Post # 1
I am starting to stress daily about how many of my family I think will be no shows. My FI doesn’t get it, since they rsvp’d that they will be there, but a lot of my family rsvp’d through my mom or an aunt and are not used to receptions like mine. I am constantly worried about the people who won’t feel like getting off the couch to drive downtown for the wedding!!
This effects my seating chart plans, I’m trying to put it together with the thought of no shows in mind. My FI wants to plan for everyone, but there are at least 4 – 6 people that I suspect are saying they are coming but won’t.
Just curious. How many people rsvp’d yes, but didn’t show to your wedding?
Post # 3
people definitely did not show up that RSVPd yes. and they later had crappy excuses. the day of, some people are goingt o have something come up. Go with your gut. Give your caterer a final number that is a few people short. They will likely make 3-5% extra anyway.
Post # 4
Too bad you can’t charge them for their inconsiderateness.
Post # 5
I didn’t even get excuses from people who didn’t show up. Fortunately, there weren’t too many. Isuppose it doesn’t matter. They would have been lame ones anyway.
Post # 6
there were plenty of people who RSVP’d yes and didn’t show at our wedding. i was very PO’d that I had to pay for them and they didn’t show up without even a call! it wasn’t even the paying for their food part that bothered me though. what hurt most was the fact that they didn’t even call to say they weren’t going to make it. =( i did have one friend tell me he wasn’t going to make it as he was really sick. he’s still my friend. =)
Post # 7
@futuremrsmorgan I think I’m going to take your advice and give a smaller number. I just need to convince the groom this is the smart way to go! Thanks.
Post # 8
Two people didnt show for us. Not only did I have to pay for their food which bothered me, they didn’t bother to call or even give us a message online via Facebook to say congrats or sorry they couldn’t make it. It also bothered me because they were only invited on behalf of other people. One of the two, we didn’t even WANT her there, and she kept talking like she was going to be there for sure, never even hinting to us. Sigh. They both also had the same first name… go figure :p