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How many of you drink to deal with your family around the holidays?

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    SleepingWithNuns    November 11, 2011  

    I know this sounds horrible but I promise it's not. It's no secret that I don't get along with my parents. I love them but I feel unwanted, and every visit is a fight. After the wedding I decided to give them one last chance. And that is dinner tonight. I'm kinda freaking out because after the wedding we stopped talking due to me, and I don't want to bother explaining. I had a shot the morning of my wedding and it helped calm me down a little, so I thought I'd drink until I had the fuzzies for tonight's disaster party. 

    I'm pretty terrified. 

    My parents don't like drinking, but that's what mouthwash is for, right? 

    I'm on my second beer, 1.5 shots of vanilla vodka, and half a cup of coffee and baileys so far. 

    So, how many of you drink so you can have some liquid courage around the holidays?

     
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    kaylee26    January 1, 2014  

    @SleepingWithNuns: I feel for you. Hope it goes better than expected.

     
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    burris4    December 16, 2004   Illinois

    lol.  I feel for you because if I had to deal with my MIL I would be driven to drinking as well.  Fortunately, we disowned her for good about 8 years ago.  They have been a wonderful 8 years too.  Good luck.

     
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    Amy43026    December 31, 2012   Columbus, oh

    I always drink around the family, it just loosens me up and allows those snarky comments to roll off my back. I would still be drinking on Xmas even if it was just FI and myself, we enjoy cocktails on the holidays :)

     
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    kaylee26    January 1, 2014  

    I'll add that I sometimes drink when my mom is in a critical mood (she's gotten better at that).

     
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    linguo42    February 27, 2011   Vancouver, B.C.

    wish I could, but DH isn't covered on my car insurance yet so I have to stay sober to drive us to and from family crap this year.

    Sending good thoughts (and shots) your way!

     
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    beekiss      

    I don't drink but I wish you much luck!

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    My side of the family is cool enough that neither my husband nor I feels the urge to drink to deal with them. We'll often drink with them, but that's a different thing entirely! My in-laws, on the other hand ... let's just say that when my husband and I visit, we are well aware of all of the nearby bars.

     
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    pancakes31    August 28, 2012   canada

    I feel you trust me! Sometimes i feel like i need at least 3 drinks to have a phone conversation with my mother lol

     
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    MissPumpkinPie    October 13, 2012   Jersey Shore

    I don't drink to deal with my family.  I'm already an alcoholic as it is (I don't drink anymore though! I've been sober for two years now).  I would be in bad, bad shape if I did drink every time.  My family is nuts.  Point blank.

     
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    AmeliaBedelia    March 3, 2012   Georgia

    Gah, I feel that. I do sometimes, but mostly I just drink a glass of wine. A shot might be necessary this year..Hm..

     
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    sleepingbeauty88       Northern Virginia

    i don't drink to deal with the holidays, but i definitely drank to deal with the pain i was feeling with my mom's last divorce. her ex-husband, my "father", and I hit a huge snag and I basically told him to F off and get out of my life. there were a few weeks, maybe a month where I drank nightly.

     
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    Rachael432    July 13, 2012   Chicago, IL

    I drink to deal with FI's family. Unfortunately, I can't drink for another two months at least, and this is the year I may have to meet my FFIL who walked out when FI was 3 and never looked back. Went off and had a happy little family in another state and was never there for FI, but is looked at as a God by his mother, who blames FI for their bad relationship.

     
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    bookworm88    August 4, 2012  

    Yes! SO is driving over to my parents for lunch, then we're going to his house afterwards. I'll drink to stay calm around my family, then we'll go celebrate and have fun with his. 

    (Don't get me wrong, I love my family. My mother and I are just very similar people and grate on one another.)

     
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    jocember    August 17, 2013   Syracuse, NY

    Yes. I pass it off as "here's some awesome wine" and it works two-fold: my mother gets drunk enough to stop being a bitch and I am drunk enough to stop caring about anything.

    Happy holidays, indeed.

     
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    onelovegal       The South

    @SleepingWithNuns: I do I do!  Gonna break out some de-lish red here in about 2.5!

     
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    An Alaskan Bride    August 13, 2011   Alaska

    Not with my immediate family because we all get along. But my extended family? Let's just say that next round is on me.

     
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    Drinking? No. Avoidance? Yes.

     
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    MerryWidow    July 21, 2012   Saratoga, NY

    LOL, a couple of years ago my first MIL and I got drunk in the kitchen together on Bailey's!!  I get along well with my family, and since both of my siblings like their cocktails I tend to stay sober.  However, my FI and his family are not very close, and I know if we had to spend the holidays with them one or both of us would probably have cocktails!

     
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    Mollytov    August 29, 2011   Vancouver

    I think THEY drink to deal with me ... 

     
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    ticatica    July 2012   UK

    @MissPumpkinPie:

    2 years - congrats :)

     

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