How many showed/rsvp'd vs. how many invited?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We have 122 adults and 2 kids out of 165 guests.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

we invited 234, 150 RSVP yes (we invited a lot of out-of-towners knowing they would say no), 146 showed (3 people said they were sick, 1 left after the ceremony due to a family thing)

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We invited 120, 106 RSVPed yes, and 104 showed.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would be careful looking at ratios like that 60% number. You’re keeping your number relatively small… they’re likely the people that are most important to you and therefore are most likely to make sure they’re there.

I know this is a little more drastic, but we’re inviting 15 peole and we know those 15 people would move mountains to be there… we’re going to have 100% of our rsvps be YES! 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

We invited 104 and 72 have RSVPed yes.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@soon2beesmith671:  I would probably agree with that 60% for 300 people weddings, but I think from memory of other bees those with around 100 had about 80-90% show, and those with under 100 usually have 90% or more people show, because you’re only inviting those closest to you.

We are inviting 70, and we know at least 65 of them will be there no matter what. The other 5 are people who can’t control whether or not they come!

Post # 10
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Worker bee

@FutureMrsHallam:  We invited 186. Planned on around 130 for our 140 max venue. We were at 150 when we had a couple people who couldn’t come due yo health issues. I would guess with a smaller list you are inviting closest friends and family so you will have a higher % of yeses. I would do things a bit differently if I had a do over!! This has been the most stressful part of all the planning. We are now at 142 with 4 outstanding response cards and due date passed. Any more yeses and we will have to tell the 5 people who are bringing an uninvited guest that they cant. If they get mad so be it!!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We invited about 150, and ended up guaranteeing with the caterer for 115 after we had received the RSVP’s, however, I think we had just about 100 guests who actually showed up. 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Invited 102, 85 attended/RSVPd yes. We knew from the get-go that that would be the case, though, since those 17 people were from out of state/out of the country.

Post # 13
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Worker bee

That is really going to annoy me if people RSVP and then don’t show after we have paid for them. I have always noticed the sad escort cards left on the table. Now I realize someone PAID for those cards!!! SO RUDE!!!!!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it’s better for you to think about your friends, family and how likely they are to show up instead of averages.

We had a ton of out of towners since DH and I are both expats, a lot of our invitees were from out of the country. We invited 180 (about 30 of those included kids.)

Our math would have been pretty bang-on if it weren’t for those two. We went through our guest list and assigned a value of high/medium/low probability of them showing. So if they were highly likely to attend we assigned them a 90% probability of showing, 50% for those who were in the middle and 10% for low likihood.  Our prediction was for 103 guests to show including kids and the week before, we had 102 RSVP’d.

We ended up with exactly 100 including kids (which is what we wanted) with 2 people dropping out the week of for a work obligation/breakup.  But they gave us notice on the day we had to tell our venue so technically no one was a ‘no show.’

 

 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

we invited 182 (including 7 kids who were in bridal party) and 148 showed. i had 3last minute (week of wedding)  rsvp changes but luckily we were able to change our # . i had one aunt come down with shingles the day of so she sent a cousin in her place (which was totally fine bc we ended up inviting all the older aunts with an unmarried daughter as ‘guest’ so I was able to.have both cousins instead)

 

we had a 81.3% acceptance rate

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@soon2beesmith671:  we invited 210 people and 165 showed. People and catering halls will tell you there is always a 10-15% range of people that will say NO. So it was about right for us

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