- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I just realize something. I always feel a certain amount of anger towards my mother and I don’t like it and haven’t always understood it.
Whenever my mom comes home from work she tells us all about her work and problems she’s having. If its an ongoing problem sometimes me or my dad will ask her about how it’s going the next day.
I realized though that the only time she brings up something with someone else it’s normally my brother and something with his work because they work at the same place. She’ll participate in my conversations about my stresses if she feels like it, but nothing is ever brought up.
i think it especially bothers me because she never asks about my wedding planning. Never. Half the time when I bring anything up she gets all weird and sarcastic about it. Same with when I vent about FI’s family which has serious problems. One time when we were going through a lot of crap with his family she said “I don’t want to hear about it”.
recently she was venting about my brother and Future Sister-In-Law. there were some minor irritations. Literally one day later that did something that irritated me and I said something about it and she said “I dont want to talk about it. I like how things are right now and I don’t want to hear about it.”
i got pissed and kind of snapped and said “if you’re allowed to vent, I’m allowed to vent.” And she said, “yeah you’re allowed to vent!” As if she lets me do it all the time.
Just curious before I lose my cool with her and tell her what I think – is this typical mom behavior or not? If its normal I’ll calm down, but many times I don’t think she cares about my wedding at all or even really any part of my life. She doesn’t ask a damn thing. Most of the time the only time anything is accomplished in conversation is if an aunt or uncle calls and asks and then she asks me to keep them updated. Sigh…