Post # 1
I’m trying to decide what my “please respond by XXXX” date should be on my RSVP cards. Right now it’s three weeks before the wedding (my wedding is 3/8 so I’ve asked them to respond by 2/15). Today someone told me I should really leave a month in between, but that mean the RSVP date will be only 5 weeks after I send the invites.
What are you thoughts on this? Does it really even matter? I know people aren’t going to respond anyway, and I thought 3 weeks was enough time to call people and get the final numbers, but am I cutting myself too short?
Post # 3
@leahthehun: When does your caterer/venue contract your count by? I think mine needs 15 days (with a bit of wiggle room in case any true last minute people come knocking), so I’m going just a litte over 4 weeks because I KNOW my people will RSVP for about a week past the date.
Post # 4
@leahthehun: I just ordered my invites and put down the RSVP date for a month before the wedding so I have time to hunt down people that don’t RSVP lol
Post # 5
@leahthehun: I think I left about 3.5 weeks. That gave us enough time to track down the people who didn’t respond, do the seating chart, etc and not feel rushed given everything else that has to be done in the weeks leading up to the day.
I definitely recommend following up with people you don’t hear from. Most of our non-responders were “no’s,” but there were a few who did RSVP yes and their cards got lost in the mail. Had we not followed up with them, there literally would not have been a place for them to sit at the reception.
Post # 6
Both my caterer and cake baker require final numbers 30 days. So we will probably do 45 days
Post # 7
I made mine 3 weeks before the wedding and 1 week before the venue/caterer needs the number.
Post # 8
We had to have final numbers to the caterer 3 weeks before our wedding, and set the RSVP date 4 or 5 weeks before!
Post # 9
@leahthehun: We plan on mailing ours out Dec. 7th with an RSVP date of Feb. 1st so that we have a week until our hotel block expires (on feb 8th) and we can remind people of that when we call if they havent RSVPed. Ideally we would probably do one or two weeks later in December to send them but my FI cousin is having a Christmas wedding so we didnt want to send them right before her wedding.
Post # 10
Our RSVP date was Sept. 6th and our wedding was Oct. 5th.
Post # 11
I left one week between final numbers required by the Caters and the RSVP due date. This way I can chase those that have yet to reply. 🙂
Post # 12
@excitedtobeMRSF: Thanks for this. We were going to wait until the beginning on January to send out the invites so that they didn’t get lost in all the holiday cards, but I’m thinking that sending them out in the beginning of December might be better. I’d like to give people more than 4-5 weeks to RSVP, while still giving myself enough time to contact people who haven’t RSVP’d and to get my final counts.
Post # 13
@leahthehun: I responded with “more than 4” but only because of my deadlines on getting final guest counts and reception layouts to the venue and caterer. I wanted a week or so in between the RSVP deadline and the caterer/venue deadlines so I could follow up with people if I needed to.
Post # 14
@leahthehun: I made my deadline 2 months before my actual wedding. This way I had plenty of time to do seating charts, get my numbers to my venue, etc. Since 90% of my guests had to travel & book hotel rooms, the early RSVP wasn’t a problem.