Post # 1
We’re mailing our invitations out shortly, and while save the dates were sent, I find myself still marveling at how many on our guest list are total strangers to me.
Fiance is from a big farming family, and in the 8 months we’ve been together (short huh?!) I just haven’t met many of them that don’t live in the immediate area. He hasn’t met many of my friends living across the country or kids of many of my relatives.
Out of 190 on our guest list total (including guests and kids), there are 75 I’ve never met! Oddly enough, 75 that he’s never met. For people that both of us haven’t met: 18.
Made me wonder what your lists are like?
Post # 3
hm. Good question. I don’t know exact numbers, but I’d say there are probably close to 75 that I don’t know and probably 30-40 that Fiance doesn’t know. Probably 20-30 are ones that neither one of us know.
Post # 4
We have a lot that one of us hasn’t met and a good number that neither of us has. We both have lots of family who live abroad which explains a lot of the numbers. But then we have our parents inviting business associates or certian friends that neither of us has met. Also I have some long lost relatives that my family has recently reconnected with that ill be coming from other parts of the country and from Europe. So obviously neither Fiance or I have met them.
Post # 5
ZERO. There’s a couple of my fiance’s friends I’ve only met once or twice, and there are a couple of relatives and close family friends on my side that he hasn’t met, but one of our priorities was to make sure our guest list included people we felt comfortable around. Fortunately, we come from smallish families that don’t believe in inviting relatives who are practically strangers.
Post # 6
Actually I know everyone. We’ve been together 4 years so that has given us plenty of time to get to know each other’s families and friends.
Post # 7
I haven’t met any of FI’s family..but they will most likely not show! As for the ones attending, I pretty much know everyone…or know of them 🙂
Post # 8
We both knew all of each other’s guests. We only invited 130 people though.
Post # 9
DH’s extended family lives across the country from where we live, so there were about 20 people that I hadn’t met yet at our wedding.
I think there was one person there that my husband hadn’t met.
Post # 10
I don’t know the exact number, but when my parents gave me their list for the wedding I would estimate I had never met about 15-20 of the relatives on it. Some others on both our parents’ lists I have only met once or twice. My parents are alsohosting an at-home reception for us, though, and they just finished the guest list last night–out of about 170, I think I’ve met or know only a little more than half. Fiance has never met most of them! We live in different states and that party is mostly for their friends who wouldn’t be able to make it to the wedding, though, so it doesn’t bother me in the least. I’m just showing up to that one!
My friend actually made a rule with her parents/ILs for her wedding that they could only invite people that both the bride and groom knew. I like the sentiment, but everyone’s family and family friend situation is different…it probably would not have worked for us!
Post # 11
For me: 1 – His high school friends fiancee
For him: 2 – My moms best friend and her husband
Post # 12
Only a few family members on my FI’s side. We both have family and friends spread across the US, but we’ve met most of each others distant families.
Post # 13
We’ve been together for almost 8 years and there are still family members or friends that I never met (he is from a big family). We have decided not to invite any of those people. Our thought was to have a great time with people we know and we really care. The chances are, the people we don’t know probably don’t even care about our wedding either.
Post # 14
oooh good question…hubs had met almost all of my family and family friends at my brother’s wedding 2 years before ours, so i’d say of the people who came there were maybe 5 people he didn’t know on my side, and he knew all of my friends. i didn’t know 3 of his friends who came, and then i hadn’t met much of his extended family or his parents’ friends (many of whom he didn’t know either) there might have been like 25 i’d never met. that’s who came though–the numbers are larger for those who were invited, especially on his side–i actually know all my family and parents’ friends, and hubs met most of them before, whereas his parents are more reserved so he doesn’t know his extended fam or parents’ friends as well but we “had” to invite them, according to mil…which is then funny, because my family/fam-friends list was about twice the size of his parents’ list…
Post # 15
My Fiance and I have been togeter 11 years (next week), so we are good to go with knowing each other’s family, and all of our friends are mutual at this point. There are 4 thought that my Fiance has never met (Friends of my parents), and 4 that I have only met once (Friends of his parents). With a guest list over 200, I’d say that’s not bad…All the rest are family and friends that we know, and know well. (Big families).
Post # 16
There are 2 people that both my Fiance and I don’t know and I was actually pretty pissed about it. I decided not to battle my mom on it though and it turns out, when the person got my STD, they didn’t even know who we were.