How many of you have had an argument with your SO which was caused by Facebook?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you ever had an argument with SO which directly started due to Facebook?
    Yes- He did something on FB which caused a minor arguement : (13 votes)
    11 %
    Yes- He did something on FB which caused a major arguement/breakup : (9 votes)
    8 %
    Yes- I did something on FB which caused a minor arguement : (7 votes)
    6 %
    Yes- I did something on FB which caused a major arguement/breakup : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Yes- We have both done something which caused an arguement on Facebook (minor) : (6 votes)
    5 %
    Yes- We have both done something which caused an arguement on Facebook (major/breakup) : (0 votes)
    No- We have never had an arguement which involved Facebook : (67 votes)
    58 %
    No- We do not have Facebook : (6 votes)
    5 %
    Other (please explain) : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    4043 posts
    Honey bee

    nessdawwg:  Nope, never an argument caused by Facebook in our 10 1/2 year relationship. I am a regular user and he uses it about 2-3 times a week. I tend not to comment or like very much stuff, and he never comments or likes. We also don’t post very often, so we are fairly drama free.

    I will say, I do have a somewhat off topic theory about Facebook and relationships in general…I feel like the couple I know IRL who have unstable, highly dramatic relationships go out of their way to look really put together, lovey dovey and perfect on Facebook. They are the ones who post, “I love you so much hon,” on each other’s walls (despite living together) and “best husband/wife ever” posts. Yet, when we are around them, they bicker, fight and piss each other off. It’s very interesting…  

    Post # 3
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    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

    We’ve never had an argument regarding Facebook or any other social media site in our 5-year relationship, but funny that you bring this topic up because I just read an article today about Twitter being the number social media site causing tension in relationships (or something like that anyway).  Let me see if I can go find it!

    ETA: So it was actually stating some sort of a correlation of men cheating & having Twitter ..more so than Facebook even! 

    http://living.msn.com/love-relationships/love-sex/warning-guys-who-tweet-a-lot-might-cheat-a-lot?ocid=vt_fbmsnliv

    Post # 6
    Member
    4043 posts
    Honey bee

    nessdawwg:  Yeah, there are a few that will air their dirty laundry on Facebook as well. 

    We haven’t had any misinterpeted arguments either. I literally just “stalk” people on Facebook (yeah, I am a bit of a creeper) and he just browses occasionally. So there isn’t much to misinterpet.

    Now, we did get in an argument about the Weddingbee once though. I kept trying to get him to answer poll questions and he thought I was spending “too much time” on the site. Hehe, ok maybe I was. It was a fairly short argument, but definitely a difference of opinion. 🙂

    Post # 7
    Member
    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Nope. But I am not insecure about anything having to do with him and anyone else online. We didn’t even bother with the relationship stuff on FB until we got engaged.

    Post # 9
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    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

    nessdawwg:  I’m thinking Twitter because more men tend to use Twitter versus Facebook (these days at least ..& this is just my observation, no research here haha). 

    It’s not the most legit article & it’s pretty vague, but it suggests that Twitter is a distraction for the men in the relationship causing them to drift apart & therefore cheat.  Riiiiiight!

    Post # 10
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    5204 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    nessdawwg:  Nope.  

    But I think it’s an important that arguments aren’t caused by facebook.  They are caused by people’s behavior.  Facebook just happens to be a vehicle for that behavior.  The issues you are talking about are lack of trust, infedelity, etc.  Since FB is a vehicle in which a HUGE portion of communication is conducted these days, it’s inevitable that FB will be involved.  

    Post # 12
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    187 posts
    Blushing bee

    I just posted something about this very topic on a diff thread on here lol.  The probalem with FB or social media that makes things different now is the shear fact that people from your past can watch your life or fake life as I like to call it, (FB is not real ahhh but people sure pretend it is!) play out online.  I mean, once upon a time, your ex was your ex, you cut ties and often did not see them again.  Nowadays, no matter what they are right there in your face.  De friend, re freind blah blah..there are always shared pics and friends no matter what and eventually you see what they are up to nomatter what.  This is a weird phenomenon, its like people never really go away.  In our early days of dating, we had ex’s on both of our ends try to butt in and try to destroy our relationship.  Its just weird and IMO out of control.  I miss the days of wondering WTH people were up to ….Im all for a little mystery, bring the days of mystery back!!

    Post # 13
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    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Early in our relationship we had some fights about Facebook, but that ultimately stemmed from my own insecurities and feelings if jealousy. Since I have mostly worked passed that, and he has proven himself trustworthy, we haven’t had an issue

    Post # 14
    Member
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Excalibur

    This is one reason I don’t have fb. I don’t even know if I can call FI a bad communicator…he doest communicate at all! I got tired of having to find out everything through his mom’s FB. Things not only a FI but a gf should know. It caused a lot of arguments but he is not going to communicate so I decided it was easier to block his mom and not even bother knowing since it would make me angry.

    Post # 15
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    3878 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We both have Facebook accounts and are on Facebook often (although neither of us post much). We’ve been together over 11 years; I’ve had Facebook for 7-8 years – never had anything on Facebook cause a fight.

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