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how many people rsvp'd yes then didnt show at the wedding?

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    almost mrs    October 31, 2012   south yorkshire

    my wedding is being paid by head, and its costing a lot, im worried i will be paying out money for people that won't show up on the day ( I know this will probabyly happen) how many people rsvp'd yes and then didnt come? out of how many guests? and did they tell you why or apologise?

     
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    Meowkers    August 27, 2011   Los Angeles, CA

    zero. everyone who RSVPed yes showed up.  We had one couple who had a death in the family and backed out the week of the wedding.  But they very politely let us know about it.  

     
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    littlemissvintage    November 11, 2011   Providence, RI

    We only had one no show and it due to their dog becoming extremely sick. It was a family, and only one of them didn't show due to this. They apologized but as dog owners, we completely understood and not upset at all. We were happy that they still made the trip down to even celebrate!

    As a bonus, our reception venue was very accomdating and packed his meal to go so he could still eat. We were able to see him and the dog once we got to the hotel after our reception :)

     
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    kelmac    September 26, 2009   Ontario, Canada

    If I remember correctly only one. She was an older guest who became ill.

     
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    Miss Smurf    September 2011  

    We had 6 people that didn't show. 5 of thos were family members. One had a good excuse as her babysitter ended up passing out at her house, so she had to take her to the hospital. Two family members "forgot", but managed to come for the last hour of the reception/dance. Another family member and his date couldn't come because he had to work........ However he later posted pictures on facebook of the concert he was at. The sixth one just didn't come, and I have no idea why!

    It is very frustrating considering you still have to pay for the people, but I was more upset because I could have invited other guests in their place (we had to keep our guest list down to fit in our venue)

     
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    Margaritachka    August 20, 2011   Los Angeles, California

    we had 1 no show, and 1 person who brought their husband after rsvping for only one person.  In any case, i guess it evened out :) 

     
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    peppy    September 17, 2011   Australia

    Only the 1. A tree fell on his car before he left for our reception!

     
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    simplifiedbride    June 2011   California

    We had 2 no shows, and 3 attend the ceremony but skipped the reception. Kind of frustrating, but there's nothing you can do about it. It's just out of your hands. I think most people are totally clueless about the amount of money and effort that goes into a contemporary wedding.

     
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    Take The Reins    August 11, 2012   Canada

    I am worried about this too, but our caterer lets us keep all the left over food, so we can all eat lunch at teh hall after cleanup Sunday.  Yay!

     
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    Showers    July 29, 2011   England, United Kindom

    None, our guest were very helpful in their RSVPing.

    @peppy:  I think I might just let him off with that excuse!

     
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    KLloyd1    October 22, 2011   Hilliard, Ohio

    we had probably close to 20 people RSVP yes and then not show. Most of them never gave us a reason or an apology. I was expecting it to happen so I wasn't too mad about it.

     
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    Gabrielle123    November 5, 2011  

    We had 4 people RSVP yes but didn't come. The one guy had to have emergency surgery so he and his wife didn't come. And DH's dad's cousin got really sick and so she and her husbadn didn't come.

    It would have been nice for a heads up though!

     
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    aliavenue    August 4, 2012   Kansas City

    @KLloyd1:  Why were you expecting that?

     
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    emilygrace07    June 25, 2011   Ft. Thomas, Ky

    like 8-10... some had reasons and let me know when it was already too late to change anything and one had an emergency and theres a few other that i still have no idea about.  But we had a couple extra people there and I really didn't notice it much.

     
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    vickyness    December 11, 2010   San Francisco

    We had every person show.

     

     
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    mari892    December 17, 2011   Florida

    2 or 3 people, and we still don't know why. One person had a death in the family, and let us know right away that she couldn't make it. One person's husband couldn't go at the last minute, so she brought her son to keep the number consistent.

     
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    misspeanut    December 10, 2011   Dallas, TX

    We had like 15, and only about 5-6 contacted us. The others have never contacted us or anything. Strange, but yeah very annoying since we paid per head.

     

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