Post # 1
I am a bit torn as to how many people should be invited to the engagement party…
A little background info: We have been engaged a while. Like a LONG while. But because of medical issues with my mother, the party kept getting pushed back and back and back.
Finally, we are having it this April, on a boat, on my birthday. It is a Sunday Brunch, and it also happens to be Easter. Because of this, I am pretty certain most people will have other plans and be unable to make it…which isn’t a huge deal, we wanted to keep it small anyway!
However, our families, as it turns out, are pretty large. I have many neices and nephews, and my siblings will definitley be bringing them to the party (I mean….its Easter! Of course!). There are others I’m not sure if I should invite, like his cousins, who are being invited to his sister’s engagement party earlier that month. I want to invite them, but I don’t want them to think they have to drop their plans or travel at all for this simple party!
My guest list started at about 25 or so, and I think it is at 40 now. How many people are you inviting?
Post # 3
We ended up having about 75, which was waaaaaay more then I’d come close to imagining! But my for my DH’s family and friends, this was the one time they’d be able to celebrate with us since most wouldn’t be able to make it to the USA (from the Netherlands) for our wedding. We had about 1/2 family and 1/2 friends/co-workers of my husband there. 🙂 It was a great time!
Post # 4
Don’t feel bad…..I’m not getting to plan my engagement party (traditionally in my culture, the bride’s parents plan the entire thing) and as far as I know right now, there are over 200 people invited.
Post # 5
We had about 60 people for our engagment party. I think as long as you aren’t reaching to find people and they are all family or close friends then I wouldn’t worry about how many people you have.
Post # 6
@roxy821: You’re so right! We are inviting the people that matter most, they are the immediate family, god parents, and bridal party ONLY, so If they come, they come!
I guess a lot of my anxiety comes from wondering if people will think we are being tacky for having a party so late in the game, and on Easter, of all days :
Post # 7
Due to various reasons we’re keeping ours pretty small and casual. I’m guessing we’ll have between 20 and 30 people, but I’m pretty early in the planning stages. We’re not doing any family friends or anything like that – mostly my friends and the small handful of FI’s friends that live in the city. (Mutual friends of ours as well, of course!)
Post # 8
I think we invited around 65 people and had about 50 or so there…it was such a fun time and the food/drink was great!
Post # 9
My in laws (who are throwing the party) invited a ton (I think pretty much everyone who is invited to the wedding), but only 35 are coming. Most of my family/our friends don’t live here, so we didn’t really expect them to travel just for an engagement party 🙂
At first, I didn’t want to invite people who aren’t in town, because I felt it was presumptuous and that they would think I expected them to travel. When I mentioned this to a few people, they said “No! Definitely send us an invite, we love seeing what’s going on with you and we won’t feel pressured!”. Since that was the general consensus, I let my in laws invite everyone. Like I said, most politely declined, but they were glad to be included, not offended.