Post # 1
So we are getting married in the middle of the week in FL. Most of our guests will be there all week. If you were spending a week down in FL celebrating, would you rather have more free time, or would you like to have optional events? And which of these would interest you?
Sunday- Father’s Day Cookout
Girls- shopping outting
Guys- golf outting
7-9 Rehearsal dinner for all guests
These are optional, but would you feel obligated?
Post # 3
I think a cookout would be fun and it would let your guests still be free with their time.
Post # 4
I think that is a fantastic idea. I wouldn’t feel obligated but it would be nice to have some structure – and there’s still plenty of time to fit other activities in, if so desired.
Post # 5
I’d probably go to the cookout and rehearsal dinner to mingle. Other than that I would probably want to spend time touring around with my husband. I do like the options of having events to go to though!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
I agree, these do all sound nice ^^ and not too time consuming. If it’s clear they’re optional I don’t see why there’d be a problem.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@swisea01: I would probably attend all but the shopping just because I personally don’t like spending my vacation time shopping. I want to enjoy the sunshine and EXPERIENCE things!
DH and I just travelled for a friend’s wedding but we also planned on being there for a week and exploring the area. I kind of think the B&G were offended we didn’t spend more time with them, but there weren’t planned events like that, it was an end of the night text message saying “we’re all here doing this” and we were already exhausted from exploring all day. So I guess what I’m trying to say is don’t be offended if people opt out!
Post # 8
I voted to attend the cookout and rehearsal dinner because those are things you would do with your significant other and/or children. I probably would not attend the shopping trip… Maybe you could plan a spa day instead of the shopping trip? More people may go to that.
Post # 9
It depends. If I knew a lot of the other guests, I would be happy to attend most or all of these events. However, if I didn’t know anyone else, then it is unlikely I would go. For example, we attended a super small DW and it was all family and just a BFF for the bride and groom. We were invited to a bachelorette/bachelor party/hangout and we gracefully declined. We ended up attending the RD however.
Post # 10
We are having about 60 guests and most will know multiple people. I know that the golf outting will be something many of the men in our group will enjoy because my FFIL, Grandpa, FI, Dad and step dad all can/enjoy golfing. The shopping trip would be to St. Armands Circle, which is a very nice outdoor shopping center. My FIL’s are offering to foot the lunch bill for anyone coming too.
Post # 11
I would feel obligated to attend all if the whole purpose of going to FL was to celebrate. I would pick option 1 and 3 to go for sure. I WOULD do all three, but the second option is not appealing to me and I would dread going. I just hate shopping with people!