Post # 1
My deadline is tomorrow and I am still waiting on 45 out of 122 RSVP’s sent out, so frustrating! A lot of them are for people that live out of state so I can only assume they’re not coming but seriously!?!?
Right now I’m at 105 attending out of 229 invited, could be a max of 160 I’m thinking. Do people really not RSVP and show up?
Post # 3
I am almost at the point. Saturday is my RSVP date. I only have about 35 RSVP cards returned out of almost 200!! I have heard of some people just not RSVP’ing and showing up. Someone had the nerve to tell me, “I never RSVP.” What?!
Post # 4
My sisters exact words were, “Be prepared for people to do stupid things!”
Post # 5
Sadly yes a lot of people dont RSVP and show up and I can’t stand that. Our wedding is far from now but I am seeing this with my son’s party right now. I need an exactly head count because we are paying for per person for admission into the farm so if they don’t RSVP than they have to pay their way in. Dont we wish those that don’t RSVP and show can pay for their plate and seat at the wedding? LOL
Post # 6
We only had to call 2 or 3. It was great!
Post # 7
I WISH they had to pay their own way, that would be awesome. My fiance’ wants to have a “list” at the door, lol. I was like this is not Chelsea Clinton’s wedding!
Post # 8
Okay, so my RSVP due date has come and gone, it was September 15. I still have yet to hear from about 40-50 out of 160 invited. I contacted those that I could either through email or through my bridesmaids, but I don’t have any way to contact a lot of the people my FI invited. I have their addresses but not their phone numbers. I have had so much going on that I didn’t even think to mail anything and now it is too late. Is it okay to assume that those who did not RSVP are not coming?
Post # 9
@aubrav: You might want to ask FI mom or another relative contact these people, surely someone knows how to get a hold of them! I would definitely try your hardest since you have so many outstanding. Better safe than sorry!
Post # 10
Out of the 122 INVITATIONS we sent out, I have to call/email/facebook 30 or so families. A lot of them were our “no” guests. I just think people don’t like to send “no”s back for whatever reason.
Post # 11
We ended up not getting about half of ours back (about 22). A few were FH’s friends and he contacted them. His one aunt returned it a few days later. The rest were my family who we figured weren’t coming since it’s out of state.
My mom said don’t bother calling her siblings. We ended up asking my grandmother (dad’s side) about a few people and his sister called being all rude saying how she NEVER got an invite and that’s why she didn’t RSVP…umm she did or she wouldn’t have known about our website and wouldn’t have discovered our registry which she sent us a gift from. People will say whatever.
Post # 12
Out of 147 people invited…I had to call/email 10.
Post # 13
We had to call a lot. I deligated most of them. I called my friends, hubby called his, and our parents called theirs and family members.
Some people that we had to track down were yes’s, so I wouldn’t count on them being no just b/c they didn’t answer.
Post # 14
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
We ended up with about the same non-responses and you did. I gave the family members names to our moms and let them call for us. =)
Post # 15
Out of 28 invitations (small wedding), we’ve had to contact 4 people. Three out of the four were fine – apologetic, easy to deal with, decisive on menu options. The 4th person still hasn’t decided if she’s coming, hasn’t decided if her husband can come, hasn’t decided if her daughter is driving her, or if her daughter and son-in-law are driving her, etc (note that we invited her and her husband, not the daughter and son-in-law, so she is, essentially, adding two complete strangers to our guest list of 45. But I digress). Our deadline was Sat, the 25 and numbers are due this week.
When I was in the shower last night, I pulled out twice as much hair as usual…wonder why??
Post # 16
I was lucky. The only ones were our pianist and a co-worker. But somehow, their invitations got lost. I sent about 140 invitations. Although not all the cards got back by the deadline, the people who mailed them late had emailed me to let me know their responses.
And, of the all the guests (280 invited 190 RSVPd yes), I had only 5 no shows. One was DH’s nephew’s girlfriend, another couple was DH’s co-worker (who asked to be invited), one was a mutual friend, and the last was my co-worker who got in a car accident the day before and was going to travel from out-of-town.
My sister, on the other hand, invited twice as many people had tons of no shows and had to contact lots of people. I think since people knew I had a very select list, they were very good about RSVPs.