Post # 1
This is sort of a spin-off of the polls asking about ‘sexual partner’ numbers and I was curious: how many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had?
My DH and I were each other’s first everything… first boyfriend/girlfriend, first kiss, first sexual partner, etc. We met when I was 19 and he was 23. We’d both simply chosen not to date yet because we didn’t want to play the “dating game”. I mean, we went to homecoming and prom with friends and had the occasional ‘date’ — but never had what our culture would define as a ‘boyfriend’ or ‘girlfriend’. Separately we both had the same idea of “if I can’t picture marrying them I’m not going to mess around dating”.
It just so happened (luck, blessed, destiny — or God took care of our hearts) that the first person we both could actually see working out was each other. Cool, right? There were some pretty major issues we had to work through; I mean MAJOR learning curves on almost every level. But we’re married and so far so good!
SO back to my original question to satisfy my own curiosity… how weird are we? 😉
Post # 3
Depends what you mean by partner.
I’ve had 3 long term relationships.
I’ve had about 3 or 4 flings/fuck buddies
I’ve had full sex with 18 men
I’ve done ‘other stuff’ with about another 10
I’ve kissed countless.
At 8 years, my relationship with my OH is by far the longest. OH has only had sex with 4 women including me, and I’m his first relationship.
Personally, I’m SO glad I had the experiences I did before him and sometimes I wish he’d had sex with more women.
Post # 4
I’ve had 3 long term relationships. One of those was in high school, but we dated for 2.5 years, so not sure how much that really counts. Then one guy in college and then my husband.
Post # 5
@Benni: Are we including teenage bf/gf?
Post # 6
@barbie86: Haha good record keeping! 😉 We’ve certainly had our share of awkward, inexperienced moments (and I’m sure there are much more to come), but personally I’m glad to share them all with him and he with me. Awkward but enjoyable
@jadlnc: Ummmm… yes. Again, just for curiosity’s sake. Anyone you’ve called or been called boyfriend/girlfriend.
Post # 7
@Benni: Oooh, geez. If we’re counting all the non-sexual “Hee-hee, we’re bf/gf” 1-2 months “relationships” from highschool, plus real, adult relationships I’ve got to be pushing 40. lol
Post # 9
I only counted the good sex in my number.
Post # 10
I dated four different guys between the age of 16 and 19. The longest stretch there was four or five months. My FH is definitely my longest relationship – together since we were 19. I’d had some experience (handjobs/bjs – giving, but never receiving. I was a lonely girl trying to hold on to a boy. it didn’t work), but he’d never had a girlfriend before me.
Post # 11
I’ve had 3 long-term relationships, and 4 friends with benefits. I hate to admit it, but most think I’ve done a lot more than I have haha!
Post # 12
This is really a difficult question because even though I think I’ve called over 7 guys “boyfriend” at one point, only 4 of those guys were ever even *remotely* “long term.”
One guy was my best friend & we went back & forth on “dating” for a few months, until it got too weird & then our whole 6yr friendship fell apart.
Then 1 guy I dated for like 2 months. Then another guy I dated for 3 months.
Then I met my now husband & we dated for 3yrs before getting married.
I think I’ve kissed like maybe… 8 guys? That includes *all* kissing, most of which were not “makeout sessions.”
& I’ve only had sex with one person, my husband.
Post # 13
Sex with 2, long term relationships (over 6 months) with 4, dated 2 short term, hooked up (not sex) with maybe 4 besides those.
Post # 14
1 where we’ve seriously planned about marriage/kids/future.
2 where we said ILY.
2 full-out sex.
About 5 more casual dating.
A few more heavy flirtations that never went anywhere.
Maybe 10 heavy fooling around but not going all the way (I held my v-card in name only for a number of years).
And 30-40 make-out buddies.
Post # 15
Including everyone, there have been six.
Two serious relationships.
Two not-so-serious relationships.
One not-quite-a-relationship, but I still really had feelings for the guy, and he for me.
Finally, (the sixth) my SO. He was my first sexually; although I had done other stuff with guys, SO was the first person I ever had sex with, and he is/will be my only. Sometimes I wonder what another guy would be like, but SO is the man I want to marry. There is NOTHING that would be worth losing him, much less a few minutes of pleasure to satisfy idle curiosity.
Post # 16
Lived with and was engaged to my first boyfriend; we were together for almost 4 years. After we broke up, I was single for about six months, then I had another serious boyfriend for almost two years that I lived with. After we broke up, I was again single for about six months before I dated someone for a few months who turned out to be, in my opinion, crazy. So I ended that quickly. There were a few friends with benefits in between the relationships.
Met DH a month or so after I broke up with the crazy guy, and we’ve now been together for almost 4 years, and married for 1.5 years 🙂 He was worth the wait and all the bad stuff I went through!!!!