How many partners/bfs/gfs (sexual AND otherwise) have you had?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How many people have you dated?
    1 : (37 votes)
    15 %
    2-3 : (51 votes)
    20 %
    4-8 : (62 votes)
    25 %
    9-12 : (33 votes)
    13 %
    12-30 : (45 votes)
    18 %
    31+ : (9 votes)
    4 %
    Don't know/lost count! : (14 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    5390 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Depends what you mean by partner. 


    I’ve had 3 long term relationships. 


    I’ve had about 3 or 4 flings/fuck buddies


    I’ve had full sex with 18 men


    I’ve done ‘other stuff’ with about another 10


    I’ve kissed countless. 


    At 8 years, my relationship with my OH is by far the longest. OH has only had sex with 4 women including me, and I’m his first relationship. 


    Personally, I’m SO glad I had the experiences I did before him and sometimes I wish he’d had sex with more women. 

    Post # 4
    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve had 3 long term relationships. One of those was in high school, but we dated for 2.5 years, so not sure how much that really counts. Then one guy in college and then my husband. 

    Post # 5
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Benni:  Are we including teenage bf/gf?

    Post # 7
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Benni:  Oooh, geez. If we’re counting all the non-sexual “Hee-hee, we’re bf/gf” 1-2 months “relationships” from highschool, plus real, adult relationships I’ve got to be pushing 40. lol

    Post # 8
    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    Just FH. 

    Post # 9
    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I only counted the good sex in my number. Innocent

    Post # 10
    490 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I dated four different guys between the age of 16 and 19.  The longest stretch there was four or five months.  My FH is definitely my longest relationship – together since we were 19.  I’d had some experience (handjobs/bjs – giving, but never receiving.  I was a lonely girl trying to hold on to a boy.  it didn’t work), but he’d never had a girlfriend before me.

    Post # 11
    238 posts
    Helper bee

    I’ve had 3 long-term relationships, and 4 friends with benefits. I hate to admit it, but most think I’ve done a lot more than I have haha!

    Post # 12
    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    This is really a difficult question because even though I think I’ve called over 7 guys “boyfriend” at one point, only 4 of those guys were ever even *remotely* “long term.”

    One guy was my best friend & we went back & forth on “dating” for a few months, until it got too weird & then our whole 6yr friendship fell apart.

    Then 1 guy I dated for like 2 months. Then another guy I dated for 3 months.

    Then I met my now husband & we dated for 3yrs before getting married.

    I think I’ve kissed like maybe… 8 guys? That includes *all* kissing, most of which were not “makeout sessions.”

    & I’ve only had sex with one person, my husband.

    Post # 13
    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Sex with 2, long term relationships (over 6 months) with 4, dated 2 short term, hooked up (not sex) with maybe 4 besides those.

    Post # 14
    1333 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    1 LTR.

    1 where we’ve seriously planned about marriage/kids/future.

    2 where we said ILY.

    2 full-out sex.

    About 5 more casual dating.

    A few more heavy flirtations that never went anywhere.

    Maybe 10 heavy fooling around but not going all the way (I held my v-card in name only for a number of years).

    And 30-40 make-out buddies.

    Post # 15
    1234 posts
    Bumble bee

    Including everyone, there have been six.

    Two serious relationships.

    Two not-so-serious relationships.

    One not-quite-a-relationship, but I still really had feelings for the guy, and he for me.

    Finally, (the sixth) my SO. He was my first sexually; although I had done other stuff with guys, SO was the first person I ever had sex with, and he is/will be my only. Sometimes I wonder what another guy would be like, but SO is the man I want to marry. There is NOTHING that would be worth losing him, much less a few minutes of pleasure to satisfy idle curiosity.

    Post # 16
    2534 posts
    Sugar bee

    Lived with and was engaged to my first boyfriend; we were together for almost 4 years. After we broke up, I was single for about six months, then I had another serious boyfriend for almost two years that I lived with. After we broke up, I was again single for about six months before I dated someone for a few months who turned out to be, in my opinion, crazy. So I ended that quickly. There were a few friends with benefits in between the relationships.

    Met DH a month or so after I broke up with the crazy guy, and we’ve now been together for almost 4 years, and married for 1.5 years 🙂 He was worth the wait and all the bad stuff I went through!!!!

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