Post # 1
I have 3 close friends… two of them are married, and one is not. I thought friend #3 was going to get married soon, but he and his gf just broke up. I was a little relieved, because I wasn’t convinced she was right for him.
I know I shouldn’t say this on Weddingbee, but I actually prefer my friends to be single! Sometimes it seems that when people get married, we all become interested in the same things (real estate, school districts, babies, etc.). That’s fine – I’m interested in all that stuff too! I just like to mix things up a bit too.
Anyway Bee and I have been talking about throwing more dinner parties, to meet more people and to mix things up a bit. We don’t really do double dates a lot, so maybe this way we’ll meet some young exciting people… unlike this old married couple haha!
I’m curious: how many of your friends are married versus single? How do you keep your social lives fun and exciting?
Post # 3
Most of our grad school friends are married, while most of our undergrad friends are not! (Which is opposite of what I expected.) Still, I’d say the majority are married. Which is why we will be doing neither the bouquet toss nor the garter toss at our wedding. Not enough people in the crowd!
Post # 4
This is a great question! My friends are late bloomers. Many of them are just getting married for the first time now. It’s been really fun to go through the same things at the same time… and a little strange that we all waited so long to get married. Then again, many of my girlfriends are younger than me.
I do have a small group of friends that have recently divorced (2) or broken up after long term relationships. I’m always amazed at the amount of support they provide me despite their own relationship difficulties. I try to be there for them as well, and to be mindful of their situations.
Then, there are the single girls. There aren’t so many anymore, but a few are still going strong 🙂 I’m glad I’m not in their shoes, but glad that they’re waiting for the right person and having fun!
Post # 5
Almost all of our friends are married. And the one’s that aren’t are in long-term committed relationships. We’re pretty much the last one’s to marry.
Post # 6
Probably half of them are married and half are not. I probably know many more married friends than I think but since they don’t hang out any more or do fun things, I don’t really *remember* them.
Regardless, married friends who do not have kids or just have an outgoing personality are still regulars in my social scene. With those fun friends, we like to keep our social life active by going out to a bar and getting a beer, trying out new restaurants, new hiking trails, working out, visit new exhibits, dinner partiies, movies, etc.
Once ppl have kids, they really can easily be disconnected with those that don’t since kids really dominate their lives. I don’t have kids now I’m so not interested hearing about school districts or whatnots. It’s just so boring. I don’t like to bore other ppl about my wedding plans so I would feel that I shouldn’t have to listen to other parents about their school districts. It’s fun to see friends w/ kids once in a while & to catch up but it’s not really practical to hang out w/ them on a regular basis, esp they need to schedule their baby sitter or be limited in the typs of activities they can do since they’re now w/ a kid. It’s sad but ’tis life.
Post # 7
In my circle, I am the first to get married.
In his, he’s the last. Seriously. Most of his friends have been married 10+ years!
Post # 8
I’d go half and half. None of my closest friends who are married have kids, though, and I think that’s probably what changes the discussions. I don’t think we’re more boring now that we’re married!
I prefer to have married friends, or at least friends in relationships, because I am most happy when I’m hanging out with friends along with my husband. There have been times when we’ve gone out together with a few of my girlfriends, and that’s been okay, but it’s always best for everyone to have a nice mix of couples. Usually when I go out without him, I get exhausted and can’t wait to come home.
Post # 9
Almost all of my friends are married.
But my two best friends (a guy and a woman) are both single, too. So, that helps!!!
Post # 10
I’m the first one!!! My fiance is also the first one too!!! It seems like everyone one he knows … like all the guys, are getting engaged now though.
Post # 11
My sister and my last single gf both got married this year, so that just leaves… me. Among my girlfriends, anyway. I still have a few guy friends who haven’t tied the knot yet, but the number is dwindling.
Of my fiance’s friends, he’s the last to get married by a long shot. He’s older than I am, and most of his friends have either been married or in commited relationships for years.
Post # 12
My friends are ALL unmarried!! We’re the first of our friends to marry and pretty young.
Still, many of our friends are engaged or in very serious relationships. Many of my fiance’s friends are not, however, and honestly it’s caused a little strife-they can sometimes have trouble accepting the amount of time he wants to spend with me.
Post # 13
I’m 24, it seems like only a handful of friends are married and/or engaged. It’s fun because I feel like I get to groundbreak on a lot of planning, and I look forward to upcoming engagements and weddings over the years. Hopefully we will be the couple that people can turn-to with questions, etc.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
Great question, Mr. Bee!
Only two of my friends are married ladies and it’s kind’ve hard for me sometimes. I often have a hard time relating to my single friends (whom I love dearly!!) because we’re in SUCH different places.
It’s interesting to hear someone who’s on the other side of that feeling, though!
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2009 - Catholic ceremony, reception at local armory
Several of my college friends are married, but I am the first of my high school friends (the girls at least) to get married. It’s funny because there really is a huge difference between married vs. single. If you want a fun night out, call the single ones. A nice dinner party, I’d call the married ones.
Post # 16
One of my friends is dating, but the others are single. (I hate using the word "single" and applying it to all non-married people — just because you’re not legally married doesn’t mean that you’re not committed!) =) None of them are married. But, then again, I’m 19 (the second-oldest of the bunch), so that’s to be expected.