Post # 1
Bees, I just realized from one of my FI’s friends that our wedding day is the opening season for bird hunting. He jokingly said that we should have a 5 minute wedding so that he can then go hunting before the reception. Found out that his wife, when they got the STD asked him if he was gonna go to our wedding.Im sure he wont, but I never knew that our wedding day is the start of the bird hunting season.
Then my next experience is with my uncle. He wanted to know y I picked a day that is so close to his daughters birthday. This is the one that I kind of got mad at. I told him I have only met your daughter one time when she was a baby, I dont know her birthday! ANd besides, if we could not get married around someones birthday in our family, we would never be able to marry! There are so many birthdays!! I told him hes nuts if he thinks I picked the date on purpose or that Im going to arrange my wedding around someones birthday!!
So whats been your experience?
Post # 3
Ugh, people are just really self-centered unfortunately. Especially the second one – your daughter’s birthday is not a national event, dude. Nobody cares except for you and your immediate family.
I also find it ridiculous that your friend won’t come because the wedding is on the start of a hunting season, but then again I find hunting ridiculous so perhaps I’m not the best judge for that sort of thing.
Sorry you’re having to deal with this. We were worried with our date, too – originally wanted September 7, but it’s too close to labor day so we moved it back to steer clear of most immediate family birthdays/general holidays.
Post # 4
People can be so annoying. I’m actually thinking of having my wedding on my dad’s wifes bday and I don’t really care. People should keep their thoughts to themselves.. Sorry you’ve having to listen to their nonsense.
Post # 5
People would always ask me “Why November?”..not necessarily the day. Can’t say I blame them though, since it’s not a typical wedding month
Post # 5
All our older guests are used to summer weddings so everyone over 30 felt the need to let us know that January is cold… we know that. We chose January cause Mr Rugbee’s eczema flares up in the summer & I was sure as hell not going to have my wedding overlap with rugby season: I knew a bride that broke her left hand the week before her wedding.
We got married downtown, many of our suburban guests(same ones that complained about the weather) also complained about parking & driving “all the way into the city”. I had reserved a block of rooms at a hotel literally RIGHT NEXT DOOR…
Honestly: my wedding was fantastic. Our friends danced til 3 then either rolled themselves to the hotel 50m over or took a 15$ cab home.
Post # 6
@MrsRugbee: Haha, loving the mental image of drunk wedding guests rolling into a hotel like sea slugs.
Post # 7
@MissCalifornia: By 3am my Father-In-Law still had the mental faculties to lead himself back to his room but not the motor skills. BIL/his son had to provide propultion.
Post # 8
I’ve been getting a lot of people asking “Why November?” lately and it’s pretty simple, 1. I love fall and 2. central Arkansas is gorgeous in November! We actually pushed ours back one week because my fiance’s father’s birthday is the week before. Oddly enough my grandma was married the last day of May and said people always used to ask her “did you do that to be different?” or “too good to get married in June huh?” because apparently June is THE month for weddings. She said that just happened to be the day that both her and my grandpa could make time to go and get married.
I find it pretty insane that your wedding being “around” his daughter’s birthday to be a big deal. Is it going to mean that he won’t get her a gift? Or “sorry no one is coming to your birthday party because your cousin is getting married in 2 weeks” it doesn’t detract from her birthday at all, especially if yu guys aren’t really all that close.