How Many No-Shows?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How Many No-Shows or Last Minute Cancellations?
    0-10 % : (22 votes)
    73 %
    10-20 % : (3 votes)
    10 %
    20-30 % : (2 votes)
    7 %
    30-40% : (1 votes)
    3 %
    40+ % : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    4827 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    Yikes! Your guests seem rude. We had one guest not come because of a sick baby. She told us 28 hours prior to the wedding and we filled in her spot. I’ve never heard of anyone having many no-shows, maybe one or two per wedding?

    Post # 4
    6455 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had three people back out with very good reasons (health related). I know for sure that the others just didn’t show but his mom bullied us into making them as yes so I didn’t think they would show. Outside of that I didn’t even look at the place card table because I just didn’t want to know. I’m sure there were a few more that didn’t show but they weren’t important enough that I noticed (whoops that sounds a little mean).

    Post # 5
    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @somerrae:  Did you have a DW?  I cannot believe that many people no-showed on you!  That is a HUGE financial waste.


    We had 100 people and 7 no-showed.  2 friends, 5 shitty family members.

    Post # 6
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @somerrae:  wow I can’t believe that! How rude!

    Post # 8
    1436 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We invited a total of 60 people (ourselves included) to our wedding which will take place on Friday. We currently have 46 yeses. My Godmother backed out with yet another imagined illness just today. One of my “best friends” said she asked for the time off from work months ago. but never heard back, so she’s not coming. My cousin just recently canceled cuz she has to work (it’s a holiday weekend, she works in a hospital, and she’s a new employee)… we’ll see how many actually show up on Friday!


    We had a wedding in his country in January. We had 6 people back out after they’d already RSVP’d… including his sister. Ugh.

    Post # 9
    4 posts
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’m lucky in that for my wedding, we have to have a 200 person minimum, but if we have no-shows, we get to keep all of the leftovers. I’m planning on having leftovers, so we just have to bring our own containers and the banquet staff pack it up for us.


    So if we have no-shows, it’s their loss, not ours! Plus I loooove left overs. 🙂

    Post # 10
    474 posts
    Helper bee

    A destination wedding for me is if lodging must be arraged for your guests to attend.




    Our wedding would be considered a DW because it’s 9 hours away, even though it’s in the same state. Our families live in San Diego and our wedding is in San Francicso. 






    Post # 11
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @landlubber:  That’s the same way the catering at my shower is going to work.  Leftovers are great, but I’m terrified that a lot of people will no-show and I’m going to have 30 servings of bacon and various brunch items in my fridge LOL

    Post # 12
    3303 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had 2 actually NO SHOW and at least 1 guest brought a date who wasn’t originally invited…and I think we may have accidentally not ordered a vendor meal for at least one vendor so in the end I think it all balanced out.


    The week before though, oh my everyone and their grandma had come down with this or that…some were elaborate tales of impending death, others suddenly got mono and made sure to post how contagious of a disease it is…lol…it was like peeps it’s okay to say you can’t come.  You don’t have to be dying to decline a wedding invite.  So once those were all relieved of their wedding attendance obligations their health returned to sane and we just invited some local friends who apparently had really been wanting to come but we hadn’t thought of them…so again it all worked out.

    But it’s amazing how many people come down with life threatening illnesses the couple days leading up to a wedding.  Weddings sure do bring out the cray.

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