far travel. I sent my STDs out in February for my September 09 wedding because the FI's family is in California, Chicago and Florida and not to mention that the wedding is on a holiday weekend. I also sent out the invites, June 24 so that I can have all the responses back by July 27.
We did invites at 10-12 weeks b/c we didn't do save the dates, and we figured with a june wedding we'd get the word out there early. it really helps when you have people planning vacations, etc, but you don't necessarily want to spend the money on STD's like us.
If you are having a lot of out of town guests then save the dates would be a great idea. I think magnets are a great idea. My sister and sister in law both did magnet STDs and they are still on people's fridges.
There wasn't a box to check that said "two months before" but that is when I'm sending mine - and giving guests 1 month to respond.
I did save the dates too - about 6-7 months before our wedding date.
I did save the dates in February (Wedding on Labor Day weekend) and we mailed the invites on July 7th, response date is August 15th... So just about 2 months before.
As soon as I knew the date, I sent out an e-mail to everyone letting them know. That was our unofficial Save-The-Date. Then we sent out a reminder e-mail with a much nicer looking Save-The-Date attachment about 6 months out. I'm then sending out the invitations 3 months in advance. We have a lot of out-of-country guests coming for a during the holidays wedding, so we though that the more time they had to know the better. Some of my guests had to get visas to come!
We did what Erindesmar described--sent them out 2 months before and allowed guests a month to respond. In theory, that meant I would have all the RSVPs a month before the wedding. Of course, I was still tracking people down for the next couple of weeks, but this helped us get most of the replies in a timely fashion.
Thx for all the advice girls! @blightygirl: I have ppl from other countries too so I feel you!
My FI and I are having a "destination" wedding, so we sent Save The Dates 6 months prior, and will send the invites about 6 or 8 weeks out.
We were similar to Beav1279, we did an original email when we first set the date, then save-the-dates 5 months before and invites will be 6 weeks before with a 3 week RSVP time - I know everyone will be late in their RSVPs so I plan on bugging them via email! :)
Before any of my family/friends plan a vacation getaway I sent my SAVE THE DATE 8 months before my wedding which falls on a holiday weekend, JAN 02,2010. I didn't want to ruin any of their set vacation so I made sure I told them ahead of time. My invitation is going out 3 months before my wedding.
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Hello! My sister told me that I should send Save the Dates like in December and then my invitations like in May for my August 2010 wedding. Here's the deal though, 40 of my guest are flying from Spain and will need to know ahead of time. Others live all over the USA or will need to not make vacation arrangements in order to be around for my wedding. So how far in advance should I send out the invitations? I wasn't even planning on doing Save the Dates! Thanks for your advice!