How many months of his salary did your SO spend on your engagement ring?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
  • poll: How many months' salary did you SO spend on your ring?
    more than 6 months : (9 votes)
    3 %
    5 months : (4 votes)
    1 %
    4 months : (13 votes)
    4 %
    3 months : (27 votes)
    9 %
    2 months : (37 votes)
    12 %
    1.5 months : (42 votes)
    14 %
    1 month : (60 votes)
    19 %
    2 weeks : (66 votes)
    21 %
    1 week : (53 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 2
    792 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2003

    When I got engaged 11 years ago, the “rule” was 2 months. My husband didn’t spend that much. He probably spent about 1 month’s salary. 

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  alabamagirl.
    Post # 3
    1869 posts
    Buzzing bee

    lionessa:  I HATE that ‘rule’.

    My FI spent just under a weeks wage on my ring. I did not want or need anything more expensive on my finger.

    In my opinion, the ring should be a symbol of love, not finances. If a guy has the money, or saves for years, to buy his girl an expensive ring then great! But that doesn’t mean someone who spends a lower percantage of his wage loves his SO any less.

    Post # 4
    542 posts
    Busy bee

    2 weeks, at my own request… and I get mad compliments all the time. thanks moissaniteco!


    Post # 6
    117 posts
    Blushing bee

    Mine was a little more than 1 months salary, he gets paid bi-weekly. Money was important to us and we set a budget.

    Post # 7
    6381 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2050

    lionessa:  The whole “2 months” thing was started by the De Beers diamond cartel. It was so successful at convincing people to spend more on engagment rings that they recently figured, what the heck, why not make it 3 months? And lo and behold, people are falling for it.

    Don’t be a sucker!! People should spend whatever they can afford and not abide by marketing gimmicks misrepresented as traditions.

    Post # 8
    117 posts
    Blushing bee

    The one we’ve picked out/designed together will cost about a week and a half’s worth. 

    Post # 9
    6899 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We got engaged while in college so technically he didn’t have an income at that point (he purchased my ring with savings from his summer internship). If he had waited two months until he started his full time job he would have spent less than 2 weeks salary on my ring. I would not have wanted him to spend anywhere near 3 months of his salary on a ring.

    Post # 10
    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    My SO will be at about 1.5 months salary. That is after buying his brothers out of the family heirloom diamond, all of the appraisals, polishing the diamond, and the setting. This thing is going to go at least another 100 years 🙂

    Post # 11
    3293 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I guess he spent an equivalent of one week’s pay… which is exactly what I wanted. My ring is more perfect than I could have imagined, and more money really wouldn’t have made my ring any better… since I wanted a specific type of gemstone in one of the less expensive colors. The band is exactly what I dreamed of, as well.

    Post # 12
    3312 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010


    There is no truth to the rule. It is just a highly effective marketing strategy by DeBeers. 

    My husband spent less than one months salary. I would not have been pleased if he spent three months salary on a piece of jewellery, especially since we do not own a home yet. 

    I love my ring set and so does everyone around me. 

    My next ring will be an Asha, which will cost my husband less than one month salary again. I am the one who specifically asked for an Asha, despite the fact that my husband would rather buy a diamond. We made compromise; when we hit our tenth anniversary, he can buy a ring worth one months salary or more. 

    Post # 13
    1984 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: TBD

    Lol wellllll we are students and I personally am against upgrades so he saved up and got me my dream ring (without me knowing!) it cost a big chunk of his earnings from his part time job. 

    Post # 15
    3312 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010


    Such a lovely tradition! 

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