(Closed) How many people actually sent in the RSVPs?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My RSVP date is in two weeks and I have gotten about 19 of my 80 invites back…like 24% of them back. It is frustrating! Oh and now people who RSVPed ‘No’ are changing their minds. :-/

Post # 4
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13102 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m at just over 50% who have sent them back (we have about a week left before the deadline).  We’ll be calling everyone who doesn’t send it back so we have a response from each person.  If they show up even after RSVPing ‘No’, there will be no seat and no food for them.  Such is life!

Post # 5
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2209 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wedding is in 4 weeks, and my RSVP due date is the end of the week.

So far I’ve received about 70% of the RSVPs. A few people have RSVPed to me directly without the cards (my disorganized friends), so that would bring it to having about 25% outstanding. A few of those are people I do not think will come, and a few are local, so they could come.

I’ll probably only follow-up with the local people.

Post # 6
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581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hey, date twin! I’m in the exact same boat, hovering between 50 and 60% returned RSVPs. My deadline is July 1, and I’m going to track a lot of the delinquents down at a family party on July 4. I’m going to split up the remainder so that I don’t have to be the one calling them all. FMIL will call her guests, FI will call his coworkers, my mom will call her older relatives, I’ll call my college friends (or I might email or facebook). I think that there are a lot of people who have talked to FMIL, instead of sending the card in to me.

Post # 7
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134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My due date was june 4th and we have only gotten about half. The ones that were lingering were all ones I assumed would be a no since they live thousands of miles away. Still a nice no would be great.

Post # 9
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

We had about 50% of them by the time the last week rolled around. Everyone waited until the last minute. By the time our deadline came, only about 85% sent their cards in. I had to email and call a whole bunch of people, and some STILL didn’t respond. Others gave me an excuse and not even a “sorry I didn’t respond.” I even put a frickin stamp on it for you!

From my wedding forward, I was never late on an RSVP again.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

ahhh…  I’m so worried about this my self…  I’ll do the same as ya’ll – stamped reply envelope, almost 3 weeks before wedding rsvp wedding deadline…  & will follow up w/those who don’t respond…  but i have already informed my mother that if there is no rsvp & i can’t reach them for a follow up they will be considered a “no” & there will be no food, liquor or chairs for them (although, they’re free to bring their own)…

On the flip side, she’s afraid of no-one showing up – i said we should have an idea of the “guest count” with the rsvps – but she’s worried that people will rsvp yes – but decide not to come -DOES THIS HAPPEN???  My theory is – if I do have this situation I will send the party who rsvp’ed yes a bill for their portion of catering, bar/liq. & linen rental ($20.00)…….

Post # 11
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ours are due in 2 weeks. We’ve gotten back ~50% of the 91 we sent out. I’m hoping people are just slow, but I know I’m going to have to call some of them. 🙁

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Glad to hear I’m not the only one checking the mail every day for RSVP cards and wishing I had an answer either way!  I like your idea FutureKMM, no RSVP = no seat and no food. And, I too will send RSVPs immediately from now on. People really have no idea how much planning it takes to seat and feed a hundred guests. It’s exciting though!!

Post # 13
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6664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh goodness, less than 20% of our guests mailed the RSVP by the deadline! Only a handful, really. By 1 week out we had received maybe half of them back and were literally shaking people down for even a verbal response. It was a nightmare!

Post # 14
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522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My deadline was June 18, so they’ve stopped coming in the mail by now. 80% were returned. Some of the other 20% responded to phone calls, but some never responded to even those and we had to pull the old “if you don’t respond by x, we’re putting you down as a no.”

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Just out of curiousity – did any of you do online RSVPs? I am seeing so many more of these and it is certainly more convenient and cheap.

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