Post # 1
Besides your own wedding, how many weddings have you been in? I’ve been in one – my sisters as a bridesmaid. If I want to stretch it, I was also in an Indian friend’s wedding (except that they don’t have that concept so she gave us matching saris of different colors to those who flew out there, me and the wives of two grad friends, and had us follow behind her as she was carried in).
DH was just asked to be in another wedding. That’ll make 7 or 8 (he can’t recall if he rented a tux for one wedding due to formality, if he was “on call” or actually in the party). I think that’s a little crazy, but then again, another friend has been in 14 weddings. And yes, the dresses look a bit like “27 Dresses”
In wedding = part of wedding party, not doing a reading
Post # 3
I AM interested to see the results of this, I feel like everyone I know has been a BM 5 times. I’ve only done it once, and I didn’t even realize how special it was to be asked…I’m dying to stand with one of my other friends and get to help with all(some) of the wedding prep/parties etc
Post # 4
@kay01: 4 times, jr bm once and MOH 3 times :).
Post # 5
Well over 20, but I’m older and I had a very large group of female friends when a storm of weddings went threw in just a few years. I have decided that should I be asked again, the answer will just be thanks but no thanks. I’ll help out, but I am never wearing another BM dress again. Not ever.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I was a flower girl in my aunt’s wedding at age 4. Then was supposed to be in my uncle’s wedding at age 8 but they eloped. They still let me wear my dress to a small at home reception they had where we all took photos together dressed up. Then my best friend got married in Vegas and when she has a reception back in her home town I was technically MOH but I didn’t have any traditional MOH duties. Then most recently I was MOH in another friends more traditional wedding which is probably my most typical experience and most memorable.
Post # 7
I’ll be MOH in my BFF’s wedding next May, I’ve been a BM once before, and I don’t know if it counts, but I sang in my brother’s wedding and was sat with the wedding party at the reception (they didn’t do Jr. BM’s and I was 14).
Post # 8
I’ve been in 5!!! MOH in 3 of them!
Post # 9
I voted 3 then realized it was 4! oops haha
Post # 10
I have been in 4.
I have worn peach, yellow and gold…one I can’t remember because I was little.
Post # 11
I’ve been in 4 and was MOH every time 🙂
Post # 12
Jr. Bridesmaid in my sister’s. – green, lacy, awful, pouffy dress
Bridesmaid in my sister’s. – pretty peach satin a-line
Bridesmaid in my best friend’s. – satin royal blue sleeveless empire
MOH in my SO’s sister’s. – black, knee-length wrap dress with a sweetheart neckline
Post # 13
I’ve been in 4, but all of them were before high school. Two flower girls and two junior bridesmaids. I wore white as a flower girl both times (I was 3 in one and 5 or 6 in the other I think) and then navy blue for the first JrBM (I was 11) and pale pink for the other (I was 13).
Post # 14
LOL I am an only child and I don’t have many friends that are currently single or I knew when she was single, so I’m at zero! I also opted to have no BP at my wedding, so it’s not like I’m going to get into a tit-for-tat situation.
DH’s sister is in a relationship but it will be a while before she gets married and she has a ton of close friends she calls her sister. As such, I don’t expect to be asked, unless out of obligation. This is totally fine with me.
DH’s BFF is engaged and she has said she wants me as a BM. If they do end up getting married (they’ve been engaged for ages), I’m sure she will ask me for sure, but again, if not, that’s totally okay with me too.
I feel like I’m one of the few women that actually don’t want to be a BM. I have no doubts that I’ll do a good job because I love to plan events and do execute them well, but I’m just not into the whole girl bonding sister thing.
Post # 15
I have actually managed to skate by in life without ever having to do this…I was the MOH in my sister’s wedding, however Mr. 99 who was also the Best Man, uncermoniously stepped down and out of their lives after a terribly awkward situation arose where they took advantage of our generosity and simultaneously pissed us off to no end….
Please note that I have however married four couples, written the ceremonies and vows for all of them and planned one of them from start to finish….
Post # 16
I get sad about this sometimes because I’ve never been in a wedding and I feel like everyone I know has been a BM multiple times. (and I’m 30…most of my close friends are already married, the couple who are left, I doubt I’ll be a BM – I’m the ‘fringe friend’ the person who’s good friends with lots of people but not really anyones BFF).