Post # 1
If you included “and Guest” on your invitations then approximately what was your percentage of +1’s versus named guests?
This is something I have been curious about for a while, especially when I see the “but it will double my guest list” arguement. Full disclosure– I think everyone should be allowed the option of that +1.
Looking back (thank you, spreadsheet), out of 105 invitations, we only had 12 that included “and Guest.” Of those invited with +1’s, only 3 of them brought dates. (7 of those 12 attended). Numbers-wise, that’s about 3 +1’s out of about 180 people.
So I’m curious, if you extended the blanket +1 to all, what percentage of attendees did that actually take up?
Post # 3
We had 4 +1’s. that was my four single friends. Both FI and are are like the last to get married and just about everyone we know is married. All 4 are coming and bring a guest – it’s a destination wedding – no one wants to travel alone 🙂
Post # 4
We only gave a plus 1 to people who were in “serious” relationships generally defined by engaged, living together or together for more than 2 years.
We found out everyone’s names and didnt do a plus one at all therefore.
almost everyone had a date with a few exceptions.
Post # 5
My invite list is 247 people – and that includes 15 “and guests”. Our ‘friend’ list is 75 people. Most of them are married or in a serious relationship where we know their boyfriend or girlfriend. Maybe it’s different if you are younger and not a lot of your friends are in relationships, but I’m 30 and FI is 35.
I always knew I wanted to include room in my budget for our friends to bring dates. I hated not being able to bring a date to a wedding. Super awkward to be one of the only single people there, even if you know other people.
Post # 6
@CityBearBride: I think this might be it. I don’t know if there’s a relation to the no “and guest” decisions and the phase of life most of your friends are at. We decided we wanted to offer the “and guest” to the single friends after years of going to weddings separately because we didn’t fit into the married/engaged/living-together criteria that deemed us “non-single.”
Post # 7
I think about 3 total? Everybody else I contacted and inquired as to what the name of their significant other was, and then invited them, and only them specifically.
Post # 8
we’re inviting mostly married/established couples to our DW.. the only “and guest” will be my sister because shes not in an established relationship.. the only other single we’re inviting is his mom and she won’t get a +1 because she’ll know other family there and will likely go with FHs sister.
Post # 9
59 of our invitations are getting & Guest. We are sending 127 invitations, so 46%.
EVERYONE who didn’t have a spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend on the invitation got an & Guest. That includes people like FI’s 85 year old grandmother, his mom, my aunt, etc. People who most definitely will not bring a guest, but I wanted to extend the invitation. I’d be fine with it if they wanted to bring a friend or something! I think there are certain people it would make sense for.
We are sending out in 2 weeks, so no idea how many will take advantage of it. I have done lots of calculations/guesses though and I bet right around half who RSVP yes and have an & guest will bring one. But I think there will also be a fair amount that RSVP no, and I’m not counting them in that calculation.