Post # 1
How many of your guests that have RSVP YES actually show up at your wedding ceremony? We may make a change in the location of our actual wedding and the place only seats 130 MAX. We are inviting around 200 and expect about 175 since some will rsvp no. I think we will be safe as I know I haven’t always gone to the actual wedding, but only to the reception. Any one have any numbers on this?
Post # 3
This is a big NOOOOO. Do not invite more people than your venue can handle. 100% of the people who RSVP’d yes came. I would have been really insulted if people came to the party but not the wedding, actually….something you may want to keep in mind for future weddings you attend. If they are good enough friends to get free food and booze from, they are good enough friends to actually sit through their wedding.
Post # 4
Don’t do it!!! WAY too stressful!
Post # 5
Definitely don’t invite too many people for your venue, just in case! We invited around 120 and only 80 or so actually showed up. I think 100ish had RSVPed “yes.”
Post # 6
I just think back to weddings that I have been to and the churches had maybe half of the people that were at the reception. If we had 175 people coming we would only have to have 30 or 40 people not show up to the actual church. I’m thinking we will be ok, but I definatly don’t want a disator on the wedding day! I always thought that many people just choose to go to the reception.
Post # 7
I guess it depends on your circle, I know with our family and friends weddings are considered an all day event and almost everyone attends the ceremony and the reception. Hoping that 40 people don’t show up is risky though… That’s almost 25% of your guests.
Post # 8
I’ve been invited to weddings from people all over the country, and I had never heard of this concept of guests who don’t bother to show up for the ceremony and only come for the free food and (usually) booze at the reception.
Cut your guest list to the maximum that either venue can hold or find a new venue. Will you turn people away if they show up to your ceremony and the room is full? How are you prepared to handle it if someone who you invited to share in your day shows up and is turned away because you didn’t balance out your guest list and venue? I know I’d be pretty pissed and would likely believe your invitation was only to get a gift out of me since you clearly weren’t prepared to actually host the number of people you invited.
I think the idea of A & B guest lists is pretty tacky since it lets people know exactly much (or little) you think of them compared to others, but even that is better than turning people away from the door because you invited 70 people too many.
I would also add that while you think only about 175 will show up, be prepared for every single person. I’m pretty sure every bride can relate a story of people who they “knew” wouldn’t show up responded with a positive RSVP.
Post # 9
There might be a couple of people who don’t make it to the church on time, but you’re talking about 45 to 70 people! Youshould plan for the possibility that everyone attends.
Post # 10
I’ve never skipped out on the ceremony personally.
Post # 11
A few people may skip the ceremony, but it’s pretty unlikely that 35% of those invited will miss it! Cut the list or move your ceremony. There’s not any other options.