How many non-religious bees waited until marriage to have sex?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How many non-religious bees waited?
    I waited. I am not religious. : (8 votes)
    6 %
    I did not wait. I am not religious. : (87 votes)
    63 %
    I waited. I am religious. : (13 votes)
    9 %
    I did not wait. I am religious. : (29 votes)
    21 %
    Other? : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    577 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    My husband and I are not religious in any way, and we did not wait until we were married, but we did wait until we were sure we were going to get married. It was important to both of us to only be with one person, but we didn’t have to wait until our wedding day to know that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. We have only been with each other, and we weren’t young either, in our mid-20’s at the time. I think this is pretty much unheard of for atheists! 

    Post # 5
    4494 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We’re both atheists.  


    We didn’t wait until marriage.  I did, however, wait until the “I love you point”, which was a little over three months.  He would have happily had sex sooner, but he was very patient with me.


    I think sex is a natural thing, and something that has no shame in it, but it’s also something I wanted to do with someone I was emotionally attached to.  I have no regrets about how we approached it.

    Post # 6
    5208 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @caritas:  That is unheard of, but awesome all the same. There is something to be said about treating sex seriously and making it something special. Its just not treated like that in society anymore.


    @lenabee:  I am a Christian too. DH husband and I waited, but neither of us were virgins on our wedding night. I regret this about 99%. That 1% is because I have a daughter I wouldn’t trade for anything. If not for her, it would be 100%. There is not one guy from my past that was worth it, and I really admire and envy people who have waited for their spouse. 

    Post # 7
    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I waited until we were married and I am not religious. I just never saw the need to take that step with anyone. It would have been a distraction from more important things that I was doing in life and honestly I just think premarital sex is a bad life decision in general. Statistically there are so many risks involved and for something that scientifically is just for reproduction in the first place, there was no need for it prior to marriage anyways.

    Post # 10
    583 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @lenabee:  I have been with SO for almost 3 years now and we get married in August. We are both virgins and Catholic 🙂 but before I converted to Catholicism I still wanted to wait until marriage because I always had this thought in my mind that if you are only a virgin once I would want to save that one special moment for the ONE I would marry. I have absolutely no problem or think any different of anyone that sleeps with people before marriage, but to me it just seemed really special and I’m a bit of a soppy, sentimental kind of girl lol!

    Post # 11
    480 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Maui

    I didn’t wait, and I’ve definitely had more partners than average because I had a phase where I didn’t take sex all that seriously.  Looking back on that time, I have mixed feelings.  Very few of my partners actually meant anything to me and it makes me ask myself why did I even bother having sex with them in the first place?  However, when I was with my first serious boyfriend and had very little experience outside of that relationship, I was always curious about what sex with other people would be like, and I don’t think I could have lived happily without satisfying that curiousity and gaining some experience.  Now I’m satisfied with my experience, and I’m with my fiance, and I feel like I can truly appreciate the bond we share even more because of all of my past experiences.

    I know a woman in her mid-20s who is non-religious and a virgin, and she is waiting until marriage.  Her reasoning is she wants a solid commitment before she gives it up.  She said she would be devastated if she had sex with a guy and he left her afterwards.  

    Post # 12
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2000

    At this moment, I’m the lone ‘other’ vote. My husband and I are non-religious/non-spiritual and had both had sex partners before, but didn’t have sex with each other until after we were married.

    This wasn’t so that it was ‘special’ or because we placed some great importance on it, rather we got married quickly. Like three months after we met. There was so much stress in the planning of a fast, international elopement so that we could stay together (bi-national couple) that we hardly took a breath or had a moment to just relax until after we were married. We did do sexual things, though.

    Looks like utter insanity from the outside, I’ll admit. But 3.5 years later, things are still great!

    Post # 13
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @lenabee:  We’re not religious, but it was a big deal for us, before him I’d been in a 12 year relationship, and he had been in an 8 year relationship.  We waited until we both knew we were going to be together ‘for the long haul’

    Post # 14
    1443 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

    nope. I 100% belive it’s ok to have sex just for fun, as long as it doesn’t hurt anybody. I knew I wanted to be in a loving committed relationship one day, but until then, why deny myself the fun? 

    Post # 15
    1259 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Not religious and did not wait. I could not imagine marrying someone I have not had sex with.

    Post # 16
    8480 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Not religious and I did not wait.  Very happy about that.

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