(Closed) How many times is too many times?

posted 5 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@wowweddings20000:  I know someone who is doing it for the 4th time. Go for it, yeah people will say things but in the end, do whatever you want, it is your decision.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@wowweddings20000:  I have a friend who was married 5 years this past October and they did a renewal in New York, just the 2 of them and a photographer.  They’re planning on renewing every 5 years at a different city.  Nothing fancy, just them, renewing their promises to each other.  They are expecting their first child in August, so I imagine moving forward the children will be invoved too.  I think you can renew as often as you like.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I told DH that if we won the lottery, I wouldn’t buy a bigger house or a fancier car…nope…I woould have a wedding every year!! Big, small, desination, theme wedding. You name it, we would have it!!

I say go for it!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Personally I think it’s a bit much but I’d talk to your husband and see what he thinks about it.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It depends on whether you expect a group to attend or it’s just the two of you.  If it’s just the two of you – then it’s whenever your husband puts his foot down.  Since you think he will, may I ask why you want to do it again, after having just done it only a few years prior (for the 2nd time)?  Maybe think about what is driving you.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@wowweddings20000:  I think it’d be nice if it’s just the two of you, but other people may find it to be a bit much.  My FI and I are planning on renewing our vows every few years, but we will be doing it just for us to have some good quality time together.  I think as long as your man thinks it’s ok, you should go for it.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I agree with others that have said if it’s just you two, then do it as much as you like. Other people probably won’t want to attend lots of vow renewals. I know one woman who has had a vow renewal nearly every year since she got married 5 years ago. Every time, she sends out invitations and expects people to come. Hardly anyone ever shows. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You should do it. 50 is a big year, and 30 years of marriage is definitely something to celebrate. When you bring it up to him, just don’t try to propose any big expensive affair. I think just the two of you and maybe some of the people closest to you would be a good idea. Generally I see nothing wrong with celebrating even small occasions, and it always surprises me when people look down on an occasion to eat, drink, and celebrate something with loved ones. Just don’t register or expect any gifts! 

 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m with the PPs! As long as it’s the two of you, as much as you want!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I personally think a vow renewal on the scale of some people’s weddings is excessive, but if you want to have a celebration, an “anniversary trip” in a way, with close family and friends, and aren’t requiring gifts or anything and aren’t going all out with a ball gown and favors, etc, I’m all for it! Vow renewals to me are really personal, and shouldn’t be a BIG party… if you want a party, throw an anniversary party 🙂 But what I think you have in mind is really great, and 30 years is inspirational!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

If I remember correctly, Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon had a vow renewal on every anniversary. I know celebrities are different, but worth mentioning I thought.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@wowweddings20000:  So, based on the wanting to share the celebration… I have a few thoughts.  First, your 50th is really only a one-day celebration and will be over in a blink, so I’m not sure how much sharing is needed for it.  Second, if you want to make him feel special – why not plan something HE wants?  It sounds like he’d do this for you, but it’s really something you want more than it’s for him.  Figure that out, whether it’s taking him to a bunch of sporting events or on a cruise.  Anyhow, I feel that he can have happy days and lots of attention, without requiring a vow renewal – you can give that to him yourself.

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