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posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How many times a week are you getting busy??
    0 (we're waiting) (we're tired) (we're bored) : (24 votes)
    10 %
    1-2 : (102 votes)
    43 %
    3-4 : (79 votes)
    33 %
    5-7 : (27 votes)
    11 %
    7+ : (5 votes)
    2 %
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    waitingbee    September 4, 2010   California

    We used to have sex 12 times a week when we first started dating. Now 5 years later not so much. How many times a week are you getting busy??

     
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    MsMamaBear    June 2012   Atlanta

    Only 3 to 4 but we don't live together.lol If we did, it'd be more!Wink

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    We don't live together so maybe 3-4 on weekends..when the kiddos aren't around!  It's kinda hard to swing that with an inquisitive 11 yo son.

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    LDR = no physical contact. booo hooo hooo....

    But, aside from that, we are going to try to wait when we do get to spend time together.

     
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    gingerkid4god    June 12, 2010   West Virginia

    we only do once or twice because I only get to see him on the weekends.

     
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    Akennedy01    September 24, 2011   KY

    It was about 6 a week, sometimes more up until two weeks ago. I got sick and then midterm week hit and he's been super busy at work. So the past two weeks it's been like 3 or 4. :(

     
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    EAQ219    May 22, 2010   Bethesda, MD

    When we first starting having sex (about 2 months into our relationship) we were having it A LOT. Like, a lot a lot. That definitely dwindled over time and also due to the fact that we were long distance for over 2 years. Now we live together and probably have sex 3-4 times per week. Sometimes if I'm not feeling it I'll um...how do I say this nicely? I make HIM happy and then go to sleep. He doesn't seem to mind and I get my beauty rest! I think he'd like to do it more, but my drive is just not the same as his.

     
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    HoneyBear    March 17, 2012   Texas/ Isla Mujeres

    @EAQ- I totally do that too! lol its win/win really

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    @eaq/honeybear- me too haha. I think that my guy would want to have sex at least twice a day, every day, if i was willing. (I'm not) heh

     
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    KT_Williams    July 3, 2010   Washington

    Wow, make me feel bad. I dont know whats wrong with me then. I mean, FI and I been together going on 3 years. Lived together for over 1.5 Like 1-2 times a week? Is that bad? LOL everyone elses #'s seem uh....higher. I feel like I am depriving my FI now! LOL. Well he gets back from deployement this weekend so it will be a little higher then that! Ha-ha!

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    we  have spurts... usually it's like 3-5 or 5-7 depending on the week... sigh... <3 him...

     
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    JoesWifey    May 24, 2009   NYC/Wedding in Indiana

    we're at 1-2 times a week if we're lucky... two nights a week are automatically out because his sister is home (even though she's not in the same room, so I don't really get it), other times one person is just too tired or something. i wish it was more often, but, what can you do.

     
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    Shaema    May 22, 2010  

    We make a strong attempt at being 'together' at least once a day but try for twice if we can sneak away from my little one.  We've been together for two years so it was more often at the start but there are only 24 hours in a day ;-)

     
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    northernazbride    August 1, 2009   Arizona

    I feel so bad for my husband because since becoming pregnant a few months ago my libido has completely disappeared... so I'd say maybe once a week. Luckily he's pretty understanding. I hope to get my mojo back one of these days.

     
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    slicey19      

    When we first moved in together he was a student and I was unemployed then working part time and we were easily at once a day. Now, after living together for 3 years and both working full time, we're down to 1-2 times per week. It's not that we don't want to more but we get home around 6:30, cook/eat, watch 1-2 shows on TV and then go to bed, 3 out of the 5 days per week one of us does not get home until 8:30 due to sports or my language class so we just don't have time. Some one please tell me how you fit in even 3-4 times per week?

     
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    Jelly_Bean25    11-21-2009   Orlando, FL

    We are aware that this number could go down, and with the wedding planning, it has already.  But we do try for the goal of everyday.  Hahahahaha.

     
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    lolaj       Queens, NY

    OMG! You bees are HILARIOUS!!

    In the beginning we were gettin' busy like 3 times a day but thats becasue we only saw eachother on the weekends.

    Now that we live together it's like 3-4 times a week! I know, so sad....

    But I guess life gets in the way. If I am not into it I will also make him happy.

    My new years resolution is to get busy more often! LOL

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    We never really got that joyful "honeymoon" period because we were 17 and living in our parents' houses! We have sex maybe 3-4x a week on average, mostly because we're both so busy and exhausted that half the time we end up giving each other massages and falling asleep, lol. 

     
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    pmerr    August 14, 2010   Rochester, NY

    0---we're waiting for another 284 days ;)

     
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    eeniebeans    October 9, 2010   Baltimore

    3-4 times a week.  Every other day or so?

     
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    Stassney    March 11, 2012   Austin, Tx

    I voted 5-7, but seeing as how it's only Tuesday and we've already 'gotten busy' 5 times this week, I want to re-vote.. lol

    /blush

     
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    elizabeth.blankenhorn    May 22, 2010  

    I'd say about 1/ week. In college it was up around 3x/night, but these days that's just not possible - we both work looooong weeks and have one kiddo in the house so... 

     
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    mountain.bride    December 12, 2009   Australia

    We were like 9-10 times a week at first, for a couple of years, but down to 3-4 now (nearly 7 years later). 5 or 6 on a good week, 2 on a bad :) We both really miss it if it's been more than a day or so, and it just requires making the effort. Going to bed just a bit earlier, sending some cute emails or messages during the day to get the mood going. For years we had Sunday afternoon blocked out purely for naked fun. We don't get there every Sunday anymore but we do try to occasionally take a couple of hours on the weekend to indulge. Makes a nice change from the usual night time rituals.

     
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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    It use to be alot more until we started living together i voted 3-4... honestly every kiss with my man sends that fuzzy feeling through my body and  it would be much more but my man is a fireman and when he goes to work 3 days a week he is gone for 24 hrs so lol but honestly we have alot more intimate moments than that... we grope carress fondle & still make out several times a day day we just dont always have time or the convience of getting it on

     
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    futuredrbraun    May 15, 2010  

    0 - we are waiting and it is tough, but really worth it :) Less than 200 days......

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    When I was with him for a month straight... it was every day a few times a day. ONLY because we're LD & we had to get a years quota into that month lol.

    When we move in together, I think we're looking at a more realistic 3-4 times a week. :)

     
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    Jaxx317    July 17, 2011   Brooklyn, NY/wedding in the Hudson Valley

    on average it's 3...i would sometimes like it to be more, but we're often so tired at the end of the day that it's hard to make time. we can also be on different libido levels - sometimes i want it more than him and vice versa.

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    We used to be everyday when we were first together but now it is about 3-5 a modest, realistic amount :) I wish it was  more!! ;)

     
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    Beav1279    December 27, 2009   Austin, TX

    only 1-2 for me and my FI, but if we lived together it would be 3-4... I can't wait till Dec :)

     
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    SuperKate    May 28, 2011   Missouri / Playa del Carmen, Mexico

    We're at about 3 times per week. We both work long hours so a lot of the time we just want to relax after work. 

    Interestingly enough I think our number dropped when we moved in together. I think you make more of an effort when you don't live together but when you do, you figure we could always do it tomorrow. 

     
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    limbobride       Midwest

    0 and i hate it.  we used to get busy all the time but things have happened and we have some extenuating medical circumstances (FI is paralyzed) so it's tough, but on top of stress from both our work and a lot of loss ours has dwindled down to practically nothing and its hard to talk to him about it because then it makes him feel bad because he "can't".  it's a whole big mess, prolly better suited for another post

    Frown

     
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    Cole B    October 16, 2010   Northern Indiana

    For the first year we dated we did it about 10-11 times a week but then when we moved in together it dropped to about 1-5 times. My period is really messed up so that is a big time hinderance a lot of times. My FI has to get up super early for work so most of the time when he gets in bed its because he wants to sleep.

     
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    3M    June 5, 2010   Mt. Morris

    not enough ;)

     
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    whitesonnet    June 26, 2010   Detroit, MI

    I want to stand up for the 1-2 a week ladies. At this point, the numbers are even for the 1-2 and 3-4 votes. Life is busy. Yes you need to make an effort to be together, but FI and I have a relationship that goes beyond just having sex. 1-2 times a week is fine for us and there is nothing wrong with it. I just think the 1-2 ladies aren't speaking up as much as the ladies with the big libidos.

    I think if we were having sex more than 5 times a week, like some of the bees are boasting, our dogs wouldn't get walked, dishes wouldn't get done, we'd never see our friends or family and we'd kill each other because we need our personal space as much as we need each other. I think the only time we'd be able to have sex more than 5 times a week is on our honeymoon and once we are trying to get pregnant.

    Don't let this post sway you. If you and your FI are comfortable with your relationship, that's all that matters. The important part is to talk about it with your partner/FI so that everyone is confident and on the same page.

     
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    Rosie Girl    September 18, 2010   Montana

    probably 5-7 for us! We used to more, but we have been so busy and sick lately! and there is a 2-year-old that has been staying up WAY too late lately! :)

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Sex is 1-2 a week for us but we fool around maybe 3-4 a week. Um, sex is messy, and I have to get up to go to work at 530 am. When I crash at 1030pm, already showered and clean, the LAST thing we're doing is that! Man, if we did it 4+ times a week, it'd either be forced or things like dishes wouldn't get done.

     
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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    5-7 for the most part, but lately it has been more. :p

     
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    sarahsd    August 14, 2010   San Diego

    Wow...you are all some busy bees!  I'll speak out for all the people not having as much sex...we are closer to 2-3 times a month.  Gasp!  We both want to do it more often and everytime is very good, we just haven't figured it all out.  I think the trick is not doing it at bed time.  Background: been together almost 4 years, live together...  I guess we better do it tonight! ;)

     
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    redhead87    July 2, 2011   Rochester, NY

    Ah when we first were together it was like 5-10 times a week, now that it's been a couple of years and we live together it's more like 1-2.  It's hard because he usually works 60+ hours a week and I'm in school and work multiple jobs.  When I'm in school I'm usually up until 1-2am doing work and by that point he's been in bed for 4 hours.  *sighs* there needs to be more hours in a day!

     
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    esrockhold    November 5, 2010   Seattle

    I agree...we stay up too late getting caught up in things and next thing we know it's 11! At that point we often don't try because we both get pretty discouraged when it doesn't...work out.

    In the beginning though it was way more often. Making out too, I miss it! We're very much into PDA's and we are always touching in some way and we kiss ALL day long but it just takes so much energy that I never seem to have at the end of the day to have sex. Honestly looking forward to the honeymoon as a way to do it more.

     

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