How many people did NOT come to your wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 5
2896 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we invited 309 and 116 did not come. 30 of those people were supposed to be there and didn’t show up :/


Post # 6
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We had a 20% decline rate, which I think is pretty normal.

Post # 7
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

4……but they were people we figured couldn’t or wouldn’t come….my aunt actually swore she never got an invitation, she’s a major b*tch so I’m glad she didn’t come…


That being said, don’t bank on people not coming…if you invite them, expect them to come and budget for that…..if you can’t afford that many people cut the guest list…


Post # 8
1243 posts
Bumble bee

About 30 of the 130 that we invited. 

I strongly suggest you not invite more than you are prepared to host.

Post # 9
6455 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We had a 30% decline rate. However, I would not invite more than I could host. I have seen way too many posts on here from brides who did this and ended up with too many guests.

Post # 11
6668 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

We invited 102 and 85 came- everyone who RSVP yes actually came. Almost all the declines were expected because they lived far or were elderly. Only one in-town couple declined!

Post # 12
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Our RSVP date isn’t until the 30th, but so far we have 125 “yes”‘s out of about 160-165 guests.

Post # 13
4043 posts
Honey bee

@Waitingbee57:  Since it really depends on who you are inviting (family vs friends), whether they are local vs out of town/state, close or distant connections, etc, it really is best NOT to over invite if your venue cannot handle it. We had friends invite 225 to their wedding, in a similar situation to you, and 220 people came. It was ridiculously packed and they had to rent an extra room. 

You can try to feel people out (especially close friends/family) or opt for an A list/B list approach. Some bees are against it, but if done tactfully, it can workout really well. 

Post # 14
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Waitingbee57:  Lol.  Well we also only invited close friends and family so we knew they would all be attending for the most part.

Post # 15
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would be careful over over inviting like that. I have seem people say 30% don’t come but others have less than 10% decline/not attend. 

So far we have 7 “no” RSVPs for 80 invited. We are still waiting on 20 more. Good luck, guest lists can be very tricky! 

Post # 16
2047 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Waitingbee57:  depends how many people you have fomr out of town…. We technically invited around 185…. but only ended up with 127…BUT thats because Im not from here, and aside from my parents, 3 aunts, and 2 cousins, everyone else in my family couldnt come. We did have a lot of people decline because it was mid-august and there were a lot people on vacation!

Yours is in Oct? sooo… if your guest list is mostly from the area, I would count on the majority attending to be honest. (unless your here in canada because that weekend is typically thanksgiving so people will be on holidays).

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