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I'm only curious because I wonder if I'm the only one who had only one boyfriend before finding the one.
I didn't start dating until I was 19. My first boyfriend was a complete tool. When I found my now FI I was swept off my feet.
So, how many people have you dated. I'll add a poll in case you are too uncomfortable talking about it.
Well, what do you consider "dated"? I seriously dated 3 people before my husband. But, I probably went on something like 75 first dates with people I met online (but never saw again....so hit and miss!)
@crayfish: I think I consider it dating when you are like official bf/gf. I was going to put how many bf have you had but I realized that was not all inclusive so I changed it.
Before my FI I dated 4 people seriously.
I went on a few "dates" with other guys in college. But I was in 4 relationships that were "long term" (i.e. more than 6 months).
First guy I dated for almost a year when I was a freshman - sophomore in high school. Mainly dated him because he showed interest in me and I found that attractive. When I realized I was only dating him because he was the first guy who wanted to date me, we broke up.
Then I had a LD relationship of almost a year. But we only saw each other 3 times. He and I still keep in touch.
Third guy I started dating 2nd semester of senior year of HS. He was my 1st love. We started kind of as a "end of HS fling" because I was going across the country for college. We tried long distance, and it didn't work. We wouldn't have worked long term because our goals were very different. But he still has a special place in my heart.
Fourth guy I met freshman year of college. We dated for almost a year. Didn't work out because he wasn't willing to put any effort into the relationship. (i.e. if I wanted to see him, it was on his schedule, he couldn't make time for me.)
Then, 2nd semester sophomore year of college, I met my FI. We dated for 6 1/2 years prior to getting engaged, and will have been together 7 1/2 years at the time of our wedding. It took me a little time to find him, but he is wonderful and I am so excited to be his wife.
Well, I seriously dated 3 people before I met my husband, but, like crayfish, I had a number of other dates and also dated some other guys for 3-6 months (which I don't consider serious, I guess).
I'm with crayfish.... I had what I would consider 3 significant relationships before FI, but I went on dates with LOTS of other people before FI... some were just first dates, a few were 2-3 week flings freshman year that quickly went sour, and there was even one guy who I "dated" for about 4 months but didn't really consider significant.
FI is by far my longest relationship, and the only one to make it past a year, let alone 4 years!
Hmm good question. I easily have been out on 75-100 first dates. Not sure what "bf/gf" means though.. I had one serious bf before FI (we dated for two years) and multiple 3-6 month relationships in between.
I wish you had "0" as a choice, so I wouldn't feel so alone haha. 
My FI is the only boyfriend I have ever had--I didn't date in high school and I met my FI in the beginning of college and we have been together ever since!
I only had one serious boyfriend before FI and I dated him for about a year and a half. I started dating when I was 17 then met FI when I was 19 (I’m almost 25 now). I’ve technically dated 3 other guys in my lifetime but I don’t really consider a 3-4 month fling a “relationship”. Not to mention they were all tools that I would prefer to forget about! =)
I know everyone’s definition of “dating” is different…..I would say only one of my relationships was truly “serious” before my husband, but I dated several others (like, dating for months-year or so, going on vacation with, etc.), and went out on dates with plenty of others.
My first real boyfriend was a tool/abusive/manipulative, and I dated the guy after him for over a year. I don’t think it was ever really serious to me, because I really only dated him because he was so nice to me – swept me off my feet. We didn’t really have much in common and there was no chemistry there (there was for him, which I felt badly about, but none for me). When I “grew up”, I ended things.
The only realtionship I consider serious is the guy I lived with for a while, and who I said “I love you” to. He and my husband are the only men I’ve said “I love you” to. Both times, we had been together for over a year before the “I love you’s” came out.
In between the two serious relationships were plenty of other dates, and some relationships, but I don’t consider any of them serious dating. They just were...what they were. Hope this makes sense.
@SweetRose2011: No worries! I'm such a dork! I think my FI counts as the one BF, since you didn't say "other". Oops!
BF is my first SERIOUS relationship. We made it past the 6 month mark, one year mark and the one and half year mark!!! Working towards forever. lol
But I've had 5 other BF's. All of these relationships ended by the 6 month mark, never made it to 7 months.
Two. My first boyfriend I dated for 3 1/2 years. My fiance and I have been together for two years now. I really only needed one boyfriend to figure out what I needed in a partner/husband. :)
I had 4 "boyfirends" before my hubby. But 3 of them were in high school, so I don't know how much they count.
I had one boyfriend before my husband. We dated for four years, started seeing each other my junior year of high school, and I broke up with him my junior year of college. He wasn't a jerk or anything; we just seriously drifted apart. When you've heard the same joke three days in a row, and he's laughing hysterically each time, and you're not, it gets old.
I've had 4 boyfriends before meeting the love of my life. Except for one, none of them was really serious ( less than 4 months). I was with my first one for almost 3 years.
SO is the only one I've had that "Ok he's definitely the One, you can stop looking now" feeling.
I've only had 3. I talked to a few boys on the phone, but bf number one lasted about 2 weeks, bf number two lasted about 1 week, and bf number 3 is future hubby! We have been together for over 7 years. 3rd time was the charm in my case!
I called 6 other guys "boyfriend" before my husband. Of those, only two of them lasted longer than 6 months (those two were about 3 years each, one in high school, one in college). The others ranged from 3 weeks (cheated on me with a good friend--hard feelings are passed, it was a long time ago, and they're married now..) to 4 months. The two long ones were the only ones I considered serious. I dated my husband for 4 years before we got married.
Not including my FI, I've had 3 boyfriends with relationships that lasted 2-3 years each. I did go on 1 or 2 first dates, but wouldn't consider that dating/boyfriends.
I can relate. I had one serious relationship before this one and I started dating at 18. I had the fake middle school bf who you thought you were dating but nothing ever happened haha.
I voted three, but I was including my guy. One was when I was eighteen - the guy was planning a proposal when I dumped him for being controlling. One was when I was 21/22. I'd known him for 7 years, but didn't know he was as crazy as he was. I had about half a dozen first dates, two guys I kind of hung out with (but we couldn't get up the gumption to ask each other out), and one guy I e-mailed with for about 6 months (we walked up to each other all excited, got a good look at each other, and both lost interest. Good for a friend, but there was NO attraction on either side. He's engaged to a straight-laced English-Indian law student, and I have a goofy-looking gamer, and we're both very happy with our partners.)
I've never had a serious relationship with anyone but DH. I'd been on other dates through HS and college but until DH's and my friendship grew into something more in my junior year of college - I'd never had a boyfriend.
I credit a lot of this to two things. First, I was always "one of the guys" and through that was able to learn what I wanted in a man without necessarily having BFs. Second, I refused to get in a serious relationship with someone I wasn't good friends with first - it was just a thing for me. Kind of a "How do I know I actually want to date you if I don't know you well enough to already be really good friends?" Took over two years before DH and I progressed from friends to BF/GF but it was totally worth the wait! :)
I would say none. He is my first boyfriend and this is his first serious relationship.
He's my first relationship ever. I'm technically his second, but he dated that girl for 2 weeks in high school, sooo... I don't really count that. :)
I have had 3 serious realationships (including FI). I dated my first BF for 2 years LDR when I was 16. I met my FI while I was dating the LD BF. Since I had a BF, FI and I remained friends (I was very attracted to him though so it was hard to resist!). I lost touch with FI for awhile then started dating another guy I met for 2 1/2 years. Broke up with that douche and then caught back up with FI (my friend happened to bump into him at college and told him I was single and to call me. She always knew he had a thing for me). He called 20min later and asked to meet for coffee and the rest is history....
1 in middle school (that I don't count, huge disaster)+ 3 in high school (one short lived one I haven't talked to in years, one that lasted about half a year that I'm now friends with, one that lasted a little over a year that thought we were wedding bound, no longer talk to him)+ FH in College
FH has only had one other relationship and that was back when he was in undergrad. She turned out to be more than slightly unstable and it lasted for about 2 months.
Just one. He turned into a fiance. Works for me, I like to keep things simple. :)
I had a ton. DH had not even one G/F before me. I'm grateful he kept things simple for us. I really had a lot of growing up to do. My poor exes.
I've had heaps I've lived with a few too. But then again, your 20s is the time when you can make lots of mistakes and hope they don't haunt you into your 30s. There is no way in hell I'm ever going to live with someone I'm not married to. And to be honest, I think I like living alone with my daughter :) I do love my bf, but having to live with a man and still have to do everything yourself (because let's face it, that's what NZ guys are like) and entertain them when they are bored. Having to share my closet, my bed, cook things we're not into... It's just easier without one under your roof! :D
Men, you can't live with them, and you totally can live without them. That doesn't mean you shouldn't have one hanging around tho right? ;)
I had 3 serious boyfriends (1-2years each) and one serious girlfriend (3 1/2 years!) before meeting my SO. It's amazing how amazing it feels when it's right.
I've had 3 serious realtionshipsbefore I met my SO. I also had some some not so serious realtionships that didn't last as long.
i had 4 serious boyfriends including FI. all lasting at least 2 years
My husband was my fourth boyfriend. I was his fifth girlfriend. We are both the type to dive into long-term serious relationships, so our total count is low. Plus I boycotted relationships from age 19-23.
I had 2 serious boyfriends before meeting my FH. I had a "boyfriend" for 3 weeks in 7th grade, but I don't count him. :) My first relationship lasted a year and a half, and my second lasted over four years!
I've been with FH for 2 1/2 years now, and I realize I never *really* knew what love felt like before I met him. The others were just practice - he's for real. :)
I didn't really start "dating" for real until high school and only dated four people, he is the fourth. We started dating when I was 16 and I was his first (and only!) girlfriend :)
I had a few light-hearted relationships, dated one other person seriously, had a few hookups, and then I met FH. The guy before FH was pretty abusive so I just did my own thing for a while after I finally got the cajones to leave him. I wasn't even looking for a long-term relationship when I met FH, but here I am! :)
N is the only guy I've ever dated - I grew up in a home where you don't date unless you can see yourself with them forever, and I didn't start dating him until about a month before I graduated high school.
Approx. 3 and a half years later we will be married :)
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