Post # 1
Ok – so I’m curious – how many of us here are already married and still planning their wedding?
Whatever the reason – school – job – insurance – kids – whatever…I’m just curious. 🙂
When DID you become “legal” and when is your WEDDING?
Also – do you celebrate your “legal” day – or will you ONLY celebrate your wedding anniversary? Also – if you will – what is/was your reason? Does everyone know? Does no one know?
Wedding: 26-June-2010 / we will only celebrate this day. 🙂
REASON: He needed surgery/insurance and the only way to immediately put him on mine was to get hitched!
Who knows?: Only a handful – my parents, his mom and brother, two ministers, my Maid/Matron of Honor and her husband – and a handful of others. But about 90% of who’ll be at the wedding do NOT know. 🙂
Post # 3
Fiance is in the military, so we very seriously considered going to the JOP and still having our wedding in October. In the end, we didn’t but it was definitely an option for us.
Post # 4
we arent like legally married but kinda in the state of Texas we are common law married and we live together and we are planning a wedding.
we bought a house together first and then he popped the question.
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
We are actually going the legal stuff the week after the wedding (when we get back) because of legalities of getting married out of the country. A few people in our family know but not many.
Post # 6
In Canada we’re considered Common Law so we might as well be married.
On each other’s benefits/insurance/RRSP’s
The only thing that will change is having a “legal” piece of paper and my last name.
Post # 7
that’s all? I swore there were more here… 😀
and I’ve always wondered about “common law” – is that only in certain states?
Post # 8
My Fiance and I have been together for 8 years and we decided we wanted to move in together. Because he’s Canadian and I’m American (we live border towns about 15 minutes apart), the American Gov’t frowns on non-citizens moving to the US without a Visa. When we contacted our attorney, he advised us that we had to get married for him to get a Visa, and the sooner we got married, the sooner we could start the paperwork (the whole process takes between 8 months and 1.5 years). My proposal was basically my Fiance turning to me in the lawyer’s office and saying “are you free next weekend”?
We had a civil ceremony with our closest family and we are planning a September wedding with all of our family and friends when his paperwork is complete.
The Green Card process has been a really long and stressful so far (the Gov’t does not make it easy for people who LEGALLY want to be in the US). Everyone is 100% supportive of us, and can’t wait to celebrate once the whole process is over! We didn’t see any reason to keep it a secret. Our situation is unique, but we’re doing what we have to do to be together. It’ll be a great story for the grandkids!!
Post # 9
My husband and I were legally married in 2008 while I was in university and just had our wedding this may. Everybody knew about it but the day was amazing. We wanted to have our church wedding with all of our family and friends and were unable to the first time around.
my husband and I had been together for 4 years and had just gotten engaged when he joined the military. While in basic training I found out i was pregnant – big surprise! The military would not give us housing and I was going to lose the midwife in his area that I had been on a 5 month waiting list for. So we had a quick legal ceremony and that was that. This time around our vows meant so much more. We were able to plan the wedding we wanted on our schedule with no external pressures – I couldnt have asked for anything more!
Post # 10
We are technically common-law as far as the gov’t is concerned; however, we don’t consider ourselves married yet!
Our wedding day will make it legal for us!
Post # 11
We are getting married in mexico so we will be getting legally married a week before our actual ceremony. We will only celebrate the ceremony date though 🙂
Post # 12
Legal Wedding: 08.08.09
Who knows: Our parents, siblings, and 3 friends
Why: Fiance wanted to do it that way – wanted it to be intimate – wanted to get on his (FREE!!) insurance earlier
Where: did it w/ the Justice of the Peace in our first home where we also got engaged
Fiance wantws to celebrate our anniversary on 10.01 but i am gonna try to get 2 celebrations per year out of him and also celebrate the Aug date – why not?!?
Post # 13
We didn’t tell anyone outside of that circle because a lot of people would judge us for having a ceremony/reception after the fact – they would think we just wanted gifts/$$ – My gramma doesn’t know exactly for that reason! She thinks its “stupid” in her words.
Post # 14
We had our legal ceremony on January 21st 2009 with only his mom and my dad present. We only had that ceremony because we were both dirt poor and that time and wanted to be able to save as much money as possible before the big wedding (combine insurances, etc) We consider our actual wedding date, June 20th 2009 to be our anniversary date because that is when all of our friends and familiy witnessed us getting married. Also, I want to count the day when I got to wear my dress! So our 1 year anniversary is in 10 days! Woo hoo!
Post # 15
We have actually thought about to save tons of money to just go the the courthouse and be done with it, especially since I am 6 months pregnant now. He proposed in November of 2009 and I didn’t become pregnant until December of 2009, but we still really want the wedding, so we are waiting. Maybe some people understand it, and some people believe that we should be married before the baby is born, but I want to get married and do it the right way. Just my bit of opinion.
Post # 16
Legal: March 25, 2010
Wedding: September 25, 2010 — we get to celebrate an anniversary every 6 months! We will celebrate our marriage anniversary in March and our wedding anniversary in September.
REASON: He needed health insurance and we had to be married to add him to my plan.
Who knows?: Just my best friend who was our witness. I have already changed my name, so the government knows as well as the DMV and all of my credit card companies. 🙂 It’s kinda fun having it be a secret!