Post # 1
My FMIL offered to throw me a bridal shower whatever that is, I’m still learning.
She told me to give her a guest list but I don’t know who would be invited?
So who specifically do you invite and what’s a good number to invite?
Post # 3
I’ve seen this kind of go two ways – either invite just your nearest and dearest friends/family, or invite all the women you will be inviting to the wedding.
I would ask your FMIL what kind of number she is looking for – around here is it more common to have a smaller shower at someone’s home (maybe 10-20 people), but I’ve also seen some brides rent out halls etc.
Post # 4
I think it’s going to differ bride to bride. I have a huge extended family everyone gets invited to everything, or feelings get seriously hurt. So a small bridal shower isn’t an option for me. The guest list is about 50 people right now and I expect 45 or so will come.
However, it’s up to you. Do you want just the closest people or would you feel more comfortable with a big group?
Post # 5
My sister had over 40 women at hers. I expect around the same.
Basically, in my social circle, you invite any female (along with children) that will be invited to your wedding unless you are having a destination wedding.
But, I have also seen brides just invite their side of the family’s female members, mother-in-law, and a couple of friends. But since your FMIL is throwing the shower, I would let her know that she can invite any female family member on her side as well.
Post # 6
My mom rented a small banquet hall at a local restaurant. We have more than 50 ladies on our guestlist! We invited all of the women who are invited to the wedding, which is pretty traditional for our area.
Post # 7
@pinkgreenandyellow: i always assumed all the women invited to your wedding would be invited to the bridal shower. thats how im going to do it all the women aunts ,cousins,friends and bridal party are going to be invited.
Post # 8
I have 33 on my list that I am inviting, though I expect some won’t be able to make it. It’s more common around here to invite family and then your closer friends (versus every woman who is invited to the wedding). So mine would include a lot of my family members (aunts, some cousins, grandmother, etc) plus some of FIs family (mother, grandmother, FSIL, aunt) and then my closer friends (so people I regularly talk to/see/hang out with).
There are obviously more women invited to the wedding but I don’t really feel I have to invite to the shower because they are women who are more friends with my FI (but that I don’t know very well) or women he works with.
However…my 33 is actually a large %age of the women invited to the wedding. I have 47 women on my guest list.
Post # 9
My mom’s group of friends are throwing one for me. She just want’s to invite my grandma, two aunts, future SIL and MIL. Then she plans on throwing me a second one where we can invite all the ladies on both sides of the fam and friends.
I’m pretty much laid back and am letting my mom do her thang LOL. But I think since these ladies are throwing it for me, we don’t want to be rude and invite a **it load of people.