(Closed) How many of you ladies got proposed to when your man got back from war?

posted 6 years ago in Military
Post # 3
515 posts
Busy bee

My Fiance proposed before I went overseas to my duty station. We’re both mil. Not exactly the same but that’s how it happend for us.

As far as the letter goes, I have no idea if he’s ‘sizing you up’ so to speak. He may just be curious. I don’t think you need to worry about being vulnerable. He asked to hear it, so you should tell him honestly in the letter what your goals, hopes, dreams are for the next year, few years, your life. Maybe he wants to see if you are on the same page/timeline or close to it. Don’t worry about looking like an idiot, haha. Just share with him like he asked you to. He may want to ride around Australia, but he may not want to do it alone, you know. ๐Ÿ™‚ I think you might be pleasantly surprised with his letter.

Post # 4
12885 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not a military bride, but my sister is.  Her husband proposed shortly before he deployed to Iraq, and the got married three months after he got back (they pushed it up a lot because of housing logisitics and not being able to live together on post and all that jazz).

Like PP said, I have no idea what his intentions are with the letter, but be open and truthful.  If your relationship is so solid, you can say anything, even if it’s “I see us having two kids and a house and a white picket fence in five years” or whatever it may be.  I think he’d appreciate the desire to build a life together after he gets back. 

On a side note, I hope he comes home soon and safe!

Post # 5
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My fiancé proposed about 3 months after he got back from Afghanistan. But it had been planned for a long time. We had been together 7 years at that point and wanted to experience a deployment before marrying.

As far as the letter goes, it sounds like a good sign. Take it at face value though, don’t try to read too much more into it. Asking for that letter means he really wants to know what you want. probably so he can see if his goals match up. I wouldn’t expect a proposal right away, but I can’t imagine he’s not leaning that way.

Post # 6
1833 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree, though I have found it is common to get engaged on both sides of deployment, you two seem to be moving in the right dirrection. I would take the letter thing at face value and use it as a time to really sit down and analyze your self. What do you want with him, what would you want without him. are they the same? are you altering what you want for him (hopefully not) He might want to know that your futures are compatable.

This is kind of cute and funny to me becuase when my Fiance and I started getting really serious I showed him a list of things in my jourlal of all the things I wanted to accomplish in life with or without someone. I was suprised to find out that he had a similar list, and there were many similar things, we both wanted to travel, we both want to start businesses, we both want to live far away from anyone in a small little cabin. I hope you can find that your hopes and dreams will allign well too.

Post # 7
1133 posts
Bumble bee

I’m not with a military man BUT I do want to say I got lost in youtube one day and started watching all of these military proposals. There are so many on youtube where the soldier got back and proposed right there in the airport after seeing his lady for the first time in months-year! Freakin cute. I couldn’t stop crying. I can only imagine going that long without seeing my man! 

To your question though, be honest with him! You said your relationship is solid so I see no reason is letting him know that you want to be with him and have kids sometime in your future! ๐Ÿ™‚ I think if he’s really looking to get a feel for what you want, tell him whatever that is! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
515 posts
Busy bee

Please let us know how it goes. ๐Ÿ™‚

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