Post # 1
So my family and friends are starting to bring up baby showers. So far, my mom, sister, and cousin want to throw on in mid August (I’m due October 4). I have some out of town family that will be visiting that weekend, so they want to do it so they can be included.
My husband wants to have some kind of ‘guy’ shower, where he and his friends BBQ or do something like that and they guy’s are all supposed to bring diapers. I think its called a Diaper BBQ but I’m not positive.
I thought that would be all we’d have, but now my friends are wanting to throw one for just girlfriends. So nice of then, really didnt think they’d offer. My concern is….I dont know if I know/have enough friends and family to ‘fill’ two parties for the ladies. I have a decent size family but hubby’s is smaller, so I thought everyone would go to the family one in August. Friends wise, I have so many out of state friends, that I’m not sure they will be able to make anything in Louisiana. I also have a few really good guy friends, so I dont thik they would come or be invited to a girls friends shower.
How many people is it normal to have at a shower? Times like this make me think I don’t have enough girl friends. I have my close friends and those ladies mean the world to me. I kind of feel like that movie I Love You Man, where I need to go insearch of more people just so I don’t feel like my friends are going all out of their way to do something nice for me and like 1 person show up.
Am I weird for worring about this?
Post # 3
Haha relax… I’ve been to showers with 10 people and I’ve been to showers with 50 people. Smaller showers are nice because you actually get to interact longer with each guest instead of scrambling just to say hi to everyone. I’d rather have five close friends than 25 acquaintances at mine.
I think it’s great your Darling Husband wants to have a guy shower too! Would your close guy friends go to that one?
Post # 4
I understand your worrying, but I am sure it will turn out perfectly! I am in the same boat with girlfriends; I now live 1500 miles away from where I went to school, so I have drifted apart from a lot of friends. We have decided to do a co-ed shower when we go back home, and I’m worried about having too many people! Our guest list is up to 125 between family and friends on both side.
Post # 5
@britbrit: don’t worry (and yes, you’re normal for feeling this anxiety)
smaller affairs are great, even 6-8 people. so nice! and maybe it’ll be more fun to hang with your friends separately than your family.
Post # 6
@britbrit: I feel for you! I feel this way too sometimes. 🙁 DH has tons of guy friends but I have my sisters and a few close girlfriends, some aquaintances and that’s it! Why not do a Jack & Jill shower? This is what we are planning. Cuts the cost of separate parties and than you don’t have to worry about that feeling. We are inviting couples where we are friends with the guy & girl or just the girl in some cases or the single guys in others!
Post # 7
I had about 20 ladies at my shower, give or take, and I thought that was a good number. It was held at my MIL’s home, so any more than that would have been difficult to manage.
Post # 8
@britbrit: I know how you feel, I’m in the exact same situation. I had a ‘family’ shower, but it was really just my mother-in-law throwing a big party for all her friends (and they all brought me gifts, so, sweet!), and my mom and sister came too. Friend-wise, I only have a handful of girlfriends in the city I live in. Most of my good friends are either male or live many hours away or both. I just don’t have the kind of friend group conducive to a big baby shower but I’m ok with that. There will be another shower, hosted by my best friend, that will include all my local ‘girlfriends’, and I think somewhere in the range of 5 to 8 girls will be there. It’s a nice opportunity to do something a bit more interesting or intimate, that would not be possible with a ton of people. For instance, my friend organizing it is thinking of doing a party where everybody brings ingredients and recipes and cooks a meal to freeze for us, so that we have lots of food when the baby is brand new and we are really busy and sleep-deprived.
I was thinking of inviting more people, like girls I know from school (I’m a grad student)… but I’m just not close enough with them to know for sure if they would be coming because they genuinely want to or just because they feel pressured by the invite to show up and bring me a gift. So, I’m just going to go with the small guest list.
Post # 9
I’ve invited 20 people to my shower and I’m expecting 10-15 to show. All of my family is out of state so none of them will be there. It will be mostly my friends that Ihave here in Colorado. It’s ok to have a “small” shower. I had a bridal shower back home last may and only family came and it was only like 6 of us. We had a blast!!! I think it’s not how many people show but who shows that makes your event. But I was nervous then too that no one would show so that’s normal.
I would say go a head and have the girls shower with the friends that you want there. If you’re sure that they would come I’m sure you would have an awesome time.