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OK, I made this poll which was difficult!
Anyways, if you want to answer go ahead. How many sexual partners have you been with and how many has you FI/hubby/SO been with? Just to be clear I am talking about people you have had sex with, not makeout sessions, lol You can say not sure if you don't know about your significant other.
Me: One other person and FI (2)
FI: Two other people and me (3)
We've each only been with each other... we started dating at 14 and never broke up!
You should add a poll to this! Haha. The more options, the better!
You could do increments at the higher numbers. Like,
1
2
3
4
5-7
8-10
11-15
Haha, those are kind of random I guess.
I like lilyfaith's polll - that way someone doesn't have to say 247 if they don't want to. ;-)
Oh sheesh! LOL talk about personal! Me & FI have been with about the same number of partners. 5 on average! :) I got started when I was 13!! Crazy!!!! Luckily I didn't turn crazy!
I have been with 2. My ex who I was serious with for 5 years (almost half of high school and almost all of college) and then my future hubby was my second!
My fiance has been with 8. (he has the assortment of college hookups and a few girlfriends)
Never really been concerned about the difference in our numbers. Would any of ya'll care about your fiance having many more partners than you?
@ artsprout - no, definitely not.
I have a few, less than 10, more than 5... all of which were 'relationships' and I've never had a one night stand or random hookup. I don't know FI's exact number (don't want to) but it's less than 5.
@artsprout.love-I would only care if it was a MUCH higher number than me lol
My bf has been with 2 more people than I have but they were girlfriends, I just dont know how I would feel about him hooking up with random girls. It works out though because he's not like that and neither am I!
Me-2
Him-4
I am glad that I've had *some* sexual experience with men other than my FI because I know how good it is with him!! I feel confident that we're a perfect match, sexually, and that gives me a real peace of mind. I know he feels the same way too. There a HUGE difference between sex with someone and sex with someone who is compatible with you on a sexual level... But anyways, i've been a very happy and satisfied girl since I started dating FI 4 years ago.:)
@artsprout: I wouldn't care if my FI had been with more women that I had men. Honestly, the past is the past & you could've just went through a stage or hung out with different people then. As long as your man's good to you & doesn't do you wrong that's all that matters to me! :)
I have been with twice as many people as my FI (gosh, that sounds so bad!) and I think at first he was a little bit like, uh, HOW MANY did you say?!? But he got over it. I'm glad there's a poll because I just can't bring myself to write it out in this public forum!
Where's the option for I don't know and don't wanna know???
I used to ask FI joking how many ppl he'd slept with but then one day when I do unnaturally jealous when he and a friend where talking about an ex being good at oral I realized I don't ACTUALLY want to know anything about his sexual past!!
We were both virgins. That's my story and I'm stickin' to it!!
I don't mind that FI has slept with more people than me. I was someone who wanted to know his history when we became a couple. He thought it was weird, but spilled all the information.
It's kind of awkward because one of the girls he slept with was a one night stand in college after a frat party. I know who this girl is and she is just not a good looking person (I am absolutely don't want to sound mean, but it's true)
I would be more worried if he had slept with a lot more people than me.
See I was friends with my FI when we were in college and I knew about a couple of the "randoms" but at the time I was dating someone else and didn't care at all obviously. By the time we got around to dating each other, I already knew a bit about his history and it didn't phase me at all. Even knowing a few have been one nighters, I guess I just felt like it was pretty normal for guys in college. I had a lot of friends who have had a few so I wouldn't let it get to me.
I agree @Lees, that the past is the past and how he is when he is with you is all that matters!
Personally I can barely even remember what it was like with my ex and we dated far longer than my FI have so far! I doubt anyone is ever going to sit around reminiscing about their past lovers, so as long as it isn't entering their minds, it won't invade the realtionship.
FI and I have never told each other how many people we have been with. We discussed safe sex/STD testing before we had sex, but we agreed that we didn't need to know the exact number. All that mattered at the time was that we were only sleeping with each other.
We might be unique in this, but it works for us!
I love that so many people voted, but didn't write anything =)
I have no clue how many FI has had. We knew each other in HS and I refused to go on a date with him becuase you def didn't want to be known as one of those girls. I'm glad he got it out of his system.
We've not talked numbers. I don't think I really want to know (not that I think it is high, but still what would be the benefit of hearing 3 vs. 7 vs. 10)... don't really want to think about it!
I don't know his real number and he doesn't know mine. I am pretty sure I have had more partners than he has. We're both over 10.
<-- had a LOT of fun being single after college
We're both virgins and we decided to stay that way for the past eight years because of the risk of getting pregnant. Plus, Mr. Library has religious views on it. It's been difficult, but it will be over within six months!
My FI and I have NEVER talked about this. We just leave it alone. We've both been in only a few long term relationships so its kinda just assumed that we didn't rack up the numbers. I don't know why, its just something I'm not comfortable knowing. As long as I knew he was.. healthy, then I was ok.
For me, one (just him). For him, two (he was previously married). We're clearly fans of monogamy, haha. And no problems in the compatibility department. :P
Sorry Stassney, weddingbee woudln't allow me to put in anymore options other than the 15 that are there.
Me: 2 before hubs
Him: don't know but I never asked. He does know my count though and like stephbolt we talked about and had testing done before going further.
we were both virgins. We had both wanted it that way, and it was so worth waiting for.
Huh... I didn't realize my FI and I were so.. umm.. promiscuous...
We're both 10+ because there isn't a 10+, 20+.
I have been with 8 including my FI. I didn't even get started until I was 19, and I'm 23, lol. I went on a "slut-spree" for a minute there!
My FI has been with 5 including me.
@Mermaid1082 RE: the had fun being single after college thing - ME TOO girl... Me. Too. 
FI and I both had our fun being single during college---it was after that we started seeing eachother exclusively.
@puggy I know :X I agree!
Me 8 (including FH)
FH 8 (including me)...as you can see, this works out well! haha
Annnnd I honestly just blushed and covered my face as if you all could see me! hahaha ohhh personal :) :X
@Lees - my thoughts exactly, i think this is probably one of the most personal threads i've seen! ;O
@Stassney - i am right there with you girl. i would be the me = 1-5 so = 20+ option.
he was a frat boy is my explanation? LOLs. at least he was safe, clean, n no babies! :)
i used to be CRAZY about wanting to know every detail of the 5 girls that my ex had been with... UBER JEALOUS. but, with FI - it's different. yes i've had my weak moments where i probe and wonder... but for the most part, it's the man and how he treats you... if you're secure in that; then the past is past and it should have no impact on your relationship :)
Wow, it's so nice to see a lot of you were each other's first or have very low numbers!
Believe it or not, we actually don't know each others number. I don't want to know his and he doesn't want to know mine. Getting together in our late 20's leaves a lot more time for the number to go up. I just don't see any advantage to knowing as we both don't have any diseases.
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